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Last Post: 30 Oct 2024
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Paulina   
2 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

We can assume that she is doing something wrong if he is looking at younger women with such longing.

Nonsense. It's enough for a man to get bored after years of being married to the same woman. It's enough that the wife gets older, he doesn't find her attractive anymore and that's why he got attracted to a younger woman.

Also, Scorpio411 wrote that it's not his wife's fault. Even if we assume he's wrong and that there's something that his wife could do to make their marriage better, then the first thing he should do is to try and work on his marriage and if that fails - get a divorce and only then start chasing "young skirts".

On the other hand, women can't help it but after say few partners they are broken and are unable to form a long-term bond with one man.

This is simply not true :D

Therefore women cheating and men cheating are not the same

It is exactly the same.
Paulina   
2 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

Well, she could have a more relaxed attitude to the issue.

To the issue of cheating? :D Sure, maybe husbands should have a more relaxed attitude to their wives cheating too :D And aunts should grow moustache :D Very "realistic" approach on your part :D

lol

No, I'm not!

Yes, you are.

So from a point of view of moral or ethical (principles not motivated directly by religious beliefs) standards, he shouldn't cheat

Not only from the moral and ethical point of view, but also from the point of view of human relations and their feelings for each other. This is something you seem to be missing here.

As for viewing it from the Christian point of view - I can't really agree here. Monogamous relationships aren't characteristic only for Christian and post-Christian countries. Polygamy is actually rare in the world:

pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/12/07/polygamy-is-rare-around-the-world-and-mostly-confined-to-a-few-regions/

And if it's rare it must mean there was a reason why human relationships evolved in this way.

what's more in Asian countries wife has a social place and most of the resources at her disposal but does not care that much if her husband has some random sexual encounters outside the marital bond.

I don't know if the wife really doesn't care, or simply she can't do much about it. But since Scorpio411 doesn't live in Asia, I don't give a f*ck what it's like in Asia. He's clearly Christian, I'm guessing that his wife is too. It's pretty likely that they had a church wedding and that means he made an oath before God. So, he's very much living in that "Christian bubble". If he doesn't like it, then he can divorce his wife, take that Polish girl to Asia (if she's going to be interested) and cheat on that Polish girl in Asia all he wants lol
Paulina   
2 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

@Novichok, if there a people who are too stupid and not responsible enough to use condoms and birth control pills, then such people probably shouldn't procreate (or at least until they get wiser).
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

that guy is not in a relationship with himself

Exactly. If a guy is unable to be faithful to a woman, then he shouldn't be in a relationship that was agreed upon to be monogamous from the start.
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

Not I'm not!

Yes, you are :)

fix your drinking habit!

I don't have a drinking habit :)))

Women get pregnant.

There are condoms and birth control pills these days :))
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

it is not the same

Ah, yes, you're a hypocrite, I knew that already.

a dude can cheat and recover without losing anything

Besides his wife, kids, house and part of his income (US version), haha lol

Given their predispositions, I wouldn't recommend cheating for women for their well-being.

lol
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

I really wonder, what was the evolutionary benefit of giving women such elephantine memory?

news-medical.net/news/20190612/Women-have-better-memories-of-events-than-men.aspx

Feel we coulda done better with it.

Based on numerous accounts of many wives - men are apparently incapable of finding ketchup in the fridge, etc., so our "super" memory skills can be useful :):



"Witch!"

Haha :D
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

It is a theoretical exercise on our part here and there is no reason to get emotionally involved as you do.

Firstly, you're being a hypocrite right now, because you're often getting very emotional when commenting stuff on this forum.
Secondly, I'm not getting more emotionally involved than I usually do - I'm simply speaking my mind.

Have you been cheated on a lot?

No, I've never been cheated on as far as I know. How about you? And have you ever cheated on your girlfriend or wife? Or have you ever felt like cheating?

I think it is not my business and I don't like to tell people what to do.

Really? Would you say the same thing if the OP was a woman wanting to cheat on her husband? :)
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

you are not even my wife but my ex

You won't distract me with your fantasy nonsense :)))

You accosted me first here, that's the fact.

I didn't "accost" you, I asked you a simple question. Why didn't you answer it? :)

If you tell your wife anything it is going to be used against you time and time again until the end of time

It is not about "anything" though, we are discussing a particular issue - the guy wants to cheat on his wife. That means his marriage is in deep crisis. Maybe it's even over already. And if it is over - then his wife has the right to know. Because he's just wasting her time/life.
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

if you don't have children, learn more about that girl before you take any further steps and then I guess it is up to your conscience if you choose to go for it.

So, according to you, Mr Conservative and Catholic, it's OK to cheat on your spouse if you don't have kids?

whatever you do don't tell your wife anything on the subject - that is a hard-won experience talking.

Why am I not surprised... lol 🤢
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

ask your priest what his thoughts are on your predicament since he knows you better than any of us.

Scorpio411 wrote pretty bluntly that he doesn't want any "lectures on fidelity, religion, etc."

I don't think he has any dilemma about whether to cheat on his wife or not. He wants to do it. His only "problem" seems to be whether the girl is interested or not.

