My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad..

Did she find him ?

I am sorry to hear that. I understand that your heart was in the right place, and you should know that too. Grief does such strange things to people that there's no one way to handle it. That's a shame.

I still think there was something deeper going on there with her that meets the eye, really sorry it ended this way...... so life goes on and there's some 21yr old looking for new experiences somewhere on here. Chin up laddo !

yeah man. good luck in your future endevours.

no bro remember he died

i know i would really appreciate someone being caring and concerned about me if i was in a sad situation of losing my parent. i know i would actually need someone to be there for me and i would probably love the guy even more for that, not push him away and dump him... sorry to hear you were not appreciated.

thx it just seems like shes cold its a cultural difference

but i'm Polish, too lol. it's got nothing to do with culture, everybody has their own way of coping with problems and some people tend to build a wall around themselves and not let anyone in.

i guess its too bad when she got back from poland i gave her space for 4 weeks i sent her flowers every week and bought her a david yurman necklace very nice she excepted it all and now this....

you mean she was happy to accept your flowers and gifts, but not happy when you wanted your relationship back?

she was responsive yes! took the necklace without blinking

damn ice queen with a streak of golddigger. probably best that it turned out this way. now you're free to find someone who'll appreciate your thoughts.

your so right i wonder if i should ask for the necklace back? since she took it a week and half ago

What do you mean when you gave her "space"?

hell yeah! :D :D

How expensive was it? I'm not familiar with David Yurman's stuff. If it is expensive, I'm with PLK.

Did she ask you for the 4 weeks of space? If she did, what did she say when she asked for it?

(I haven't read the entire thread)

it was $1200

i am thinking i'd ask for it back just on principle whatever the price was.


hell yea x2. :D



yeah, good Qs ladies.

i did what she asked and i even held on to the necklace for 3weeks so she could get the space she wanted we went had lunch then she took the gift I asked her tonight for it back and she said im cheap and she cant believe i would ask for it back so i told her i cant believe your that classless to take it.....

Sorry to hear that things have ended so badly. I don't understand her request to have 4 weeks of space from the man she loved. But I think it was good that you didn't leave her even though she was treating you so wrong. It just would have been wrong to abandon someone during a time like that despite her bad behavior.

I love her thats why? i figured her dad died shes emotional, so... I talked to her and told her i got all her stuff in bags and shes like wow your not wasting time and i said igave you all the time you asked for but now i cant have your memories in my house.. taking her to lunch tomorrow to say goodbye any advice on what i should say?

good for you eddie. you'll be fine man.


dutch treat

where is the necklace please?

bye

j/k i'm sure you'll figure it out. seems you're taking care of business just fine.


life's 2 short.

I agree with plk,, I think she is using her grief against you.. I thought differently
in the beginning, but not now. not when she took the necklace then just
walks away leaving you hurt when you poured your heart into helping her.

I would ask her to come clean now.. dont lie, that she met someone and
is dating him.. and tell her, do you think its fair to keep something from me
when you are in the arms of someone else? do you think this means something?
It does to you but not to her.. so therefor she doesnt deserve it..

and ask her what does she mean by cheap when you were doing all you could
to make her feel better and along comes this surprise of I dont want to see
you anymore and you know there is a explaniation, and you want honesty
if anything she could give,, that would be the most you should expect..

Eddie , sorry so much has to happen to you.. hope everything works out. :)

First this woman asks you to give her space for 4 weeks but it's okay for her to be with other people. Then she blames you for the end of your relationship. And then she calls you classless because you ask for the $1200 necklace. Why are you taking this woman to lunch?

Eddiea19, i've been married twice, UK and Russian women, and a shed load of relationships where ever i've lived (obviously not as the same time as being married) but from your first message i sensed (recognised) that there was more to it than just a grieving woman.

Definately make sure as everyone else has suggested to get the necklace back, if however you are not able to, then just burn all her possessions in a trashcan......and feel better for it.

i dont think thiers is anyone else i asked her and she gets mad saying that she cant beliebe i would think that i cant get anaswers its just to sensitive right now i got to let time go by and then ask later i dont know anymore when i really feel its done ill make my move then

It doesn't make sense that she would get mad just because you ask her if there's someone else. Why can't she just say no?

i asked her today she said no doesnt that she just wants to spend time with mom and brother wants time to heal and said she doesnt feel like being in relationship or having sex or being accountable to a man.. so she said it was to hurtful and not fair to me cause she cant give me anything.. she opened up and said she needs time to think cause she had plans for her dad to come live here and now hes gone

Ok man, you gotta get a grip here. You got that? YOU are a Man and we are at our most MANtastic when we don't give a flying FCUK about the weather as long as we get done whatever it is we have to get done.

Not being invited to the dinner was not a slight because you didn't know the guy and that's that- it' was a nonissue. EDITED You'll see her again and she'll tell you all you need to know, if i were you i'd put my energy towards other things other than her. One thing is true women always give away their face cards in time.

As a man, you reserve the right to not be ultra-sensitive about people "knowing or not knowing themselves." Sure people can grieve but grieving, lamenting and projecting blame outwards are different things. Call a spade a spade I say, but never be surprised if the spade thinks otherwise.

It's never your responsibility to empathize with every hyper-sensitive soul out there. However there IS a balance of right and wrong but if that balance wasn't tipped in his passing well then my answer would have been "that's nature sweetheart, give me a call when you get that figured out."

Fix what you can fix, accept what you can't and hope for God's sake you find a woman who can figure out the difference between the two.

EDITED be glad 1200 bucks was all it cost you to get this trainwreck of "woman" out of your life, good luck in your brighter future. EDIT