Natasa
27 Nov 2011
Love / Polish Women Versus Your Local Women ? [289]
I haven't heard that often that shamefulness is desirable in clinch situations.
Even though some might have concluded differently, I also don't have problem with shame :)
I was taught to be shameless :) during my therapeutical education by educators and to make people feel replace the shame with healthy emotion *....?... There is a behavioral exercise we all had to perform in the middle of the busiest walking street in the center of Belgrade, where we were given tasks that should evoke shame, like saying to random people Good afternoon, singing loudly something standing alone, while the rest of the group was watching from the safe distance if the educant is performing what was told.
i chose to read loudly, actually to yell the prologue from the book I had in my bag, it was Nietzsche's Antichrist, standing alone and my group was watching me. The point was to see that nothing happens if you behave oddly, not in accord with social expectations, like people believe. Mostly people passed by not seeing me or hearing at all, but one listened and thought I am one of Jehova's witnesses :) There were two guys who were trying to match my appearance with my behavior, mid 20s, but the feeling their attention evoked wasn't shame. I was close to end the educational process;)
*Shame is according to Cognitive therapies (US origins and development, all of them) one of dysfunctional emotions (causing disproportional suffering, longer lasting, leading to lousy behavioral performance, based on irrational beliefs), its healthy analog is dissatisfaction or disappointment (related to social evaluation). In the category of dysfunctional emotions are also guilt, anger, depressive mood, anxiety, unhealthy jealousy and unhealthy envy. (are they teaching us to be emotionally unresponsive ? and ruthless, seems so, ops)
Tests of performances in extreme situations are unavoidable. Illness, time pressure, socially inappropriate settings, and so on. We have a proverb similar to US one-When the going gets tough, the tough get going. It sounds better in Serbian, heroes are there ;)
Actually one Polka told me it recently.I was not aware of this fact I mean I did not view it this way.
I haven't heard that often that shamefulness is desirable in clinch situations.
Even though some might have concluded differently, I also don't have problem with shame :)
I was taught to be shameless :) during my therapeutical education by educators and to make people feel replace the shame with healthy emotion *....?... There is a behavioral exercise we all had to perform in the middle of the busiest walking street in the center of Belgrade, where we were given tasks that should evoke shame, like saying to random people Good afternoon, singing loudly something standing alone, while the rest of the group was watching from the safe distance if the educant is performing what was told.
i chose to read loudly, actually to yell the prologue from the book I had in my bag, it was Nietzsche's Antichrist, standing alone and my group was watching me. The point was to see that nothing happens if you behave oddly, not in accord with social expectations, like people believe. Mostly people passed by not seeing me or hearing at all, but one listened and thought I am one of Jehova's witnesses :) There were two guys who were trying to match my appearance with my behavior, mid 20s, but the feeling their attention evoked wasn't shame. I was close to end the educational process;)
*Shame is according to Cognitive therapies (US origins and development, all of them) one of dysfunctional emotions (causing disproportional suffering, longer lasting, leading to lousy behavioral performance, based on irrational beliefs), its healthy analog is dissatisfaction or disappointment (related to social evaluation). In the category of dysfunctional emotions are also guilt, anger, depressive mood, anxiety, unhealthy jealousy and unhealthy envy. (are they teaching us to be emotionally unresponsive ? and ruthless, seems so, ops)
.When I lack these I usually fail Polki and Ukrainki experience can be exhausting but the results are always rewarding.
Tests of performances in extreme situations are unavoidable. Illness, time pressure, socially inappropriate settings, and so on. We have a proverb similar to US one-When the going gets tough, the tough get going. It sounds better in Serbian, heroes are there ;)
