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Lilu   
22 May 2008
Love / Wedding ceremony in Poland - is it done in church only? [7]

Well In Canada and the United states you can have a judge and you can get married anywhere you heart desires if it's out of a plane or under water or in a casino. Poland well see if you are treding on tricky ground, you can always find your way around thingsif you know where to go and who tot talk to, but all the wedding I have been to in poland where all in the church . I think you need to go talk to the priest and get some input for him if he will do it out side of a church. Plus don't you have to go to a judge anyways after the church to get hte legal marriage licnese? That what I remember my uncle had to do in poland .In the US if you choose to get married in the church it's all taken care of for you by the priest .If you are planning on a wedding there then why not a party there should be a party if you already have your family member all togehter . Why let their joy be waisted , thats a day for you to celebrate and you can always throw a party in canada when ever you get back.
Lilu   
24 Apr 2008
Love / 5 ways to intimidate/ turn off a Polish or non-Polish men;) [93]

Don't shave your legs and arms pits, talk down to them like they are children.
Definately know about cars and motorcycles bc they are very obsesive of those things and the more you know the more you can go up to a guy with a bike and be like dude you totally screwed up your **** by adding gold wheels or something along the line. hit on the guy that is standing next to the guy hiting on you. just ignore then and walk away . there is jsut alot of this that can irritate guys or anyone .... high ptch laughter like the nanny. Say that you want to get married soon right after the first date. being flatulent at the gym on a machine lol thats jsut funny.
Lilu   
9 Feb 2008
Love / Kocham Cię vs I love you - which sounds more sexy? [55]

I have heard these words so many times in both Polish and English but I have to say that I think it sounds more sexy said in English, but then on the other hand it looks so much better written in Polish....

I use both , plus my bf's language. it all depends on how you say it and mean it . Love it love , sometime you don't even need to say a word and that moment can be even more special.
Lilu   
22 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

Ok First of all someone getting married on a whim that whole divorce thing will happen . IN MY CASE I'm not going to marry just bc it seems the it thing to do, Listen up buddy you really need to know your significant other very well threw and threw, their stregnth and weakness, their goals in life, their spiritual life if they have one , their family life, their past, what they are hoping for in the future , everything , there MUST ALWAYS BE COMMUNICATION. Yes it's not easy but you need to have patients, understanding , loyalty , communication, love ,ect . Getting married is a big step in life and I don't believe in divorce . So to take that step you need to know everything , respect them and their family and be understanding of alot as well and vice versa. Anything is possible with love but with love there is great responsability and if you are ready for that comitment then and only then it's right to even think about marriage.This isn't a video game where you can hit a restart button when it gets hard , you work threw things and move forward , not hit the escape button. And It's not about who is from where and what color of the skin, If it is truely is love and you are truely devoted it does not matter what nationality you are. Love sees no boundries .

Also It's not that his family is pushing him to marry one of his own , it is his family back home pushing to meet me and pushing to have me be a part of the family , Because I work very well with him. It's like saying where he is weak I am stronge , one hand covers the other you know . So trust me it's not the cultural thing, I have been highly respectful of his culture and his religion and he has been the same for me .

The reason I was upset was bc the last minute mind change and freak out that was irrelevant . The reason he freaked out was bc people would be asking who I was and he was not ready to say fiancee and I don't blame him I wasn't rushing anything everything takes time , and he also was not so sure about the settings of 18 people sharing one bathroom and the condition not being all luxurious and all, He was more worried about that. I have no problem sharing a bathroom and sleeping in a room with all girls what ever it's like a camping trip . So the issue was never if his family will accept me , it was the conditions and him being ready to take that step in making our relationship one step more serious.

Yes this past weekend he asked again if I wanted to go and he was explaining why he freaked out and my answer is still being decided , bc for me to be in europe and not go and visit my family in poland is just a slap in the face , so I am trying to work out the schedualing of things .

Trust me you don't rush into things , it all takes time , baby steps you know.
Lilu   
20 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

what i think is that your bloke freaked out that all his family who already met you loves you and treats you like his future wife, and the family you were about to meet was just the same and all of the sudden he thought - i dont want this anymore. so instead of being mature about it he acted like a coward.

