but not being able to provide to the level, the woman believes......is a large minus point...
I think that provinding on all levels would be ideal, however we all know that the reality of life is what it is.
All I know that if both sexes provide equaly on many levels, not only financialy, there is a better chance for a healthy relationship.
I also know that there are some men, who would never want to have an equal relationship with a women, because that's the way they think and function.
See: I am still not sure I have understood you correctly:)