@pawian, you wrote so much nonsense that I don't even know where to start...
As much as I love Russians
So you love Russians. How many Russians do you know in person?
I met quite a few of them in Poland and even more of them in London (they moved to the UK disguised as Latvians, Lithuanians...) and I wouldn't say that I love them but I know how to deal with them in person.
Which brings me to the next point: the only way of effectively dealing with Russians is from the position of power. Any other approach is seen as a sign of weakness by a regular Russian. So yes, a mutual respect is possible only when both sides take hard line. That's how they are wired and that's how they've been conditioned for centuries.
When it comes to politics, obviously that kind of relations with Russia is something that only a strong conservative government is capable of. Even the US, the superpower, got slapped by Russia when they had a weak, incompetent, liberal president Obama.
And now, connecting Polish nationalist with some kind of pro-russian stance is an aberration shared by both tribes: PiS and PO followers
. Polish nationalist have pro-Polish stance and in Polish interest is to cooperate with those who will bring - economical, political or any other - profits to Poland. Something which Viktor Orban does succesfully for Hungary.