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Polish girls and traditions (esp. between mother in laws and daughter in laws)


sylwianowik
13 Mar 2011 #31
Everyone has nightmares

not polish!!!!!!!!!!!!

Neharika.

write much more :))))))) i love to read it all when i come!!!!!! :o) PERFECT :o) *roses* :*
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
14 Mar 2011 #32
It is very nice Neharika. All the best to you and your family, as you can see the Poles are warm hearted people, and be sure that she will be loving to you all, and you should be the same to her so that you all can enjoy a happy life with each other. Your grandson is very much Polish with Indian heritage, and I am sure he will carry his name well together with your family respect or the cultural things you have :)!

I see this thread incredibly peaceful and surprisingly populated with us Poles more than any other ... ofcourse anyone with something good to say will be here, and Poles love to dwell and celebrate goodness :)! Visible clean atmosphere. On topic! Cheers!!! :) ... !!

Waiting to read more ofcourse Neharika :) ... keep us updated, will come to see what happened after 2 month :) ...
OP Neharika 1 | 9
15 Mar 2011 #33
Hello,

Your wishes are welcome, thank you everyone. It is a beautiful way you have.

Surely will write in a couple of months. I only have good experiences, with my daughter (daughter in law) preparing some Polish delicacies along with some Indian ones with me for the family. A cheerful girl full of life, with great maturity and respect.

I had to write here after I checked and saw some of the most beautiful responses.

Smiles,

Neharika.
sylwianowik
16 Mar 2011 #34
tell more ;o) :o)))))))) which food u made? i can make some too :o) write more OK? :o)
Albanaich 2 | 31
23 Mar 2011 #35
You realise that touching the feet in that way would be considered degrading (for both people) in most Western Cultures. . . . . . .don't confuse what is being done to gain your acceptance with what a person understands to be their own cultural values.
alexw68
23 Mar 2011 #36
You realise that touching the feet in that way would be considered degrading (for both people) in most Western Cultures.

Rubbish. A little confusing perhaps.

Islamic culture, yes - Jewish, possibly: Jesus washing the disciples' feet is powerful for precisely that reason.
JonnyM 11 | 2,615
23 Mar 2011 #37
don't confuse what is being done to gain your acceptance with what a person understands to be their own cultural values.

And don't assume someone is so bound by 'cultural values' that they can't step outside them.
Calabrien - | 20
23 Mar 2011 #38
And don't assume someone is so bound by 'cultural values' that they can't step outside them.

Exactly. She did it out of respect for a women who had given birth to her beloved one.

I also want to hear more about this visit :) And what about your grandson? I bet he charmed all members of the family XD What exactly is his name?

Good luck! I wish you all the best.
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
24 Mar 2011 #39
don't confuse what is being done to gain your acceptance with what a person understands to be their own cultural values.

And you don't confuse yourself to be the master of intelligence on relationships. I think this shows how good the upbringing of this Polish girl is ... I am very impressed and proud of her.

Polish girls from good upbringing have a great appreciation for family and values. They surely know how to handle it, as they really dream for it.
OP Neharika 1 | 9
7 Jun 2011 #40
Dear friends,

Thank you for your wonderful messages. I am really glad I came here to ask this question. I never had any idea about Poland before, but only that it was a post-communist East European country. Although due to time constraints I am unable to look all over the forum, but I am sure I will learn more about this beautiful land in time.

I must say that my daughter in law (a Polish) really did exceed all my expectations in being a wonderful successor. She is a very kind lady with good tastes, respect and intelligence, with the critical willingness to understand her new relations.

I kept the spices down as you all recommended, but it did turn out that she was not unaware of Indian food herself. I did enjoy some Polish delicacies prepared by her, and in all us both had things to learn from each other.

The way she handled our relatives was very beautiful. The courtesy and cultural intelligence often needs to be taught, but she displayed an innate sense of adaptability which is beyond what one could ask. Not once in these wonderful couple of months had we one moment of discomfort.

My grandson is in good hands, of course her being the mother but he is also the symbol of our entire lineage, a very important child. She made me feel proud of my son to have selected a wife as her in a foreign land so far from us.

She is a devout Catholic, and we have mutual respect for our beliefs. I love the way she explains her faith, which is not really anything too strict but based on the love for Christ and everything good. Her respect for Krishna, Ram and overall humanity really touched us deeply.

I must say that my grandson is a very handsome boy with genes from two very remarkable lands, having great histories and culture. A very intelligent boy, and at this age what else can be more special to us but to see our grandchild’s twinkling eyes, to play with him, hand over the name with blessings along with all that he is a heir of.

For the moment I can only see your country through my daughter in law, and all that I have witnessed is wonderful. It means a lot, as in our traditions the wife of the first born son is the successor of all the women of the dynasty. She is the heir of duties, pride, secrets and the heirlooms of her predecessors. These are not just simple matters or materials of monetary value, but in fact are the signs and blessings of a name though ages. This she passes on to a responsible hand once she is confirmed of it, when that time comes.

The best part is that now we are friends! Her sincerity to her marriage, her family is remarkable in this modern day and age. Her faith in me and her honesty which I can sense makes her a very desirable friend to me indeed. We have many things in common.

Yes, of course how can I miss this, she is a very beautiful young woman with the most beautiful smile I have seen in a very long time. God bless her and their family.

They could not extend their stay for my son’s business obligations, but I and my husband will be visiting Poland next year spring when I will meet her side of the family. Her warm invitation, rather the polite claim she expresses is nothing less than beautiful.

I can only thank the gods for this. It will be an understatement to say that my nerves have been settled in the happiest mode. I am a very relieved person at this moment, and I am sure so are all our ancestors.

Regards to you all,

Thank you,

Neharika.
Magdalena 3 | 1,837
7 Jun 2011 #41
Reading your post has made me very happy indeed. I wish there were more stories like yours taking place in the world. All the best to you and your family!
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
7 Jun 2011 #42
Thanks for the update Neharika.

Thank you for your wonderful messages.

I gotta say ... :D ... its been one of the best moderated threads so far.

I and my husband will be visiting Poland next year spring when I will meet her side of the family.

welcome...

I must say the way you described your daughter in law, it does seem like she is from a very respectable background. But even better, it seems she is a great girl and by being herself she really did uphold the grace of Poland. I'm quite proud of her ...

Lovely piece of writing ... :)
sylwianowik
10 Jun 2011 #43
:o) nice story :o) ::Like:: so when u come poland??? :-* come soon :o)))))))))) ok!! feel so nice thing to read :o)))))))))
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
27 Jan 2014 #44
heard nothing since ... hope things went well with you.
pawian 221 | 24,014
19 Mar 2020 #45
Yes, in Poland daughters-in-law should even call their in-laws mum and dad.


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