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Are you in a Polish-nonPolish relationship?


bossie 1 | 123  
9 Jul 2006 /  #1
If you are, I will appreciate all remarks you may have about the nature of such adventure. I'm experiencing one and would like to know your opinions.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
10 Jul 2006 /  #2
I'm in one.
apsou  
10 Jul 2006 /  #3
yes... i am 2 years now...i am from Greece and i have polish girlfriend:) General is not problem...but remember is big distance between relationship and married:) polish girls or are the best or are the worst at the world...General you need time to discover that...polish girls (and ALL girls)are cleaver...
Guest  
10 Jul 2006 /  #4
Polish - even though she doesn't speak Polish very well now (her parents were born in Poland; she was born in the US). But she has all the "features" of her mom so I'm happy :).
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
10 Jul 2006 /  #5
I'm sure bossie meant Polish as in "living" in Poland. I'm happy that you have a GF with PL characteristics:) I'm sure she's beautiful.
Guest  
10 Jul 2006 /  #6
Actually, she's not very beautiful, but she is and feels "like a woman", cooks well, likes me, and I feel good with her .
OP bossie 1 | 123  
2 Aug 2006 /  #7
It got quiet here... I was wondering if you have any particular experiences that other people would never imagine could happen. For example my Latin husband does everything at home, including baby care, but the moment we step out of the door, I have to push the buggie, change nappies, feed, play, ect. All that because in South America men don't do any housework, it's a female thing - for wives and maids...
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
2 Aug 2006 /  #8
Ah but being beautiful doesn't necessarily mean physically :)

Bossie- Be thankful that at least he helps you out at home :) Maybe he thinks he'll lose the masculinity in the eyes of others. I've spoke to many women that claim the husband never even picked up a dish or went into the refridgerator.
OP bossie 1 | 123  
2 Aug 2006 /  #9
Oh, but I am very happy about my husband's helpfulness, it's just that it makes me laugh that he's so different in public. Well, it annoyed me once or twice, but overall I can't complain :)

My topic seems to have been asleep for some time. But I remember someone writing about the attractiveness of Latins and Blacks and their attraction to Poles, nevermind the gender.

So how is it guys, if I may ask again, with it? Who's attractive to Poles and who are Poles attractive to? How far does the attraction go? Dating? Serious relationships? Marriage? Kids? Divorce?

Let me hear from you, dear forum members and visitors!

dziwna_gruszka - | 197  
19 Nov 2006 /  #10
Guest that is horrible "she's not very beautiful" what kind of guy would say that i mean your honest but a little to honest
californiagirl  
22 Nov 2006 /  #11
My topic seems to have been asleep for some time. But I remember someone writing about the attractiveness of Latins and Blacks and their attraction to Poles, nevermind the gender.

So how is it guys, if I may ask again, with it? Who's attractive to Poles and who are Poles attractive to? How far does the attraction go? Dating? Serious relationships? Marriage? Kids? Divorce?

Let me hear from you, dear forum members and visitors!

bossie,

I just found your post today. your situation sounds unique because usually it's Latin women who marry Polish men and not the other way around. Poles and Latins marry alot in the US and they have kids. So yes, Latins are very attracted to Poles. what is the attraction? Latins have only one thing on their minds so what do you suppose it could be? :) Latins tend to focus on physical attraction and feelings while Poles tend to focus on the person, like sharing common interests, etc.

it can be difficult for the two to be in a lasting relationship because there are such major cultural differences. it's normal in the Latin culture to be overly dramatic about everything, to feel things dramatically and express all feelings in an exaggerated way but Poles are more reserved. after a while, the Pole might find the Latin too overwhelming. and the Latin might miss the heat and drama if their spouse is more reserved.
davidpeake 14 | 451  
22 Nov 2006 /  #12
hi Bossie,

Im an Aussie guy married to a pol and we are now living in wroclaw Poland. Its great. ask away if you want to know anything.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
22 Nov 2006 /  #13
I would just like to know how you're managing.
apsou  
26 Nov 2006 /  #14
Ah but being beautiful doesn't necessarily mean physically

YOU HAVE 1000% RIGHT :)
wedzidlo 3 | 13  
26 Nov 2006 /  #15
hello. i just noticed this thread. i've been dating a polish guy who speaks very little english for two months. i don't speak any polish aside from a few phrases i've picked up. at first, dating him was very easy. the communication barrier wasn't much of an issue. but i find it is becoming more frustrating as there are things i'd like to talk to him about, and i'm unable to. i think we had a major miscommunication last week, i think i may have inadvertently hurt his feelings or his pride, and i think he's acting slightly differently towards me now. what is frustrating is that we don't have the language skills to discuss it. so i really have no idea what is going on. i'm wondering how other people who have been in relationships with a language barrier deal with communication problems? i'm worried that if i try to discuss it, it might become worse. i suppose i should just ride it out and see what happens, but i liked the way he was treating me better before.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
26 Nov 2006 /  #16
I'm sorry to hear that. Yes, that is a big problem if you can't communicate. Because communication and the ability to talk about your feelings, thoughts etc. is very important in a relationship. And it's hard if you can't. You will need to start learning Polish and he english. You can teach each other.

What you can do, is write him a letter in english, that you feel you hurt his feelings, but don't know how, and you are sorry for that, but you would never do that, because you really care for him, and we can translate it here for you.

