Moved to Poland to my younger boyfriend, now got sick; he's got a new one

Don't forget to ask him if he enjoyed the pie;)

Isn't it funny when they say "that's the nicest pie I have ever had"

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Surely, you do know that women reach their prime in their 30s. And if you consider 35 to be old, I take it you are still in your twenties then. Or perhaps even, your teens.

Now that really explains a lot.

PJ

And you smile and say "you have no idea how much I enjoyed it too"

Actually, they reach their prime in their 40s ;)

What do you mean?I think young girls have equal sexual activity but young girls are always nervous,excited,never resting and tempting,trying to make jealous etc.They are exhausting in a way.More hysterical.

But older women are queens.Comfortable,generous and they understand men a little better.I believe that.
Only that older women can be sad at times.Younger are more cheerful.

It seems that he was in love, when the situation seemed better. He liked the idea of an older sophistocated woman, with her own place, an independent woman... while he was a momma's boy living at home. Unfortunately, it seems you were his "escape", when he wanted sex, when he wanted to stay there for a couple days. I'm sorry to say, but he treated you more like a toy, and now that he sees you having health problems, he doesnt want to deal with it.

If you were together long enough that you moved to Gdynia for him, and he's keeping you a secret from his family all this time... that should have told you something was wrong right there.

I agree with everyone else, drop him (do some evil things to him first, lol). He's not worth your time and heart. Let the 20-something girl screw him over. No normal 20 year old wants a 33 year old divorced guy with a daughter more than half her age... unless the goal is to share clothes.

You forget that polish girls are desperate to marry.Polish girls want serious proposal inside 6 months of the relationship,otherwise they get away.

Polish girls are not that desperate... they are waiting a little longer to marry now. Those that seek proposal & marriage quickly are the less independent ones... and the ones that seek a man to be financial stable to hold a family. This 33 yr old lives at home, and already has a kid to support. What can he offer this 20yr old, besides maybe paying her cell bill and making the same promises he made to the British lady?

Maybe he takes money from the British lady to give to the poor young girl if has Macchiavelli mind.
Besides I am sure he will have to propose to her soon if he wants to keep her.

wow very scary. the minds of women.


hell hath no fury seems to ring true. is this an urban legend or have you or someone you know done this? :-)

Perhaps this may be a reason he asked the British lady to "not make any problems".

If this were me, I'd throw a fit and let everyone know about the situation. Especially his family & the 20yr old. Go out with a bang!

he sounds a good catch. this guy is taking the ****! do not make any more excuses for his behaviour, it is unacceptable. for your sake end it now. do not allow this shitbag to treat you like this.

I have to agree...in reality you are doing the right thing by letting them know. They are about to get scammed by this piece of sh1t who is planning a marriage and family based on lies.

i think that this love got tested and he didn't past the test (your illness)... if you really love somebody you are ready for sacrafices, no matter how hard it gets... sometimes it's easier to give up and go back to the easy life, but it means that it was a wasted time and it wasn't worth it...

I am Polish and I never heard that Polish culture required men to be cowards, liars and cheats.

I feel for you and I wish you all the best, but I don't think you should keep on investing your feelings (and money) in a fraud that he is.

sweet :)

Life isn't as black or white as you might think though. There is an element of time that eventually wears you out.

PJ

i always prefer Older Woman, i use to have dirty fantasies with my mother mates when i was 15

you are on the best years of your life .dont waste your time in this tosser

Then don't commit to someone. People are not for your convenience as long as YOU are into it. Pathetic excuses for sh1t behavior. Dishonorable and sad.

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Of course not what kind of women do you think we are ;-)

I dont agree that she should cause a scene - dignity is paramount in these kinds of situations (revenge is easy to get without him even knowing it) - I think she should just pack up and leave without telling him and never look back - cut any contact whatsoever.

No there shouldn't be. If you are playing games with someone, as I see this guy may have been, then yes it eventually wore out. But love/marriage is a one time only deal. You are to stick with it, not run when the tough times come. He showed his immaturity, disrespect and dishonesty.

Don't shoot the messenger. Over 50% (More or less, u can google out the exact figures) of marriages in europe end up in divoce, yet nobody sets about marriage with the firm intention of getting divorced later on.

I was just stating a fact of life.

PJ

Glad to see SOME people still think this. Most people I talk to these days are selfish and think that its fine to leave when you get bored or it gets hard. They think it is all about THEM and not about the partner and commitment. Love is not lust...lust wears out and love fills it's shoes. Love is effort and respect and doing things for others even when nobody is watching and there is not direct reward. Most people anymore are too selfish for this.

And its 50% more or less, due to the reasons that are in this relationship, disrespect, dishonesty or immaturity. When you make a promise you should work to keep it.

Excuses...they set out not thinking and being all wound up about the new sex or novelty of marriage. Or they get somebody pregnant.

There is no excuse for saying to someone "through sickness and health etc" and then cheating on them or skipping out when you hit a midlife crisis.

I do not accept the excuses and way out you have presented.

Here If women is more than 2-3 years older It is seen as a weired thing. It's a bit different in case of men but they shouldn't be more than 5-6 years older.


AND ?

Krakowianka & gtd, your moral absolutism sounds like a reaction to a bitter disappointment in a recent relationship.

Anything you might wannna share with us? :)

PJ

when a relationship, marriage gets to the point when two people do not love each other and the situation is miserable, it's better to get out of it.... specially when you got kids... better to be apart then to struggle and put the kids in the middle of the mess... and i'm not talking about everyday struggles, because it's life and these are present all the time...

What disappointment? Not the slightest bit. I'm happy as can be :)

My reaction is the way it is, because I'm sick and tired of hearing people fleeing ship the second something goes they way they didnt expect. Life is full of surprises, we must take and accept them, learn to deal and keep on going. Not flee ship cause the waters are a bit rough. They'll calm down. Love is strong enough to overcome many of lifes toughest things.