AlexL
6 Nov 2013 #1
All, i need your advice...
I was 2 years in a relationship with a polish girl in Poland. Everything was fine, she got pregnant, ee were happy, child has my name, everything was ok . However, I moved to live and work in Switzerland before making her pregnant. She refuses to come here. She wanted me to leave everything behind and move back to poland. However one person salary wouldn't be enough to support 3. Especially knowing that my daughter's mother came from a "gold nest" and she is used to have everything.
She now accuses my that i left her alone and that she has to take care of everything alone. Even if i go there often, i send her money and even if i always wanted and invited her to move to me (that was the initial plan that she agreed)
Because of this, she is now not allowing me to see my daughter. She wants me to send every month 2000zl, plus she demanded a nanny and other costs to be paid. When is say no, she claims" i dont love my daughter, otherwise i would send more money." Now that im gathering money to come back to Poland, she says i should stay here because in Poland i wouldnt afford to pay for all costs..
Plus, when i go to Poland, i cant enter the place my daughter lives (her parents house) and if i want to see my daughter, i have to book hotel, and pay for her taxi. Otherwise, she wont come to meet me.
During all these fights she confessed that she slept with other guy and she wrote several times that the only thing she wants from me now is money.
I'm the father, i love my daughter and im shocked about all this. I paid for everything, i try to go to Poland once a month but everyday she uses our daughter to emotionally black mail me. Like sending me photos of her crying when i say that i can't send more money.
What are my rights? Can i spend time alone with my daughter? Can her parents forbid me to enter their house, even if my daughter is living there? Sleeping in a furniture that i bought? Can she refuse me to take my daughter to see my parents in Portugal? Can she actually demand all this money from me knowing that we are single?
Should i go to court?
Help me guys...
I was 2 years in a relationship with a polish girl in Poland. Everything was fine, she got pregnant, ee were happy, child has my name, everything was ok . However, I moved to live and work in Switzerland before making her pregnant. She refuses to come here. She wanted me to leave everything behind and move back to poland. However one person salary wouldn't be enough to support 3. Especially knowing that my daughter's mother came from a "gold nest" and she is used to have everything.
She now accuses my that i left her alone and that she has to take care of everything alone. Even if i go there often, i send her money and even if i always wanted and invited her to move to me (that was the initial plan that she agreed)
Because of this, she is now not allowing me to see my daughter. She wants me to send every month 2000zl, plus she demanded a nanny and other costs to be paid. When is say no, she claims" i dont love my daughter, otherwise i would send more money." Now that im gathering money to come back to Poland, she says i should stay here because in Poland i wouldnt afford to pay for all costs..
Plus, when i go to Poland, i cant enter the place my daughter lives (her parents house) and if i want to see my daughter, i have to book hotel, and pay for her taxi. Otherwise, she wont come to meet me.
During all these fights she confessed that she slept with other guy and she wrote several times that the only thing she wants from me now is money.
I'm the father, i love my daughter and im shocked about all this. I paid for everything, i try to go to Poland once a month but everyday she uses our daughter to emotionally black mail me. Like sending me photos of her crying when i say that i can't send more money.
What are my rights? Can i spend time alone with my daughter? Can her parents forbid me to enter their house, even if my daughter is living there? Sleeping in a furniture that i bought? Can she refuse me to take my daughter to see my parents in Portugal? Can she actually demand all this money from me knowing that we are single?
Should i go to court?
Help me guys...