Molested girl in Poland takes her own life

This is a real failure of the system intended to protect children.

Beginning in September of last year a 12 year-old girl from lower Silesia was giving indications that she had been molested by her stepfather and possibly a family friend (as is often the case she didn't have the vocabulary to express the situation unambiguously).

A teacher contacted the local prosecutor
The mother denied it
An aunt with whom the girl had a good relationship (living some distance away) did believe her and offered to foster the girl.
The Polish system was very slow, hampered by the usual bureaucratic delays and the mindset that whenever possible the family unit should remain together.
Just before the end of the year, after being told she had to stay with the family.... she killed herself.

onet.pl/informacje/onetwroclaw/samobojstwo-molestowanej-12-latki-sedzia-rodzinny-doroslym-zabraklo-odwagi/rf5vxef,79cfc278

That's really a tragic tale, poor child. Deeply ironic when you think of PIS and their so-called reform of the courts. If the courts functioned correctly she would have been removed to her aunt's home via emergency court order, pending investigation. If they're so keen on the sanctity of the family, the child had an aunt willing to care for her. It's a desperately sad story.

Why did't she attempted just run out of home when it started and ask for shelter in a boarding school? 12 years isn't completely helpless age, already.

What boarding school? Not to mention any adult would have to hand her back home?

pl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internat
I don't know about Poland but in some countries like Ukraine, it is usually not a problem to find a place in a govt. internat, especially if a child itself want to live there. Majority of children usually don't want to, so only unliky live there. Those who have no close relatives to take them in. But if nice girl complains about such things and want to stay there, it is usually not a problem.

No school will take a kid in that just run away from home. Schools are chosen at the discretion of parents and schools with internat are usually special types o schools (sports, special needs etc.) And not just 'I want to learn here)

I don't know exactly if it is true or not, but generally widespread opinion in Canada is that it's usually enough only one complaint of a child on his parents to police or a govt. official (could be a school teacher) that parents will be abolished of parental rights, a child immediately taken out of family, and transferred to a different family. The subject for a complaint could be a regular beating, not necessarily sexual abuse.

Since it's not normal to beat up your child and usually easier to prove than sexual abuse I don't see the problem.

The same here with the guiding rule being to err on the side of the child and investigate later.

That's quite a lot to expect a child to do.


Completely reasonable.

The main problem with violence at home when perpetrated by the man, the breadwinner, is the way "civilized societies" punish them. Often, the woman will refuse to testify against the perp out of fear that she and the kids will be destitute.

There are better and more effective ways - one of them what they practice in Singapore - but we are too "civilized" for that. So the a-hole is safely home and the fun continues. Especially in enlightened Western Europe, prisons are better than the motels I had a chance to stay in. They serve food, provide medical care, counselling, entertainment, and things I would have to pay for. What's there to fear...

Well if a girl can't count on her own mother. What to expect? Was she 'molested'? What it means in this case? I guess we will not know.

Is her father alive?