Moved to Poland to my younger boyfriend, now got sick; he's got a new one

agreed 100%.


with a glint in her eye and a smile on her face.

Yep :))

It couldn't possibly be because we believe this right? Plus who hasn't been disappointed in a relationship. My views have always been my views. You are making excuses for poor behavior.

My view is that when you allow for 'moral relativism' in this case you destroy the whole point of marriage and relationships. We get together to make life better...to share good and bad. There is no way 50% of marriages fail because of thing beyond their control. "Feelings change" is a common excuse you hear. Well sure they do about everything in life...but you don't just quit everything because it isnt pure pleasure. That is a childish and selfish view of life and not uncommon.

I knew a guy once who told me about his dad and mom...and how the mother got sicker in her 50s and wasn't 'putting out' a lot. So the dad being the virile stud he was just HAD to have sex...so he gets a mistress...and justifies this by saying that the dad still had 'needs' and it was selfish of the mother to not allow this as if she really loved the dad she would understand. What kind of utter sh1t is that?!?!Yet I have heard this kind of thing a lot...people doing horrible things and then making excuses to justify it. I pity his mother and think his father is a b@astard.

The people I know who make excuses and try to justify poor behavior in relationships are the very ones who have done such things and are trying to convince themselves and others it is ok.

There is no grey area when it comes to treating others with respect.

i think woman should allow this piece of trash to think she loves him so much she will accept the situation but meanwhile i would find out about this girl and gather everything you can to expose what a liar and a cheat he is- present the evidence to her and his family and then disappear forever-does sound like he maybe at the crucial stage of-clinching the deal-so i would act within the next few weeks

There. Go on, don't be coy, tell us.

You seem to take the matter deeply to heart. Surely, cant be just a bit of banter on a forum.

PJ

Give me a break Oprah.

Firstly I wouldn't share my life in such detail in a public forum. Secondly your attempt to reduce my views to reactions from personal experience are shallow. I felt this way about marriage etc before I ever tasted disappointment in my life...and as I said we all have. My views are based in my belief system about what makes people good...not in some bitter break up. I am rooted in it because all around me I see poor behavior and disrespect in relationships and it bothers me. I think people are becoming more and more selfish and I think this is a giant part of the problems in society.

Have you notice all that she probably felt a bit disappointed by quality of discussion. Imagine this, English woman in strange country with relationship problems turn to English speaking Polish forum for maybe help, advise, bit of understanding. How she feel after that what she get ... crap. I would left that forum and never be back.

Actually she got help...sometimes a a bit harsh...but the overwhelming reply validates what she surely already knows...that the guy is an idiot and user.

She asked for advice, she got it. There are no excuses based on the polish culture, based on age or anything. The guy she's been with has used her and now wants to hide the past and move on, as problems in the relationship have surfaced. Maybe she'll return and post his name & contact info, for us to have a stab at him too! lol

That would be a treat.

I don't think that that sort of thing has happened on the forum yet.

Krakowianka could you fix your quote attribution? It wasnt mine.

she cannot. It is a PF glitch.

yeah she can..just edit it and put the right name in...I do it all the time to fix the 'glitch'

if it is done within two hours I believe.

post 69

The post attributed to gtd should be attributed to Del boy

There you go ! Fixed

Not really...in this case I dont care as the quote isnt inflammatory but in the past people have been jumped on for something they didnt say as people dont always read all posts before reacting.

I know the feeling well.

anyone interested in knowing who he is?-i thinkhis "new girl" should be warned-she maybe on this forum or someone may know her-his nameday is tomorrow- begins with a sl......r -means peaceand glory-lol-lives in perlino-a village an hours drive from gdynia-his surname is rad...ki

I don't think it's in anyones interests to "out" him on this forum.

Don't. He is not worth the trouble.

PJ

no-one has to admitt knowing him on here but if they hear a friend talk about new boyfriend may warn her- just trying to protect other women-least i can do

woman, what are you going to do about him and the situation?

She was obviously kidding.

noble cause but I think that it would not help you in your life directly. You made some bad choices and it takes two to tango. he showed you who he is and it is time to move on, instead of carrying bad feelings around. Venting is one thing, putting his name on PF is another. See the difference?

Sorry gtd, i dont know how that happened. It was Del Boy's quote. If you can tell me how to edit, I will. But I dont see an "edit" button anywhere.


Umm, no I wasn't kidding. She can post his name :)

Don't sweat the quote...the edit option disappears after a while.

I also agree with your sentiment but sadly too many nuts exist online and putting people's names can cause major problems. While part of me thinks we should publicy embarrass all idiots like this the other side is where does it end? They can post about her and make things up...is a slippery slope.

She was obviously kidding.

Let's hope so. There was a lol there. Always a good sign that it's not to be taken literally. Maniacal Cackling excepted of course.

no I wasn't kidding.

Ahh. I've changed my mind. That's really not a sensible suggestion.

See you lost yourself a supporter there through being too clever by half...

is a slippery slope.

Yes and not everyone has a baking tray.

If you must.

When you have left him, leave a nice message at nasza klasa

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And for anyone else... I know that I shouldn't encourage this sort of thing, but one of our own has a admitted similar action. And it seemed OK then.

edit: Isn't it strange how alcohol affects the thought process.

Ah,this women desire to take revenge from men,former boyfriends.I never understood that.
Does a man take revenge from girls?

I can understand your desire to tell her but it's his responsibility. He is already lying to her and nothing good will come of their relationship if he is capable of being that kind of person.