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I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it!


JustysiaS 13 | 2,239  
21 Apr 2009 /  #31
and I would even call his parents or someone in his family let them know what
hes doing !!

or better, call them and tell them they're gonna be grandparents and that you're getting married ha ha...
joland 4 | 86  
21 Apr 2009 /  #32
the polish guy who hurted you, he wants you to kill your baby

if you do, you will always remember what you did

will you tell to your future children: "you know, you had a brother , but i killed him"
or you will lie to them all your life?

Save the baby's life , he is innocent

You know in your heart that this is the right decision, thearcher

We're with you in this

PennBoy 76 | 2,432  
21 Apr 2009 /  #33
I am a product of that situation

So am I, my old man lived and worked in East Germany, Rostock to be percise, and dated a German girl( no comment on that) he went back to Poland for a bit and had a one night stand with my mother, just as he was about to go back to East Germany she told him she's pregnant with twin boys, me and my brother, but he was a man about it and married her. If the guy don't want her because he's a male wh**e and cant be with a single girl forget him, but don't say not to bring unwanted kids like the kid's an alien or something, the baby would be hers, if she could afford to keep it, she probably would.
niejestemcapita 2 | 561  
21 Apr 2009 /  #34
but don't say not to bring unwanted kids like the kid's an alien or something, the baby would be hers, if she could afford to keep it, she probably would.

right pennboy spot on.
I dont know about Ireland but UK gives support to single mothers which Irish are fully entitled to as well.
freebird 3 | 532  
22 Apr 2009 /  #35
you will always remember what you did

will you tell to your future children: "you know, you had a brother , but i killed him"

what a bull. So it's better to run a miserable life (both her and her child) than to abort it while it's not a human being yet, right?

Oh well it's not my opinion but obviously you've got the right to stick to yours.
Have a good 1
krysia 23 | 3,058  
22 Apr 2009 /  #36
So it's better to run a miserable life

It's only miserable if you allow it to be.
Don't abort this child, don't give the polak the satisfaction after treating you like this and let him be responsible for his actions. Once the baby is born, you will see only this precious little baby, not him.
Patrycja19 62 | 2,688  
22 Apr 2009 /  #37
Once the baby is born, you will see only this precious little baby, not him.

you are very right Krysia, that baby is part of her, the one thing a woman experiences
is that bond before the baby is born its like you know already what to do.
one little smile will melt away any doubts.

while it's not a human being yet, right?

ahem!! it is a human being though.

why dont you take yourself online to a abortion website where it shows what
it does to the baby.. maybe you wont think of it as a lesser life form then.
k98_man  
22 Apr 2009 /  #38
Well it's a matter of opinion whether it's considered "life" or not. It should be a non-issue...

If I was in the situation - destroy all traces of the baby and the boyfriend (well don't kill him, but just leave him).
svengoola - | 69  
22 Apr 2009 /  #39
If I was in the situation

lol. When hell freezes over
Grzegorz_ 51 | 6,149  
22 Apr 2009 /  #40
than to abort it while it's not a human being yet, right?

It's always a human being.
Krisha 2 | 21  
22 Apr 2009 /  #42
And you are planning to marry and start a family of your own, so it was a positive in the end and Im sure that your mum doesn't regret having you. No one situation is the same and to simply say "get an abortion" is wrong if you have never been in the situation this girl is in.

Like i said, im a product of the girls situation.... that makes me have a view in the situation does it not?

She asked for peoples advice and opinions, this is mine. So no need be debating it.

And actually I left home when i was 16 because my mum couldnt cope and didnt want me.

Yes I intend to start a family, but not on my own, I would never do this to a child when there is a choice.

Good luck with whatever path you take though.
Patrycja19 62 | 2,688  
22 Apr 2009 /  #43
And actually I left home when i was 16 because my mum couldnt cope and didnt want me.

and what was it that she couldnt cope with? the mere fact that your 16 years old
and demanding independence?

you say you left home, which means you left undoubtly in anger, so have you spoke
to your mom since?

ive said this before and I will say it again. as parents we are not given a booklet on
how to raise your children. its all something we feel in out hearts, whats right, whats
wrong, how to explain things as your child grows, what to feed, what to buy, what
to talk about.. its not all in a book.. its all in our hearts and how we love and nuture
and care for them. the talks, the fights , the crying, the laughing, the hugs, the kisses,
the ohhhhhs and the ahhhhhhhhhhhs and the stars and the moon and the sun and
everything that makes us, helps us bring up our children.

maybe you should call your mom.. she might not have brought you up in a diamond
but she did love you, I can guarentee that. otherwise she wouldnt have kept you and
cared for you.