Ya he freaked and I have been around the albanian coulture and I understand it clearly soo I already knew once he brought it up thats where things were heading , the thing is i get it , i get why he freaked out and thats not what bothers me its the fact that he waited sooo long and was telling everyone I was going making me look like an assss and got my hopes up just to go see the country and have a good time. I was never thinking about marriage and I knew before hand that people might think that and I was nervous but I just shrugged it off bc I knew what I have with him and those extended members are his family but he makes his own choices in life not them.
Lilu   
12 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

How do you know that his family wanted you there? Did they tell you personally? It sounds like his family has very different ideas about women and how they should behave and he's trying to respect that. Maybe they said something to him recently and he doesn't want to tell you.

Ya actually they did , I pick up the language a while ago , I can understand 90% of it but they kept asking to speak to me on the phone when I was over his house and they gave me the phone and I didnt really know what to say beside hello and how are you doing bc kinda akward but they asked me to come to the wedding . And his parent which are here keep bothering me to go shopping with them to pick out nice outfit for the wedding and other like nick nacks and ect and are telling me how it is back there and waht they want me to see and how they hope I like the country and culture.

I don't know this whole thing is sooo confusing I just don't even know anymore. And the thrill of actually going isn't there for me soo either way at this point I could give a rat's asss . I'm just very disappointed and that just makes me a little sad thats all.
Lilu   
12 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

The time to visit his family is when YOU are the center of attention, and it is known that you are coming to be checked out as the potential bride. Then they will fete you , and check you out at the same time -- and you can do the same for them.

Your boyfriend probably really loves you, and invited you to the wedding cause he wants to be with you. Then when the date gets closer, and the details come into focus, he probably realised that there could be some problems, and he doesn't want the first time meeting with his parents to go wrong

I see his parents on a daily basis they love me like a daughter and have shown and said that many times , its the other extened family that he's scared of me meeting bc they will think I am the wife to be and that alone that scares him not the whole focus on who I am bc they know of me . Its the marriage thing thats freaking him out . Trust me on this the focus doesnt have to be on me , so I'd be ok with it but . Point blank he did say it was the marrige talk he wants to avoid . and ya ...

I would go. this is 2008.. if you feel comfortable with him, thats really all that matters
and if you dont want people to think anything, ask questions, then see if theres
a place to sleep with the gals.. this way , no ones going to say anything.. and enjoy
your time while your there..

if he came to visit you and your parents, would he sleep in another room away from
you?

go , have fun.. your only young once.. lifes to short. and its better to have loved
then to never have loved at all... :))

oh, forgot the most important, let him cool down.. and just tell him you want to go :)

Well of coarse I wouldn't be sleeping near him thats just wrong if I did we are not married for me to even disrespect my self and his family by being stupid . That I know I would be sleeping with his female cousins for sure.

And yes if he came to poland he would be also be in a seperate room. And if all this went down and it was supposed to it would have been a good time .

think you need to put this in perspective, hon. I don't think this is backing off AT ALL! In fact, what your boyfriend was saying is actually to protect you -- people may look down on you, and he doesn't want that kind of rep to be around the woman he cares about.

Well he made it very clear that he doesn't want me to go bc once they meet me they will automaticly think another wedding yay! And he's sooooooo far from the wedding thing that he doesn't want me to be anywhere near albania let alone his extened family anytime soon for that and that only purpose.
Lilu   
11 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

I'm kinda stuck in a rut and I feel sooooo bummed out . I really don't know what else to do.. My bf and I have been together 2 year and his uncle in albanian is gettting married and for the past 6 months him and his family were telling me I am gonna go with them this summer to the wedding , and he was all about it and was telling everyone that I was gonna come and all this stuff. And I kept telling them , I am not imposing , this is not my choice but my bf's it's up to him if he wants me to go and if he wants to take that step in our relationship and he kept saying he's cool with it and ya how long would you stay with us the whole time there or break off to go to poland. I told him if I go I would stay for 2 weeks enjoy the wedding and sight seeing and then only fair for me to go visit my family in poland since I will be like a hop skip and a jump away . I told him he's more then welcome to come with me but he doesn't have to go if he feels weird about it . He was ok with all of this and kept bothering me for 6 months you are coming right , and telling me oo it's gonna be soo much fun , you's gonna love it . Now mind you this is the first time either of us would bring someone back home to the families , so it's kind of a big step, bc you know they are gonna think wedding bells but thats not mentioned or thought about at this moment . ( BC he just freaks out and I'm not ready for that either but it could eventualy go there if things get patched up, you know everything takes time and theres no reason to rush things especial rush into I do and find out later it's I don't.) Today he starts telling me this ******** of a line that ohh your gonna have to be aware that there will always more then 18 people around the house plus guest eery day before and after the wedding , there is only one toilet for 16 people who live together , theres no ac , yada yada , then he says well there is also the fact that they are gonna be asking who you are and a single women with out her parents visiting with a family looks not good and they might be looking down on you , Basicly he simply didnt want to say that he doesn't want me to go bc he's scared that his family might think that I might be the one he possibly might think of marrying in the future. Ohh yes and did I mention that his family back home knows about me and they are the ones who where pushing to meet me bc I helped him turn his life around to a good path and were happy and want me there. Also his family here wanted me to go .

