Love /
A little bummed out [16]
Ok First of all someone getting married on a whim that whole divorce thing will happen . IN MY CASE I'm not going to marry just bc it seems the it thing to do, Listen up buddy you really need to know your significant other very well threw and threw, their stregnth and weakness, their goals in life, their spiritual life if they have one , their family life, their past, what they are hoping for in the future , everything , there MUST ALWAYS BE COMMUNICATION. Yes it's not easy but you need to have patients, understanding , loyalty , communication, love ,ect . Getting married is a big step in life and I don't believe in divorce . So to take that step you need to know everything , respect them and their family and be understanding of alot as well and vice versa. Anything is possible with love but with love there is great responsability and if you are ready for that comitment then and only then it's right to even think about marriage.This isn't a video game where you can hit a restart button when it gets hard , you work threw things and move forward , not hit the escape button. And It's not about who is from where and what color of the skin, If it is truely is love and you are truely devoted it does not matter what nationality you are. Love sees no boundries .
Also It's not that his family is pushing him to marry one of his own , it is his family back home pushing to meet me and pushing to have me be a part of the family , Because I work very well with him. It's like saying where he is weak I am stronge , one hand covers the other you know . So trust me it's not the cultural thing, I have been highly respectful of his culture and his religion and he has been the same for me .
The reason I was upset was bc the last minute mind change and freak out that was irrelevant . The reason he freaked out was bc people would be asking who I was and he was not ready to say fiancee and I don't blame him I wasn't rushing anything everything takes time , and he also was not so sure about the settings of 18 people sharing one bathroom and the condition not being all luxurious and all, He was more worried about that. I have no problem sharing a bathroom and sleeping in a room with all girls what ever it's like a camping trip . So the issue was never if his family will accept me , it was the conditions and him being ready to take that step in making our relationship one step more serious.
Yes this past weekend he asked again if I wanted to go and he was explaining why he freaked out and my answer is still being decided , bc for me to be in europe and not go and visit my family in poland is just a slap in the face , so I am trying to work out the schedualing of things .
Trust me you don't rush into things , it all takes time , baby steps you know.