Im not getting down on you, but life is something to cherish..
Arise_St_George 9 | 419  
22 Apr 2009 /  #45
So don't have one. Simple.

I won't have one... I'm male..!
Patrycja19 62 | 2,688  
22 Apr 2009 /  #46
gee.. I really dont know how that chick got pregnant dad.. I wasnt in her room that
night honest!! what??? a babY??? I cant have one,, Im a male......

ooopss.. forgot to add the LOL
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
22 Apr 2009 /  #47
She is only 8 weeks, it's a fetus, not a baby, she is also probably very confused and ever so slightly hormonal - most of the comments on here are not very helpful.

As to those who say the state takes care of single mothers, you are reading too many news papers and obviously don't completely understand the benefits system in the UK - because the vast majority of single mothers live well below the poverty line, single working mothers do get more assistance, but you have to take in to consideration child care costs.

To the men who are saying "I wouldn't have an abortion" blah blah blah, be thankful you will never have the burden of this unenviable decision.
freebird 3 | 532  
22 Apr 2009 /  #48
ahem!! it is a human being though.

I don't see it as a human being until it's developed. Obviously we can discuss forever when it's developed enough to be a human being and probably will never agree to it so I suggest we just leave it by tolerating each other opinions.

To Shelley
She is only 8 weeks, it's a fetus, not a baby

Thank you Shelley :-)
k98_man  
22 Apr 2009 /  #49
gee.. I really dont know how that chick got pregnant dad.. I wasnt in her room that
night honest!! what??? a babY??? I cant have one,, Im a male......

ooopss.. forgot to add the LOL

True genius at work here.
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
22 Apr 2009 /  #50
If the baby was not planned then consider whether this is what you want for your life.. to be a single parent? If not, then abort or put it up for adoption and move on with your life.. If you decide to keep it, then face the reality that your child will never know its biological father, but later you may meet someone who wants to take you both on.

In the meantime cut the tosser out of your life right now.. get hold of his phone and text everyone he knows to let them know what an ******* he is.. especially contact the girl and the parents. Post photos of him on a gay website with his telephone number and rip up any clothes or important documents like his passport you can get your hands on.. dont question this, it will make you feel better :)
freebird 3 | 532  
22 Apr 2009 /  #51
Post photos of him on a gay website with his telephone number and rip up any clothes or important documents like his passport you can get your hands on.. dont question this, it will make you feel better :)

LMAO, good 1
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
22 Apr 2009 /  #52
smearing fresh chillies in his duds it will bring a tear to his eye and a smile to your face...tried and tested...
freebird 3 | 532  
22 Apr 2009 /  #53
hahahahaha and still loughing
Harry  
22 Apr 2009 /  #54
smearing fresh chillies in his duds it will bring a tear to his eye and a smile to your face...tried and tested...

Better off getting a really hot sauce (357 Mad Dog or Blair's Megadeath will do nicely) and putting it inside a condom. Then offer him a 'last break-up shag'.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
22 Apr 2009 /  #55
Not a bad idea...the chilli thing works a treat though and she can go wild and wipe it on the soap too..that's also highly entertaining to watch..
freebird 3 | 532  
22 Apr 2009 /  #56
that's also highly entertaining to watch..

for sure
krysia 23 | 3,058  
22 Apr 2009 /  #57
When will people learn that the only reason to have sex is to have a baby?
Just kidding.
People have to learn to be responsible for their actions. They started a life and it's wrong to destroy it. If they didn't want a child, they should have thought before having sex.

On the other hand, some babies, like freebird should have been aborted.
Ironside 53 | 12,450  
22 Apr 2009 /  #58
smearing fresh chillies in his duds it will bring a tear to his eye and a smile to your face...tried and tested...

hahahahaha and still loughing

Not a bad idea...the chilli thing works a treat though and she can go wild and wipe it on the soap too..that's also highly entertaining to watch..

Better off getting a really hot sauce (357 Mad Dog or Blair's Megadeath will do nicely) and putting it inside a condom. Then offer him a 'last break-up shag'.

Whats wrong with you people are you mental?nutters?

quote=sapphire]

In the meantime cut the tosser out of your life right now.. get hold of his phone and text everyone he knows to let them know what an ******* he is.. especially contact the girl and the parents.[/quote]

Now thats something to consider.
southern 74 | 7,074  
22 Apr 2009 /  #59
Better off getting a really hot sauce (357 Mad Dog or Blair's Megadeath will do nicely) and putting it inside a condom. Then offer him a 'last break-up shag'.

You could also ask him to have sex with his polish girlfriend while you watch.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
22 Apr 2009 /  #60
In which case I'd smear the chilli on the outside of the condom!

Whats wrong with you people are you mental?nutters?

All's fair in love and war Mr I ;0)

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