He can answer back in Polish also.
SamFilby  
26 Nov 2006 /  #17
The last couple of years that has been a massive influx of poles into the area where I live. I cant really say a bad word towards them. The guys come into the pubs have a laugh and a joke and are generally quite sociable. The girls, well what can I say !!?? Very pretty and have an easy going nature. Its obvious to me the girls have a different culture to the English girls when dating. Would anyone like to comment on ? ie What do the Polish girls look for in a guy. As compared to English girls they are world apart.

Sam
wedzidlo 3 | 13  
26 Nov 2006 /  #18
You will need to start learning Polish and he english. You can teach each other.
What you can do, is write him a letter in english, that you feel you hurt his feelings, but don't know how, and you are sorry for that, but you would never do that, because you really care for him, and we can translate it here for you.

thanks krysia! i will see him tonight. i'll try to get a handle on what's going on. it's really just a bunch of little things. none of them by themselves would mean anything, but all together, he has been acting different. but he's also been having trouble at work; he had a hard week. a male friend of mine suggested that maybe my guy just feels comfortable in the relationship and is getting a bit lazy, and that might be what i'm seeing. it very well could have nothing to do with the language barrier, and just to do with him, or me and him!

thank you so much for the translation offer! although i hope it won't come to that, it's very nice to know i could get help if i need it. he is taking english classes, but only started in september. and i'm doing my best to learn what polish i can, but it seems so difficult for me! the community college here might have an intro to polish class in the fall--they do offer a continuing ed class in the winter, but i can't attend because of a schedule conflict! i'm trying to find out if the local polish churches offer anything (someone from this forum suggested that actually :) ).
polak  
27 Nov 2006 /  #19
Polish men:
Maati 1 | 178  
27 Nov 2006 /  #20
"Actually, she's not very beautiful, but she is and feels "like a woman", cooks well, likes me, and I feel good with her "

She is not very beautiful? I hope she's not reading your posts here :)
ANIAH - | 60  
27 Nov 2006 /  #21
californiagirl, polish people are not at all reserved! What makes you think that?

I'm married to an English guy and he is definetely the more reserved of the two of us. For me everything is a big deal and I tend to make a bid drama out of things. Some people find me annoying..some very entertaining.

In Poland if someone asks you how are you, they don't reply very well thank you and then go in for a major operation the next day at the hospital. They give it to you how it is - so be careful who you ask :)

Because communication and the ability to talk about your feelings, thoughts etc. is very important in a relationship.

Not for guys, it isn't :)
Patrycja19 63 | 2,699  
27 Nov 2006 /  #22
Some people find me annoying..some very entertaining

Aniah, you are not annoying, lol , I have to agree with Aniah, even where I live
I find more Polish are outspoken and say whats on their mind,even if it tends to
get them in trouble. :)

my Father was pretty outspoken, my mom was more passive, but not when my father
passed away, she then took over and if someone crossed her path watch out!
californiagirl  
27 Nov 2006 /  #23
californiagirl, polish people are not at all reserved! What makes you think that?

reserved? impossible. no one is like that in any culture. I think I said "more reserved" meaning as compared to Latins. but I didn't mean being loud and expressing opinions. everyone does that everywhere on earth.
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
8 Dec 2006 /  #24
hey.. this is definitely the thread for me. I too am dating a Polish guy who barely spoke any English when I met him.. now we are living together, but its not been easy. We love each other but there are so many language and cultural differences that lead to arguments at times. Also I know that his family will never accept me as he left his wife for me.. but Im not a bad person and we love each other... any comments welcome.
davidpeake 14 | 451  
8 Dec 2006 /  #25
Hey Fisz,

sorry for the late reply, been away working then a week in the sunny dominican republic tanning my white whale body.

Getting back to the topic, yes im coping good, my wife's family are great, so i think thats important, have also just started my Polish lessons, so hopefully before long i will be able to say more than the easy stuff like hi, hello, good morning and night, beer please, thankyou and the swear words of course lol.
BLACKMAN  
9 Dec 2006 /  #26
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FISZ 24 | 2,116  
9 Dec 2006 /  #27
Getting back to the topic, yes im coping good, my wife's family are great, so i think thats important, have also just started my Polish lessons, so hopefully before long i will be able to say more than the easy stuff like hi, hello, good morning and night, beer please, thankyou and the swear words of course lol.

That ok. Good to see you're getting along. Much easier to learn while living there I'm sure. Good luck.
espana  
9 Dec 2006 /  #28
hello snow man !!!!!!

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just a woman  
9 Dec 2006 /  #29
I'm in Polish-Jewish (Israeli) relationship.I'm woman and believe me this Jewish man just takes my breath away!! I love him !
Eurola 4 | 1,909  
9 Dec 2006 /  #30
When I came to the US as a young and lovely girl :) I could not "chase away" all arabic men going after me in College, as well as from South America! They all seem to want a piece of really white meat! Ha. Ha. At the end, I even dated one man from Jordan, adored him, but I knew I could NEVER marry him.

We eventually split and I married a polish man. We are divorced now and I date mostly American men. It is hard for me to meet polish men now. The ones I met did not have a legal status and I was not sure, if they love me or they love the "vision" of a green card...

Personally, since "bossie" asked on Nov 19th, there are races and ethnic groups I never felt attracted to and would not date.

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