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Prevention of child abduction by Polish mother. [232]
Polishmamma
Everyone who has spoken to my ex partner as stated that it sounds as thought she is just after money, even people I would not expect this comment from at all!
I think your comment about a man's relationship to a child being fundamentally different has been turned on It's head by those fathers who stay at home to look after children. Sweeping generalisation no longer appear to work in the 21st century, old norms and conventions are being broken daily!
Your comment about 'our child' is sexist out of date and such an insult to be beyond contempt. If I was to make such a sweeping generalisation in reverse I am sure you would be up in arms. A child needs whoever feeds them, changes them, cares for them and loves them. Be they male or female, a baby does not only have to be breast fed and doesn't remember the nine months it spent in the womb. An example might be that of nannies who are treated by some children as their real mother, when their birth mother is a complete stranger to the child. Or a mother who rejects a child due to postnatal depression, and there are other such numerous examples, such as a child rejected by both parents and brought up by a grandparent. I'm sorry your argument holds as much water as a sieve.
It doesn't sound selfish it just sounds sexist, so don't worry about that! A child bonds with whom ever looks after it, so the connection is purely on the mother's side not the child's and this maybe where some women get the idea that their child was the result of the immaculate conception! Another purely sexiest comment about a man viewing a child as a commodity. How dare you even say that to me! You don't know me and I have posted in this forum to get advice on trying to be a proper responsible father and have to be confronted with this remark. Maybe if you knew my ex you might understand a bit better. However, I suspect your obviously dogmatic view precludes you from viewing anything upon an objective basis!
As for the next paragraph your rant against men please take the axe that you apparently have to grind elsewhere!
I am here on this forum to help my child have a good happy childhood and help them grow up to be a fully rounded individual. I repeat I am not here to hurt, upset, be cruel or in any other way be nasty to my ex-partner! This has clearly not come across, so yet again I find I have to repeat myself!!!
Sorry, but please take your sexist dogma elsewhere. I've always appreciated constructive comments, but I find your insulting!
Good luck than, man, in this endevour and let's just hope that the kid comes out of this with his/her psyche intact. I suppose it is possibly better to have two loving parents fighting over one then none at all, but still not as good as two loving parents working in concert. I hope you guys manage to come to an amiable solution.
Escar
I don't really think you have grasped the situation at all 'two loving parents working in concert'! I have been reasonable and tried every avenue to work in concert in this, and have my child's best interests at heart, where as my ex it would it appears would like to deny the child a loving father. Therefore, sometimes you have to get the courts involved so that they can decide what is best for the child and not just the mother who exacts in a selfish manner! As for the child's psyche if I do nothing then it will be damaged by feeling that their father does not or didn't care about them. You can also I should add damage a child's psyche by not giving them boundaries, treating them as adults when they are clearly not and in a thousand other ways! It is necessary in life to take a stand, and yes question that you are still doing the right thing from time to time. It is only those who are arrogant enough not to have any self doubt that concern me!