Not necessarily.

To be honest, it seems to me that his marriage has been dead already for some time - at least on his part. He doesn't seem to give the slightest f*ck about his wife... and it looks like he's been interested in that Polish girl for some time now. He claims he wouldn't feel the way he does if it wasn't for those two hugs, but I think he's lying to himself. He's been seeing her "here and there" for years, as he wrote, and even before those hugs he was "so happy to see her again" and he was the one who waited for her outside after the mass - he decided to make the first move, he was the one wanting to interact with her. So, my impression is that this crush, or whatever it is, has been going for some time now.

This has nothing to do with love. He likes how she looks and that hug gave him a notion he actually has a chance and here we are.

You're probably right...
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Law / Report a stolen iPhone or other theft in Poland? [9]

@shashank24
Are you sure it was stolen and you didn't lose it? If it was stolen, then report it to the police - here's some info on what you need in case of a stolen phone:

nowydworgdanski.policja.gov.pl/pm9/porady/56598,Twoacutej-telefon-zostal-skradziony.html

Basic info:

lublin.policja.gov.pl/llu/prewencja/for-foreigners/64546,How-to-officially-notify-the-Police-about-an-offence.html?sid=7dc1bce13bed7a7e6f4ceff3bd055556

Btw, obviously, it's always the best to report the crime as soon as possible.
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Genealogy / What does my Polish name mean? [401]

@Jmartusewicz, as for meaning - I don't know, but maybe it comes from the Latin name Martinus (English: Martin). The ending "-ewicz" suggests Eastern origin:

https://polishforums.com/language/ethnic-backround-suffixes-surnames-72736/

From what I've read suffixes like -icz, -owicz, -ewicz denote Eastern origin, namely - Ukraine or Belarus.

They were often connected to a father's first name (so it was a kind of "son of"

So, Martusewicz could mean "a son of Martin", for example.

Also, it seems there's a possibility that you can have noble roots (but only genealogical research could confirm that) - your surname is connected to one of the oldest Polish coat of arms called Łabędź (Swan), which was also adopted by Lithuanian boyars:

pl.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C5%81ab%C4%99d%C5%BA_(herb_szlachecki)

In English:

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C5%81ab%C4%99d%C5%BA_coat_of_arms
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

Never!

Why? If Scorpio411 isn't able to get over his infatuation and decides to cheat on his wife, it means his marriage is over anyway.
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

He doesn't even know if she's interested in him.

It doesn't matter. He's interested in her. That's enough.

The stupidest thing he could do right now is tell his wife about it.

I didn't write that he should tell her now (although as a wife - I'd rather know). But if he doesn't get over it - and he still feels like cheating on his wife - then he should tell her.
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

As you can see, nothing has happened yet.

I think you don't understand. By "A lot has happened already" I meant what has happened in Scorpio411's heart (or pants or both). He got interested in another woman. To such an extent that, as he writes: "I don't know what came over me, but ever since then I can't stop thinking about her. I mean like almost every waking moment."

It sounds like he fell in love with another woman. And it looks like he wants to turn his fantasty into reality. He's actively seeking it.

He already cheated on his wife - in his heart.

She's got his emotions by the balls already. It's much more than "nothing."

Exactly.
Paulina   
1 Jan 2024
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

@Alien, sorry, but haven't you read anything what Scorpio411 wrote? A lot has happened already. If I were his wife, I'd be heartbroken already. That's one thing.

Another thing - if he continues on this path, a lot more may happen. And that's what I meant when I wrote: "Are you going to cheat on your wife? Or will you man up and tell your wife the truth?"
Paulina   
31 Dec 2023
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

@Novichok, no, but Scorpio411 wrote himself that it doesn't have anything to do with his wife, so I'm guessing, based on what he wrote, that his wife isn't any "gambler, a drug addict, and an unfaithful drunk":

No issues with her, it's totally me.

What's more, it looks like his wife cares about how he feels:

This past week my wife's been asking me "what's wrong?", "why are you depressed" and "are you happier yet?"

Paulina   
31 Dec 2023
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]

So there's this cute Polish girl in her 20's

And how old are you?

but in the mean time, what do you guys think?

I think you're a piece of sh1t and a scumbag and I feel sorry for your wife.

No lectures on fidelity, religion, etc. please.

What do you want then? A pat on the back? A blessing to cheat on your wife? An advice on how to do it so your wife wouldn't know? lol

Sorry, but you're sickening to me...

How would you feel if your wife was doing what you're doing now?

Do you have kids?

If she never contacts me, so be it and hopefully time will heal.

And if she will? If she's going to be interested in you - what then? Are you going to cheat on your wife? Or will you man up and tell your wife the truth?
Paulina   
31 Dec 2023
News / Poland - A True Bastion and Defender of Free Speech [250]

I somehow doubt it:

A song "Kaczka Dziwaczka" (a classic poem for kids by Jan Brzechwa published in 1939) - this video was posted only 3 years ago and has 43 mln views :)):


Paulina   
31 Dec 2023
News / Poland - A True Bastion and Defender of Free Speech [250]

Then why are distinctions made only if someone is Jewish?

