me being from another country
What country are you from?
he has no plans to stay here and wants me to go to the uk to abort it
Obviously, perhaps he wants to cop out of his responsibilities, and the possibility of paying child support. Just remember you have more than one alternative.
i really don't like the idea of raising a child on my own
I don't give single mothers flack, for the mere fact that they decided to raise their child instead of killing it for convenience sake. If you do not like any of those ideas, then consider adoption as many here have advised.
i would prefer the child to have a father
Wouldn't we all, but seeing that your child's father is no where near one...
there's the financial worries and the thoughts of telling my own family
Child support? I don't know what the status would be of out of wedlock children, so if I were you I'd start finding out. Plus, tell your family, silence won't help, and while your at it, tell his family if at all possible. You don't want to make this decision on your own, at least lighten some of the load of your shoulders by telling them. Like pgtx said, they might be more supportive than you think.
im dreading my fathers reaction, he's a big believer in marriage before kids etc.
Lets take a wild guess as to why.
i have no clue what to do as both keeping or aborting the baby will be hard...
Don't worry, time will force you to make a decision. Raising a child will be hard, the fact that your life ends when your child's begins, since you will spend the rest of your life watching your child's, isn't exactly an exciting thought. I always assumed killing an unborn child merely for being an unborn child was harder, not to mention cruel and barbaric. But, different strokes.
it hurts even more that he's still constantly talking to that girl and seems even more determined to meet her now...
It took two to tango, you share half of the responsibility for this situation since you were there when it happened, your half just so happens to be heavier than his, he chickened out, hopefully you won't do the same your kid, then you'd be no better than him.
i'm looking for advice from people who have maybe been in similar situation?
I know two girls that got pregnant when they were 18, both abandoned by their "men", both went to their parents and where told the same thing, 'abort and you're disowned'. Adoption was an option they didn't want to take. Both still live with their folks, one works, one goes to school, both have a son.
do you have any advice?
Either fess up to your responsibilities (grow up) and raise the child on your own, hopefully with the support of your family and child support, or enter the adoption process, as early as possible. As for killing the kid, that is no alternative.
So it's better to run a miserable life (both her and her child)...
Automatically it will be a miserable life for her and her child; obviously God wrote this.
abort it while it's not a human being yet
"Abort (kill) it (the unborn child) while it's not a human being (then what is it?) yet". If your answer is that the child is a fetus, you'd be correct, if you said it wasn't human you'd be wrong.
"Wrong." -John Matrix-
Well it's a matter of opinion whether it's considered "life" or not.
It is life, that is a matter of fact not opinion.