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Married a Polish guy. Now what?


urszula 1 | 253  
11 Dec 2007 /  #1
I meet him on the internet. He says he loves me. I get him a visa. He come to the US, I marry him. After marriage he thinks I cheat on him. Not true. He buys me flowers, I forgive him. Again. Same thing. He thinks I cheat on him. Not true again. More flowers. He gets yeast infection and sores on his uncircumsized thingy there. But before he knows what the helll he's got, he asks if I've been cheating on him insinuating I gave him vd. I wasn't and I didn't. He accuses me of giving him aids. I don't have aids. I am very upset about these accusations after I do everything for this guy.

What should I do now? I feel bad he treats me this way after I gave him everything. Is this normal behaviour for Polish guys?

He is mad at me now, he says he has no family here, doesn't speak the language well and he says I "oblaƂam go" whatever that means....
marek s - | 269  
11 Dec 2007 /  #2
well if you are unhappy with him, tell him so. if he doesnt care what you say or doesnt want to change and work on things, leave him.
OP urszula 1 | 253  
11 Dec 2007 /  #3
I'm scared to tell him because he has a green card based on our marriage and if we seperate, he will get deported and he will get pretty mad.
hello 22 | 891  
11 Dec 2007 /  #4
What's your and his age?
Lucynda 4 | 70  
11 Dec 2007 /  #5
Often guys who accuse you of cheating on them, are actually cheating on you. Weird, but true.
OP urszula 1 | 253  
11 Dec 2007 /  #6
What's your and his age?

I'm 41 he's 45. He has a kid in Poland coz he was divorced. Never met the kid.
He claims his previous wife was cheating on him, so maybe he has a problem trusting women?
hello 22 | 891  
11 Dec 2007 /  #7
I can understand him when he says he has no friends/family here. If you add he don't speak English, his life may be quite depressing here. Maybe buy him TV set with Polish TV so he could enjoy Poland somehow.
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
11 Dec 2007 /  #8
What should I do now? I feel bad he treats me this way after I gave him everything. Is this normal behaviour for Polish guys?

You are dealing with a nut case. Sorry for being blunt but I think you should dump him as soon as you can. Screw his green card, protect yourself.
OP urszula 1 | 253  
11 Dec 2007 /  #9
Maybe buy him TV set with Polish TV so he could enjoy Poland somehow.

I did. But later cancelled it coz he wasn't watching it and it was expensive. $30.00 a month extra for 3 Polish programs. I did everything for this guy and treated him like a king, but now I think I know where I made an error. He got too much of a good thing too soon.
hello 22 | 891  
11 Dec 2007 /  #10
Is he working, are you working too?
OP urszula 1 | 253  
11 Dec 2007 /  #11
You are dealing with a nut case. Sorry for being blunt but I think you should dump him as soon as you can. Screw his green card, protect yourself.

dariusz.... wow. I don't know what to say. love you man! That's great ! You are absolutely right!
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
11 Dec 2007 /  #12
ill marry you instead ;) get rid of the nutter
OP urszula 1 | 253  
11 Dec 2007 /  #13
Thank you filios. Very nice proposition, but give me some time to catch my breath :)
Puzzler 9 | 1,089  
11 Dec 2007 /  #14
Married a Polish guy. Now what?

- Hm, it appears to me you Urszula are a bit off the wall too....

Yeah, catch your breath and marry Filios ...
:)
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
12 Dec 2007 /  #15
Urszula, I can tell you truthfully that I am 100% sane :) and Polish to boot!

I can take care of this nutcase, because thats how he sounds, seriously. theres something unstable about the guy!
Listen to Puzzler!
tomekcatkins 8 | 130  
12 Dec 2007 /  #16
1. I think you'd better split up. You gave him some chances and still he is acting unreasonable. Even it looks like he doesn't like to live in the US.

2. Next time wait some time before you marry. Personally I think 4 years is the least you should wait. Because getting to know if things will work out takes some time.

3. Success!
Puzzler 9 | 1,089  
12 Dec 2007 /  #17
and Polish to boot!

- ... and Greek, with lots of gifts for ya...
;)
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
12 Dec 2007 /  #18
with lots of gifts for ya...
;)

THE GIFT OF DEMOCRACY!
Puzzler 9 | 1,089  
12 Dec 2007 /  #19
- That's right! In your household, Urszula, the Majority shall always rule.

I hope you know who that should be?
:)
Lilu 3 | 32  
12 Dec 2007 /  #20
Wow , he has major insecurities and you need to get out of that situation before it gets worse. If he gets deported OHHH WELLL , not to be mean but thats life , you brought him here , things just arent working, he doesn't know the language , has no family here and Probably better off back home. Everything will eventually even it's self out it's just gonna take some time. Good luck with everything
Foreigner4 12 | 1,769  
12 Dec 2007 /  #21
But before he knows what the helll he's got,

he know's what he's got. It's painfully obvious that not only is he cheating on you but obviously used you for a green card. Again i repeat it's PAINFULLY OBVIOUS he's CHEATING ON YOU and had EVERY INTENTION OF USING YOU.

if you don't split with this dude make sure his a$$ is deported then you probably deserve what misery is bound to come.
Philips1 2 | 38  
12 Dec 2007 /  #22
urszula

Why did you name it "Married a Polish guy........? You're not American yourself. Polish girl married a Polish guy sounds in your case much better.
OP urszula 1 | 253  
12 Dec 2007 /  #23
You're not American yourself.

Born in US. Polish parents.
Thanks for your opinions all.

- Hm, it appears to me you Urszula are a bit off the wall too....

Just a victim of love.....
plk123 8 | 4,150  
12 Dec 2007 /  #24
yeah, i am also thinking along many of the same lines expressed here. time to move on and let him go back to PL.. some folks just can't deal with america or big changes. good luck.
marek s - | 269  
12 Dec 2007 /  #25
rid him and he will be deported, your problems are gone.
El Gato 4 | 351  
12 Dec 2007 /  #26
Often guys who accuse you of cheating on them, are actually cheating on you. Weird, but true.

Not just guys...
marek s - | 269  
12 Dec 2007 /  #27
my now ex wife accused me many of times of cheating. i wasnt and she was.
El Gato 4 | 351  
12 Dec 2007 /  #28
People who cheat get really suspicious of their partners, often making it obvious that they cheat.
polishgirltx  
12 Dec 2007 /  #29
Didn't that guy need only a green card and not really you???
plk123 8 | 4,150  
12 Dec 2007 /  #30
that's what it seems to be.

People who cheat get really suspicious of their partners, often making it obvious that they cheat.

there are better lyers out there.

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