Not really, we also say "Polish Tatars".

Poloniusz is spot on this subject.

On what subject? He was wrong when he wrote that if Polish students had any say in the matter "Tuwim wouldn't be forced taught upon them" or that "No genuine Pole talks about Tuwim". Kids don't care who wrote a poem. Tuwim's and Brzechwa's poems for kids are fun and that's all kids care about. Those poems are already part of Polish culture, whether Poloniusz likes it or not o_O

Poland was very different before your time and is very different now and your opinions about Poland and Poles outside of the communist timeframe is done through a lens of communist education

Are you saying that parents don't read Tuwim's and Brzechwa's poems to kids anymore? I somehow doubt it:





:)

Oh, btw, they just made a new film based on "Akademia Pana Kleksa" (published in 1946) by Jan Brzechwa :))) In 2023! Those "PRL fossils"! :))))
Paulina   
30 Dec 2023
News / Poland - A True Bastion and Defender of Free Speech [250]

@pawian, yes, Tuwim's and Brzechwa's poems for kids are absolute classics. I still remember my mother reading them to me. You'd have to be retarded not to know about them if you were raised in Poland o_O

classics
Paulina   
30 Dec 2023
Work / Can any international computer science student get software development job in Wrocław or Warsaw? [45]

It has plenty...

No, it hasn't.

Since they can't make women stronger, faster, and more creative, they pussify men to drag them down to the stay-at-home mom level.

Nonsense. As I already wrote - automation isn't anything new. It's not about feminism, "pussifying men" or anything of this sort. It's the result of technological and scientific development that allows for more automation and more sophisticated automation. And the main driving force behind automation in all kinds of industries was and is chasing profit. Capitalism. Money.

See pawian.

That's a bad example, considering that pawian is the sole breadwinner in his marriage and his wife is a housewife and a stay-at-home mom :))))

This creates a need to replace the missing men with robots with different levels of intelligence.

Nope. Greed creates this need.
Paulina   
30 Dec 2023
News / Poland - A True Bastion and Defender of Free Speech [250]

The chapel and cross are not oversized and not in the public's face.

The cross is hanging in the plenary chamber of the Polish Parliament. It doesn't have to be two meters long, it's enough that it's there (and, unlike Hanukkah celebrations, it's there all the time) and everyone knows about it.

No genuine Pole talks about Tuwim.

You clearly didn't go to a public school in Poland :)))

Today's students aren't interested in people they can't relate to and if they had any say in the matter Tuwim wouldn't be forced taught upon them.

Don't be silly. During my time, if students had any say in the matter, many of them wouldn't want to be forced taught upon "Pan Tadeusz" or "Nad Niemnem" :))) A lot of stuff is "forced taught upon" students at school.

And it was my mother that introduced me to Tuwim's poems for kids when I was little - by reading them to me.
Paulina   
30 Dec 2023
Work / Can any international computer science student get software development job in Wrocław or Warsaw? [45]

No, thanks to feminism the AI revolution was necessary

No, it wasn't. "AI" at present isn't replacing factory workers, construction workers, cleaning ladies, nurses and others that are usually in short "supply" in Western countries. It's replacing people like graphic designers, photographers, programmers, journalists, writers, voice actors, etc. - jobs that "first worlders" were actually willing to do. And I'm guessing it's just going to get worse.

Also, automation isn't anything new and has nothing to do with feminism.

standing at points of entry with big smiles and big signs saying "Welcome Refugees!"

That's actually a Christian thing to do, rather than a feminist one, Mr Religious One :)))

It's female narcism and greed which brought us the problems facing the West today.

Of course not :) It's men's relentless greed :)))
Paulina   
30 Dec 2023
Work / Can any international computer science student get software development job in Wrocław or Warsaw? [45]

That's like saying the human mind is just meat.

Nope. Atch is right. What tech bros are marketing these days as "AI" isn't an actual AI yet (the one you know from films like "Terminator" or "Matrix"). It's just machine learning.

the tech industry wants AI in order to produce value and increase profits by reducing and eliminating high costs and inefficiencies caused by labor both in the tech industry itself and other sectors of the economy.

Yes, they want to replace humans. Not just "unneeded third worlders", but your white, Christian people too.

can also, potentially, be quite dangerous if misused, so I wouldn't dismiss them with "oh, it's just another - a bit more complicated - 'Hello, World' program".

Considering the damage "AI" is doing already and what damage it can potentially do in the future, I can defenitely agree that it's not "just any software" or "like any other tool". It's not real AI yet though.
Paulina   
22 Dec 2023
News / Time to clean the swamp - dePiSification of Poland [298]

TVP shutting down

Not shutting down.

No Police chief?

o2.pl/informacje/slonce-wyjrzalo-dla-policji-jest-nowy-komendant-glowny-6976460208499200a

pawian, should I expect burning of churches? Priests carried out in lorries

PO and PSL coalition was in power for 8 years before already. Were such things happening back then? No? So why are you writing such nonsense?