When you say "thought", well there is you answer, but keep your chin up when the real deal turns up then wow!!!, you will find her.
I read somewhere that you can never find love, you can search all the nooks and crannies but you will never find it. It will always find you. I guess I will just have to go about living my life to the fullest and put myself out there and when the real deal turns up, I will know. Funny thing is, I was not expecting to meet my ex this summer, I just did so I assumed that she was the real deal. Apparently not. Thanks dolnoslask, take care :)
Atch - How about Phoenix, you know, rises from the ashes, and you will
That's good with me, and yes, time heals all wounds and I will rise once again :)
Atch - I know because employers told me a few times that they'd chosen the candidate because of her good looks, dress sense etc.
It's terrible how the world works isn't it? I found my ex to be very very pretty and my flatmate explained to me that beauty is not something one, especially me, should be after. He said that the type of girl that would meet my needs and treat me well is a girl with a 'bubbly' personality as I'm like that when I'm my normal self. And he is absolutely right, it's a matter of meeting the right person and initiating things from there.
Atch - Well she was probably happy at the time so she was being her best and sweetest self. Now, now, stop that, she was never perfect.
She was having issues with her boyfriend at the time but generally yes, I think she was happy then. I wonder what happened in November? Maybe the attraction from her side just wore off? Or maybe she found everything she was looking for ( a new job and a room) and decided to call it quits as she never felt anything for me in the first place. To be completely honest, I don't need to know the answer to that because I will not trust anything she has to say. They say love is blind, but that statement is rather false. If anything, infatuation/lust is blind.
Atch - without fluent Polish
When we were together I was actually thinking about taking professional classes so I could surprise her on Valentines Day or something haha.
Atch - Do not under any circumstances be tempted to meet up for a drink or anything like that, you know where it will lead.
I was thinking about messaging her something along the lines of "Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I hope you are doing well :)" around Christmas time but I quickly decided that that was a terrible idea. As bad as it sounds, I don't wish her a happy anything. I don't wish her anything bad but at the same time I don't wish her anything good. I don't wish her anything. I really don't give a toss anymore so why lie and send her that message?
I'm hoping that she WON'T message me a similar message because then I would be obliged to reply. I don't want any contact with her and I do not want to see her in the slightest. I just wish that I never bump into her ever again since she lives so close to me; a 4 minute drive. Whenever I go shopping or just out in the town, I try my best not to scan around because I really do not want to see her. Even if a girl with fair skin and red hair walks towards me or away from me I automatically assume it's her. I just can't take seeing her again. It's been nearly a month since we broke up and it just feels like yesterday. I'm doing better now but I'm no where near emotionally stable enough to see her. 1 week ago on a day when I was doing quite well, I accidentally saw a picture of her on Instagram for like 10 seconds where she was looking rather cheerful and pretty and that just put me down in the dumps for a rather long time. Needless to say, I didn't go back to look at that picture and when I calmed down the next day, I immediately unfollowed her before I got a chance to look at that picture again. During the first week I was constantly going back to her FB page (where we are no longer friends) and Instagram to see if she has posted anything but after the second week I didn't feel the urge to look at her face again. But yes, I have no intention of meeting up with her ever again and I just don't want to hear from her or see her as it would hinder my process of moving on.
Atch - That's actually made more of a man of you than the sex part, that's just a form of aerobics really isn't it?
Going through the pain and hardship of getting dumped by your first has made me more of a man than losing my virginity? I would like to hope so. Life is beautiful and it has taught me a great lesson which I'm sure will be useful in the future.
Thank you, Atch. God bless you :)
mafketis - Polish women often separate their emotions from their tactics.
You make them sound like machines with no emotion, and from what I've experienced, it seems rather true!
mafketis - Foreign guys usually never see this coming.
I did not, in the slightest, see it coming. If anything I thought I would be the one breaking things off later down the line if she still continued to act the way she did. And aye aye captain, I shall stay frosty! Thanks for your input and take care :)
nothanks - But the rest of us usually have our fun and then return to what is more comfortable.
To be completely honest and much to the misery of my parents, I would like to settle down and build a future with a girl of a different race. No one knows whats going to happen tomorrow (for all I know I could settle down with a Colombian girl) and my recent experience has taught me exactly that but I guess it's just what I like.
My friends actually ask me why I don't go after girls of my own race as they look more 'exotic'. The thing is I've been raised here so technically speaking, a girl from my birth country should seem more exotic to me but I really don't care about it. What can I say, I guess I like my polish women.
Thanks for your input buddy, all the best :)
terri - If a relationship is rocky from the beginning it will NEVER be o.k. Ever.
As Atch very rightly said, I was incredibly starry eyed when I entered into a relationship with my ex. I had the mindset that we could overcome any difficulties and be together forever. In hindsight, if that relationship was to continue for a longer period of time, I would have grown to absolutely despise her and she would have definitely cheated (physically this time!) if she couldn't bring herself to break up with me. What has happened is without doubt for the best, and my mother definitely agrees with that statement! After I told her about how I was treated she said that she felt anger towards me as she couldn't believe I would let a girl walk all over me like that. Of course I feel like crap a lot but then I just have to come here and read all the replies from all you lovely people again and again :)
Thank you for your reply terri, take care :)