Love / My Polish Girlfriend Broke Up With Me Very Suddenly, Did She Use Me? [23]


Thanks buddy! It's actually been 5 months since the end of that dismal relationship and I can truly tell you now that I am finally happy and content (realised this on 4/20 funnily enough).Thing is she has some family members who are/have been alcoholics and when we were together she used to tell me that she's afraid she's going to become one too in the future so you may be right in assuming that she'll tie the knot with an alcoholic. Very glad I went through all that as it was a necessary learning experience. She completely broke me down as a man and I was less confident in myself at the end of that relationship than I was before I got with her. My confidence in myself currently feels like it's juuuust right. It actually feel like the break up was ages ago haha. Read your post before writing this and I just wanted to say good luck on your ldr. Thanks for the kind words and g'day mate :'D


I used to smoke occasionally before I met her (once every two months or so) and she didn't like it so I pretty much stopped it for her. Started smoking weed very regularly (minimum 5 times a week) around the end of January (2 months after breaking up) and good lord, it changed me as a man (for the better, I'm sure).

Love / My Polish Girlfriend Broke Up With Me Very Suddenly, Did She Use Me? [23]

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That definitely appears to be true, but I think I will take a pretty long hiatus in my quest for love as I'm not looking forward to getting my heart broken again. The happiest one can be is by themselves. Thank you for your insight.

Love / Will Polska likely have the women I am looking for? [12]

Are you serious? No such thing in this day an age mate, no women is pure (some may be but they are as rare as the rarest thing you can think of). They will all have had some sort of experience. There are girls in the US who haven't had any romantic interactions yet, there wont be many but surely more than in Poland simply due to the large population of the US. Keep on looking.

Love / Should I follow her? I met a beautiful Polish woman who has been working in the UK [62]

Britabroadmaybe, I think you and I fell for the same type of woman. I was dumped by my 20 year old polish girlfriend (I am 20 as well) because she saw no future in England, in other words, she saw no future with me. 2 months ago I was in denial, like you are now, thinking that it's just a little hurdle and that you and your girlfriend will jump it and subsequently land on greener pastures. That is not the case. Break up with this girl.

If she even remotely cared for you then she would have sat you down and she would have asked for your help. She did not do this, she is only thinking about her life and if she was truly in love with you then she would be thinking about both your lives.

The people who have replied to your post are pretty much the same people who replied to mine (you can read it if you wish, it is under the love category and was posted in December) and I can tell you that these wonderful people are realists, they won't tell you what you want to hear, they will however give you the true perspective of an outsider and try to help you.

Imagine you go to Poland and things don't work out with this girl, you'll be in a foreign country with absolutely no idea what's going on and you'll inevitably make your back to England and you'll be left with no job and no money. Is this risk really worth taking for a woman who talked about finding a new man right in front of you? Do not leave your great career behind for this girl, believe me it is not worth it. The fact that you are having doubts is enough, you know what your instincts and your gut are telling you. You'll be sad for a couple of months after breaking up but you'll quickly realise that you have made the right decision. Stay strong buddy.