I was siting down trying to take things in like wait a min I know how europe is hello .. I know how strict some family morals are sooo wait a min why is he saying all this bs .. and it clicked in 5 secs ohhh I C he's scared and instead of giving in a shot of telling me the truth a long time ago when I kept telling him and telling him it's up to you it's a big step and it doesn't bother me if you don't want me to come along I get it it's ok . Now servral months later after I actually look forward to this beside being scared of trying to understand 90% of what people are saying , now it hurt it hurt alot , bc he got my hopes up , he even told my parents this plan of going with his family back home and at first my parents where like wow um , I didnt even tell them bc I wasn't sure and I didn't want to look like a fool in front of my family when it came down to me not going and this whole thing just being wishful thinking.

For him going back home before ment getting away from that wretched x of his 4 yrs ago and I have completely changed him for the better , everything in his life picked up in the right place bc of me and it's just different now for him , and I get it but why wait so long after he is all excited and telling everyone family and friends that I'm going with them and that it will be a blast and how much fun we all will have , all of a sudden make up an excuse to get out of it so close to the date the ticket are going to be bought and he just backsout completely , even thought I told him there was an escape button months ago and taht I understood all the presure and i didnt want to go if it made things weird . I gave him that evry single time he mentioned it . Now I look like an ass bc I believe that .

So I simply told him I don't want to go anymore anyways bc I feel like I was imposing and I didn't want to give him and his family a hard time trying to explain who I was and what I was doing there to other family friends and relatives. I only would go if he wanted me there , not to just be there and force thing bc thats not what I'm about . I understand he's scared of the commitment and I get it , I'm a bit hurt but I get it. I was never thinking about the marriage thing ,I would never over step my boundries.

But he's mad at me for being hurt and who knows now I haven't heard from him since ..

I'm sorry for writing this long but I just needed to get it out of my head and off my shoulders. And if anyone reads this , thanks for reading .
Lilu   
3 Jan 2008
Love / My best New Year's in years or "Polish ladies are simply the best!!!" [11]

I had an interesting new years eve , 5 of us went to this new polish resturant , my bf , his brother his friend and his gf and of coarse me , all night ling I kept hearing from his friend , man I don't like this music, I don't like that there are older people here ( it was full with younger croud but that aparently wasnt good enough bc some people where around 50 yrs old) anywhere you go , man lets go down town see if we can get my gf in , ( NO you bigg whiny Beeotch shes 20 your 26 they are not gonna let you in w/o paying some huge cover charge and she wont get in no matter what) even the table next to us which was totally amazed as to why we werent dancing bc the whole dance floor was packed no one was sitting but us like a bunch of loosers. I got fed up grabed my bf and his brother , threw his brother at a friend of mine who was there and we had a blast after that just us 3 had ablast the other 2 complained the whole night. I even tryed to get the girl on the dance floor nothing wouldnt budge... wtf I swear
Lilu   
25 Dec 2007
Love / how can i get him to fall in love with me again? [43]

what makes a man fall in love with you, truly, madly and deeply, thats what i want

I wish We all knew, that would make things soooooooooooo much easier. My bf is a stubborn jackass I love him but lets face it thats what he is and lord knows I have patients like no other person. Some times you need to look to waht makes you happy and if he treats you like that , in the end do you really want that , it's one thing to be able to tolerate it for a while just sweep it under the rug but another if it eats away at you for a few years. It will hurt if you split and try to take it likely . Who loves you more then him , your family , friends and they are there for you threw it all soo put onthat life jaket and jump into that new sea of fish . Cause this guy will not realize how special you are and you deserve someone who will treat you special and take care of you.
Lilu   
12 Dec 2007
Love / Married a Polish guy. Now what? [40]

