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About Personal Problems (English / Polish relationships) [32]
It seems to me that most of these are related to girlfriend/boyfriend relationships and in particular Polish-English relationships. Not Polish-Polish or English-English
Is it because some of us might have experienced something similar ?
I would assume that to be obvious because we are on a Polish forum in the English language. What I dislike is that a lot of the time the nationality is blamed for things going wrong. Polish women are XYZ etc...
Is it just common sense ?
I do think that humans in general feel the need to communicate their problems and joys, and when emotion is involved we go bonkers and common sence is out the window.
why it is that the original poster gets all the sympathy
Because we have double standards. I definitely do. I think everybody does they just don't admit it. Extreme case your mother robs your next door neighbour, you defender her. Your neighbour robs your mother, holy war breaks out against your neighbour.
And why is the usual answer to these personal problems almost always: He's cheating on you,
It looks to me that people who say these things have had them happen to them and humans love sharing misery. I am amazed at some of the completely erelavant comments made that reveal deep wounds the person has. Like the psycho analysis word association. e.g. Men = cheaters.
What drives these people ? How can they be spotted before a romance begins.
I have never cheated on anyone. I am a manogomist by default. I have been tempted. But I would have thought it obvious why. The excitement.
tip someone over the edge.
I was recently commenting on a certain lady's situation, I thought I might be upsetting her, so I asked twice if she wanted me to leave, I would, the first time she said nothing so I assumed that she wanted my views despite a load of other people snapping at me. Anyway the second time I asked she said to go, I left and still people are giving me carp about it. I was not trying to be smart and I was trying to be cautious about pushing too much of an emotional button. But messed it up all the same. I find it difficult when someone asks for my view and then slams me for giving it.
And in fact a relationship might have been ruined because of one of our comments.
I know where you are coming from and I really like this thread, it is very thoughtful of you Wroclaw but on this one I would have to say that if a person in a relationship can be swayed by something we say on here, then they were bound for disaster anyway.
Hopefully, the answers to these questions will show that we do know what we are talking about and can be trusted.
I am amazed at this forum world and it is quite addictive, I would love to read sociological studies on this form of communication. Can we be trusted, I think not, discussing a matter is one thing but you must make your own decisions and live with the consiquences of your actions. To say that I had a discussion and it led me to break up with my girlfriend would be ridiculous to me, no?
I know my answers are fairly simplistic. I am a much better speaker ha ha ha. But I enjoy this forum so far and I believe there is a lot of potential for it and me to develop.
