urszula 1 | 253 11 Dec 2007 / #1I meet him on the internet. He says he loves me. I get him a visa. He come to the US, I marry him. After marriage he thinks I cheat on him. Not true. He buys me flowers, I forgive him. Again. Same thing. He thinks I cheat on him. Not true again. More flowers. He gets yeast infection and sores on his uncircumsized thingy there. But before he knows what the helll he's got, he asks if I've been cheating on him insinuating I gave him vd. I wasn't and I didn't. He accuses me of giving him aids. I don't have aids. I am very upset about these accusations after I do everything for this guy.What should I do now? I feel bad he treats me this way after I gave him everything. Is this normal behaviour for Polish guys?He is mad at me now, he says he has no family here, doesn't speak the language well and he says I "oblałam go" whatever that means....
marek s - | 269 11 Dec 2007 / #2well if you are unhappy with him, tell him so. if he doesnt care what you say or doesnt want to change and work on things, leave him.
OP urszula 1 | 253 11 Dec 2007 / #3I'm scared to tell him because he has a green card based on our marriage and if we seperate, he will get deported and he will get pretty mad.
Lucynda 4 | 70 11 Dec 2007 / #5Often guys who accuse you of cheating on them, are actually cheating on you. Weird, but true.
OP urszula 1 | 253 11 Dec 2007 / #6What's your and his age?I'm 41 he's 45. He has a kid in Poland coz he was divorced. Never met the kid.He claims his previous wife was cheating on him, so maybe he has a problem trusting women?
hello 22 | 891 11 Dec 2007 / #7I can understand him when he says he has no friends/family here. If you add he don't speak English, his life may be quite depressing here. Maybe buy him TV set with Polish TV so he could enjoy Poland somehow.
z_darius 14 | 3,968 11 Dec 2007 / #8What should I do now? I feel bad he treats me this way after I gave him everything. Is this normal behaviour for Polish guys?You are dealing with a nut case. Sorry for being blunt but I think you should dump him as soon as you can. Screw his green card, protect yourself.
OP urszula 1 | 253 11 Dec 2007 / #9Maybe buy him TV set with Polish TV so he could enjoy Poland somehow.I did. But later cancelled it coz he wasn't watching it and it was expensive. $30.00 a month extra for 3 Polish programs. I did everything for this guy and treated him like a king, but now I think I know where I made an error. He got too much of a good thing too soon.
OP urszula 1 | 253 11 Dec 2007 / #11You are dealing with a nut case. Sorry for being blunt but I think you should dump him as soon as you can. Screw his green card, protect yourself.dariusz.... wow. I don't know what to say. love you man! That's great ! You are absolutely right!
OP urszula 1 | 253 11 Dec 2007 / #13Thank you filios. Very nice proposition, but give me some time to catch my breath :)
Puzzler 9 | 1,089 11 Dec 2007 / #14Married a Polish guy. Now what?- Hm, it appears to me you Urszula are a bit off the wall too....Yeah, catch your breath and marry Filios ...:)
Filios1 8 | 1,336 12 Dec 2007 / #15Urszula, I can tell you truthfully that I am 100% sane :) and Polish to boot!I can take care of this nutcase, because thats how he sounds, seriously. theres something unstable about the guy!Listen to Puzzler!
tomekcatkins 8 | 130 12 Dec 2007 / #161. I think you'd better split up. You gave him some chances and still he is acting unreasonable. Even it looks like he doesn't like to live in the US.2. Next time wait some time before you marry. Personally I think 4 years is the least you should wait. Because getting to know if things will work out takes some time.3. Success!
Puzzler 9 | 1,089 12 Dec 2007 / #17and Polish to boot!- ... and Greek, with lots of gifts for ya...;)
Puzzler 9 | 1,089 12 Dec 2007 / #19- That's right! In your household, Urszula, the Majority shall always rule.I hope you know who that should be?:)
Lilu 3 | 32 12 Dec 2007 / #20Wow , he has major insecurities and you need to get out of that situation before it gets worse. If he gets deported OHHH WELLL , not to be mean but thats life , you brought him here , things just arent working, he doesn't know the language , has no family here and Probably better off back home. Everything will eventually even it's self out it's just gonna take some time. Good luck with everything
Foreigner4 12 | 1,768 12 Dec 2007 / #21But before he knows what the helll he's got,he know's what he's got. It's painfully obvious that not only is he cheating on you but obviously used you for a green card. Again i repeat it's PAINFULLY OBVIOUS he's CHEATING ON YOU and had EVERY INTENTION OF USING YOU.if you don't split with this dude make sure his a$$ is deported then you probably deserve what misery is bound to come.
Philips1 2 | 38 12 Dec 2007 / #22urszulaWhy did you name it "Married a Polish guy........? You're not American yourself. Polish girl married a Polish guy sounds in your case much better.
OP urszula 1 | 253 12 Dec 2007 / #23You're not American yourself.Born in US. Polish parents.Thanks for your opinions all.- Hm, it appears to me you Urszula are a bit off the wall too....Just a victim of love.....
plk123 8 | 4,148 12 Dec 2007 / #24yeah, i am also thinking along many of the same lines expressed here. time to move on and let him go back to PL.. some folks just can't deal with america or big changes. good luck.
El Gato 4 | 351 12 Dec 2007 / #26Often guys who accuse you of cheating on them, are actually cheating on you. Weird, but true.Not just guys...
marek s - | 269 12 Dec 2007 / #27my now ex wife accused me many of times of cheating. i wasnt and she was.
El Gato 4 | 351 12 Dec 2007 / #28People who cheat get really suspicious of their partners, often making it obvious that they cheat.
plk123 8 | 4,148 12 Dec 2007 / #30that's what it seems to be.People who cheat get really suspicious of their partners, often making it obvious that they cheat.there are better lyers out there.