Wow , he has major insecurities and you need to get out of that situation before it gets worse. If he gets deported OHHH WELLL , not to be mean but thats life , you brought him here , things just arent working, he doesn't know the language , has no family here and Probably better off back home. Everything will eventually even it's self out it's just gonna take some time. Good luck with everything
Lilu   
12 Dec 2007
Love / Polish-Islam Relationship Union [450]

Muslim-Polish relations have always been good

Yes it is and Im dating a muslim and I'm catholic , and by far the best bf I have ever had .
Lilu   
30 Nov 2007
Life / Looking for Polish eurodance / techno in Polish ... [9]

lol I'm not talking about cheesy polish music Just seems like there really isn't anything decent in polish. Yes I know about all the other music my goal was to find polish eurodance or techno in polish which seems like finding a white elephant not gonna happen
Lilu   
28 Nov 2007
Life / Looking for Polish eurodance / techno in Polish ... [9]

Hello,
I'm looking for some good remixes/ songs of polish songs that are eurodance / techno / trance that are in polish? Apparently it is difficult to find . So I am begging for help !!!! I have found a few that are very good but it's a dead end street ,so any help would be great!!!! Thank you very very much to anyone who will give me some help!!!!!

The last song I have found to be decent was Gosia Andrzejewicz - Troche ciepla ( stone rxm) but it's like trying to find a lepricon and his pot of gold nearly impossible.
Lilu   
26 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

cells" sucked out of you

Did you know that when abortion is in progress that the embrio trys to move away and cling to the uteran wall. Kinda makes you think .
Lilu   
26 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

Abortion in first trimester of pregnancy is very easy and harmless.

Right? Once you have one there is emotional scaring that you can never get rid of. trust me I work with patients that come in that have had abortions and the damage that is physical and emiotional is very hard to get rid of. For me it's wrong , it's not the childs fault that this happened. And yes this situation is very difficult, I truely feel for her. My friend had a baby on her own last yr and she wouldn't think twice about changing anything. She is 23 and her child will be 2 next yr feb. It can be the best thing that ever happens to her , and if you are surrounded by family and friends that love you and support you, you should have no problem raising a child. That child will love you till the end of time and thats the kind of love that is worth way more then some twit and his poor desion skills.

It must be that this guy is too fertile, that we were too constant

condums and other items are not fall proof. one little microscopic hole and vola theres a bun in the oven.
Lilu   
26 Nov 2007
Life / Young Gifted and Polish [15]

Klemens Murańka, 13 years old. 3rd on K-85 summer Championship of Poland, only After Adam Małysz and Kamil Stoch.

Thats amazing. Thats hard to pick up and most adults are not ballsy enough to do that.
Lilu   
24 Nov 2007
Life / Young Gifted and Polish [15]

Kamil Kucharzewski - already appeared on another thread but deserves to start this one

Why this kid all gangsta ? I understand all the break dancing but why the corn rolls?
Lilu   
24 Nov 2007
Life / Sexy underwear Polish style [37]

This string covers all the important places.

ya it's as usefull as a hole in the wall .
Lilu   
24 Nov 2007
Love / Pick up lines - the Polish style [110]

I had a guy come up to me at a cafe and told me " what would you say if I ripped all your colthes off right now?" , lets just say my hot coffee accidentally fell on his lap accidentally.
Lilu   
24 Nov 2007
Love / Never dated a polish girl, although my parents want me to (Chicago) [49]

Yeah, my friends don't really go to clubs anymore and the polish chicks in chicago are usually at one of two places... jedynka and club accent... not really my scene but I might grow a pair and go by myself one day lol

The whole one or two clubs being filled with polish women. In cleveland its Mercury lounge on sundays . Hottest night at that club! IT's mostly europeans but one of hte main dj's is polish , all of polonia goes there religiously and I know a whole bunch of gals that are there regardless polish or others. But the polish ones are better looking then the albanians sorry but them gals are a little thick and look like a few got smacked in the face with a shovel.

Anyways just get out there who knows maybe you will be getting some coffee or something and bump into the girl of your dreams. just get out there and keep your eyes open.
Lilu   
24 Nov 2007
Love / Pick up lines - the Polish style [110]

What are the best or worst pick up line(s) you have heard or used?

This one was told to me recently,

Why don't we forget about playing Doctor, lets play gynecologist.
Lilu   
23 Nov 2007
Life / Sexy underwear Polish style [37]

Well if they made them in a tanga style that would be nice. Anyone know where you can order one or two or a box full ?