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laura1980  
7 Feb 2007 /  #1
i think im falling in love with a polish man, he says he loves me, the trouble is he told me last night he is married!

we have only been together 4 weeks we have been inseperable. im really hurt but glad he told me

he says he doesnt love her anymore, he wants to be with me, they r only married for 7 months she is in poland & he is living in the UK they have no contact anymore. he says its too early to get a divorce

help!!
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
7 Feb 2007 /  #2
be careful and take things really slow...
daffy 23 | 1,508  
7 Feb 2007 /  #3
avoid avoid avoid (doesn't matter where they are from poland, ireland, uzbekestan)

Unless he actaully is divorced dont entertain it. You'll only get more hurt. I know i am being very pessimistic but its a defensive mechanism. Men can be quite devious when they are away from the home and will say anything to get into the bed

I hope he is not actually like this but be careful, only you can look out for you at the end of the day.

but i do hope if it is love, he gets the divorce and THEN you two can have a relantionship but hold to then.
miranda  
7 Feb 2007 /  #4
he says he doesnt love her anymore, he wants to be with me, they r only married for 7 months she is in poland & he is living in the UK they have no contact anymore.

bunch of lies. Men will say anything to get a woman in bed:(
daffy 23 | 1,508  
7 Feb 2007 /  #5
v true miranda
OP laura1980  
7 Feb 2007 /  #6
is it normal for polish women to let their hubbys to come to england on their own & work, i fine this very wierd! my head says No but my heart says yes! really confused! we already went to bed on the first night oops! now its a bit more than just sex...
wonski81 - | 22  
7 Feb 2007 /  #7
He said 7 months was to early to get divorced. What is the right time then. Better sooner than later, I think. Especially when he loves You, and wants to share his present life with You.

Listen to BubbaWoo and take it slowly, really slowly...
daffy 23 | 1,508  
7 Feb 2007 /  #8
laura, i bet you £10 you stop sex or love making and he would be gone.

i dont mean to be cold hearted - i just feel that - if he loves you, he will understand and respect your wishes until HE gets a divorce
OP laura1980  
7 Feb 2007 /  #9
i think he meant after 7 months it wasnt possible to get a divorce ie u have to be seperated for a year or something before u can file for divorce, im not sure of the rules in poland, thanks everyone for the advice :)

i think he meant after 7 months it wasnt possible to get a divorce ie u have to be seperated for a year or something before u can file for divorce, im not sure of the rules in poland, thanks everyone for the advice :)
Decorator 4 | 291  
7 Feb 2007 /  #10
bunch of lies. Men will say anything to get a woman in bed

And ANYTHING to get her out the next day...:)

Good luck any way Laura....
miranda  
7 Feb 2007 /  #11
And ANYTHING to get her out the next day...

ouch......
miranda  
7 Feb 2007 /  #13
well, were you speaking about yourself:)
Ranj 21 | 948  
7 Feb 2007 /  #14
This all sounds soooo familiar.....the guy is married, like it or not. Have some respect for yourself and boot his a$$ to the curb....if he's cheating on his wife, chances are he'll be cheating on you in no time. Find someone who doesn't have that extra baggage. Now you will probably say it's too late, we're in love, blah, blah, blah.....in that case, tell him to get his divorce and you will consider having a relationship with him.
Grzegorz_ 51 | 6,163  
7 Feb 2007 /  #15
he says he loves me

Sure :).
OP laura1980  
7 Feb 2007 /  #16
ouch :( i dont believe him anyway ive told him its lust not love after only 3 weeks and i dont love him!

will try to stop things & tell him to get a god damn divorce!
Decorator 4 | 291  
7 Feb 2007 /  #17
well, were you speaking about yourself

I count myself lucky just to get a woman through my front door, let alone the bed!! :)
miranda  
7 Feb 2007 /  #18
how come?

And ANYTHING to get her out the next day...

I know you were joking, but it was true in a way for some men and I found it hurtful:( :)

will try to stop things & tell him to get a god damn divorce!

aha...
Huegel 1 | 296  
7 Feb 2007 /  #19
i bet you £10

I'll see that and raise it €100.
Sorry laura but he's full of BS in my humble opinion.

will try to stop things & tell him to get a god damn divorce!

Congratulations, you've just conditioned yourself to fail. Try implies that you'll have a go, but you already know that you won't be successful. If you really mean it, don't try, do.

"I will tell him we have to stop and that he has to get a god damn divorce before he gets into my bed again. It is only fair to his wife and also to me!"

Otherwise, he's going to carry on using you, just like he is carrying on betraying his wife's trust everytime he is with you.
Decorator 4 | 291  
7 Feb 2007 /  #20
I know you were joking, but it was true in a way for some men and I found it hurtful

Stop that now Miranda, i'm not used to guilt as an emotion.. :)

There a platonic apology....oh what have i done? :)
miranda  
7 Feb 2007 /  #21
Stop that now Miranda, i'm not used to guilt as an emotion..

for an Irish? hard to believe, but than again Polish catholics have a gulit feeling built in, so perhaps Irish are different, I don't know:(. Stereotypes, streotypes.

There a platonic apology....oh what have i done?

I will recover - I just need some time:)
Pierogi  
7 Feb 2007 /  #22
Pardon my bluntness but generally if a guy leaves his wife for another woman its likely he'll eventually leave her too
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
7 Feb 2007 /  #23
hmm... tend to agree...
Ranj 21 | 948  
7 Feb 2007 /  #24
i dont believe him anyway ive told him its lust not love after only 3 weeks and i dont love him!

At least you see that.....nothing wrong with a little lust action when both people are adults and single---single being the operative word---I'm sure you can get someone a little more worthy---there are plenty of single gents on here I'm sure would be more than happy to accomadate you:)
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
7 Feb 2007 /  #25
he says he loves me, the trouble is he told me last night he is married!

He just barely told you last night that he is married? I think if he really is unhappy in his marriage and is planning to get a divorce he would have told you about it from the start. Why was he hiding it?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
7 Feb 2007 /  #26
Ranj,

There's something in the wording of your post [26] that a find odd and funny.
Ranj 21 | 948  
7 Feb 2007 /  #27
What do you find odd and funny about it?
Frank 23 | 1,183  
7 Feb 2007 /  #28
Guys are the same the world over.......do and say anything to get into your bed.....

Women are the same the world over....hear and believe anything they are told by a man they fancy, like, or love......

Its how lots of people get together.......people tell white/grey lies all over the world....whats new....

( Apart from Ireland, were only alcohol gets guys and girls together...lol...:)..:)..)
olivia  
9 Feb 2007 /  #29
Gurl he is lieing to you he just might want you to still be around and if you stay with him then he won so let that **** go and move on to another faithful polish man
adamasarr  
5 Oct 2007 /  #30
indeed they are.

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