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Moved to Poland to my younger boyfriend, now got sick; he's got a new one


wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Nov 2008 /  #151
he said last night he would "put me in hospital"

Well in the Uk this would be a crime....probably in Poland too i think....?
polishgirltx  
5 Nov 2008 /  #152
She cannot avoid contact.She cannot control it

yes, she can... she can leave the house before he gets home and do not contact him, because what for...
southern 74 | 7,074  
5 Nov 2008 /  #153
Well in the Uk this would be a crime....

Yes,but he can claim that she also blackmailed him by threatening to talk to his parents.
Only if she has bruises,will the police arrest him because her life will be in danger.
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #154
If its a rented flat she could take all her stuff to a hotel tonight so he couldn't damage anything tomorrow. Take care of her business in town over the next days and then leave.

Police and flat owner need to be informed soon.
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Nov 2008 /  #155
he can claim that she also blackmailed him by threatening to talk to his parents.

Its not illegal to tell people the truth...i believe it only gets illegal if she asks for money or favours NOT to tell them , which is not the case here...She needs to tell the Police , so that if anything happens they have some history on the situation , and perhaps warn him what the result of carrying out the threat would be...Perhaps knowing the Police are aware of his threat would help him to realise she is not going to be a helpless victim...He is a bully , and the one thing a bully really can,t deal with...is somebody who is going to put up a fight...

I have had experiance of this kind of person before , and in every case the only way to stop it was by making their lives more unhappy than they are making yours...Even a sociopath gets tired of being arrested , spoken to by the Police , and as a last resort getting their face punched in....Not that i am advising a woman alone to get involved in a punch up with a guy..she will lose...in her case the only solution is to get out of the situation by whatever means , and keep the guy at a distance by legal or otherwise actions....
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #156
and in every case the only way to stop it was by making their lives more unhappy than they are making yours..

Agreed 100%...these people will not stop until someone makes them. There is no reasoning with these psychos.
southern 74 | 7,074  
5 Nov 2008 /  #157
There are now laws for relationships.Laws are for marriage.If sb decides to leave,sb leaves without any legal consequences.So what is this fuss about?
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Nov 2008 /  #158
So what is this fuss about?

Its about a woman who has been threatened with a hospital stay by a no good user...or have i missed something...?
southern 74 | 7,074  
5 Nov 2008 /  #159
Because she wanted to take revenge on him.She threatened to reveal everything to his parents and girlfriend.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,379  
5 Nov 2008 /  #160
I would be just as concerned about the 'petrol money' and 'sex'
polishgirltx  
5 Nov 2008 /  #161
She threatened to reveal everything to his parents and girlfriend.

so what? how would it harm him? he'd get some good reality check...

anyway, i hope she's packing her stuff as we post here...
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Nov 2008 /  #162
i hope she's packing her stuff

I hope so too.....I will be glad to hear she is out of this situation...and in a safe place..
polishgirltx  
5 Nov 2008 /  #163
I will be glad to hear she is out of this situation

yeah, but they never come back to say how it went...
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Nov 2008 /  #164
Lets hope that no news is good news....?
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #165
Because she wanted to take revenge on him.She threatened to reveal everything to his parents and girlfriend.

Rightly so...he abuses her mentally...threatens physical abuse (and this IS a crime) and he is also cheating and scamming another family. Stop defending the ******* and support the victim.
polishgirltx  
5 Nov 2008 /  #166
She threatened to reveal everything to his parents and girlfriend.

yeah, i can hear the laugh at the precinct when he's telling cops how one of his gfs threatens to tell his mommy, daddy and the other gf about his messed up life and personality... lol
OP woman 1 | 11  
5 Nov 2008 /  #167
Tell him that you would like him to enjoy the polish girl on Saturday night and then come to you on Sunday because you want to start a triangle.

i pity you find this amusing quote=wildrover]
called being a sociopath [/quote]
i do think this is the case-
dcchris 8 | 432  
5 Nov 2008 /  #168
i still say just change the locks
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Nov 2008 /  #169
[quote=woman]
i do think this is the case-[/quote

Then you realise you have to get out of this situation as soon as possible....Do please let everybody know how it goes , and that you are safe.....If you need help ... just shout , one of us will get to you....Take care....
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
5 Nov 2008 /  #170
This can be solved by having a a three way.
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #171
And yet more class from the Polish/Greek crowd.

What a real man you are.
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
5 Nov 2008 /  #172
What a real man you are.

Yes. I can handle two women at a time.
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #173
Yeah like you would ever know unless you paid for it. Yourself and two hands is more likely.
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
5 Nov 2008 /  #174
Yourself and two hands is more likely.

Yes, a hand from each woman.
OP woman 1 | 11  
5 Nov 2008 /  #175
he turned up to night-i had the door locked-i hid where he could not see me- i eventally answered his calls-i told him i was not at home i was at friends-he told me to get back and see him-i said no-i told him to go spend more time with his girlfriend-he was banging on the door-i kept to my story-i stayed calm-he had told me he was seeing-her tonight-me tomorrow-hesaid i should always be waiting for him

i told him i was scared of him that he would hurt me-he said no-i told him i was happy he had girlfriend i said its okay i wont cause trouble i understand and i was staying with my friend till friday so he could see his girlfriend and i will see him on friday-he said i was good for accepting his girlfriend and he was going back to her-and he would come back friday-he believed me and he went-i was so scared-he has just called to say he loves me and not to be scared of him and what a good woman i am for keeping the secret.

i wont sleep tonight i will go to the police in the morning
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #176
i wont sleep tonight i will go to the police in the morning

Good. This piece of sh1t needs to be put in his place. He is a mistake on this Earth.
southern 74 | 7,074  
5 Nov 2008 /  #177
told him i was happy he had girlfriend i said its okay i wont cause trouble i understand and i was staying with my friend till friday so he could see his girlfriend and i will see him on friday-he said i was good for accepting his girlfriend and he was going back to her-and he would come back friday-he believed me and he went

Did you see?I advised you to comply and it brought results.Don't go to the police.It will drive him mad.Just vanish.
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #178
Don't go to the police.It will drive him mad.Just vanish.

Nonsense. Stop giving dangerous advice. She NEEDS to go to the Police so she is protected until she can manage her affairs and get away from there. The guy is mental and dangerous.
southern 74 | 7,074  
5 Nov 2008 /  #179
In Poland they will not believe her kind of story.It is not a feminist country.
gtd 3 | 639  
5 Nov 2008 /  #180
You are very odd. It can't hurt to try and I have had pleasant dealings with the Police here. They are generally good and she needs help.

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