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How real is your international (Polish-other) relationship ? [53]
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what do you find difficult?
Some of people I know were in "Polish-other" relationships.
Many western man are more "reserved" and well-mannered. They treat woman with respect. They ask for taking her hand instead of Polish common "no daj łapę".
Some polish guys are "simple": "die your hair bacause you look awful", "I can't look at you in this white jacket"
They look at details like tips or ugly died hair in strange colour and then criticise. Some of them notice ugliness or just her "shape": "ale szprycha" in the contrary to many foreigners who notice beauty and who can (have a
skill) to look also at their faces.
I sometimes think that not many Polish guys look at womens' faces, even if they do it they are not very good at it. Not everybody of course. I think that not every of them treat woman with respect.
So, what do you I find difficult? First thing is respect. Many western guys win at start with Polish jerks just saying: "Would you mind if I called you?" instead of "Dasz numer maleńka? "Second thing is mentality, I mean especially a part of it called "independence". Polish women are upbringing in an "cliche": ", you are "for" marriage and for "having children" and "for" being a good wife, what in fact means "you should deserve for a man to become his and your kids' servant". I think that many Polish women are submissive and even don't realise it.
Converting from being "typical" Polish woman into self-sufficient woman who realise her dreams and passions might be difficult. Facing with independence, reach and full of adventure life and other priorities than family and devoting often all effort to family life is difficult.
So, to sum up: mentality and values.
