if my memory serves me correctly in the referendum concerning joining the EU the question was simple "Are you for Poland joining the EU"
That's because the referendum was about a simple matter - about deciding to join or not to join the EU. Making law is more complicated than that and that's why questions concerning that have to be more specific.
so you are among those few women who are for the equalising of the retirement age?
You're deflecting :) This is not about what one Lenka is in favour of - she explained it to you why referendum questions should be more specific
in such case.