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She's muslim and I am christian, will it ever work? Has anyone had similar experiences


jon357 67 | 16,907
10 Mar 2021 #31
If you are both truly in love,

It looks like it. They also sound very very young.
Lenka 3 | 2,561
10 Mar 2021 #32
It hurts. Even considering the fact that she's so intelligent and knows more than me about my religion.

It seems both your friends and your girlfriend have some prejudices to work on.
While you can ignore your friends if you choose so I would have a serious conversation with your girlfriend.as you both have to respect each other believes and be prepared on how to raise the kids. In the successful Muslim-Christian relationship I know the Muslim attended all family occasions celebrated in church and in their bedroom they have symbols of both religions standing side by side.
Lenka 3 | 2,561
10 Mar 2021 #33
I hope you understand that there is not one woman responding to your thread.

Last time I checked I was a women... :)
jon357 67 | 16,907
10 Mar 2021 #34
And last time I looked up from the computer, I was in neither of the categories he mentioned.

The OP doesn't give many details, like their ages, what country they're in and how long they've known each other. This would be useful. I suspect they're very young and he certainly seems very earnest. She sounds a bit more complicated.
Novichok 1 | 2,740
10 Mar 2021 #35
I just love her and that's it.

No, you are in love - a temporary mental disorder that passes like childhood diseases. Real love comes much later when the other person and you become one.

In this case, you are incompatible because of religion, language, culture, friends, parents, food, and a dozen other things. What can possibly go wrong? Even without any of that, you are already 50% divorced.

Bottom line: feel lucky you didn't get her pregnant and move on.
Lyzko 30 | 7,378
10 Mar 2021 #36
Love is not the mere province of adolescence, it's a heart ailment that strikes all ages...and it's incurable
jon357 67 | 16,907
10 Mar 2021 #37
.and it's incurable

Time heals that ailment sometimes. Even often.

Love is not the mere province of adolescence

True, however it hits harder then.
jon357 67 | 16,907
10 Mar 2021 #38
Everything is relative.

Some things however ore not.
OP ___limak____readreverse
11 Mar 2021 #39
I was actually looking for advice, not religious propaganda. Is there any woman on this forum who can give me some more sensitive advice?
Crow 147 | 9,307
11 Mar 2021 #40
Listen. Define woman. Anybody can be woman for you in these times.
Strzelec35 28 | 1,586
11 Mar 2021 #41
yea even a man can be a woman these days.
Lenka 3 | 2,561
11 Mar 2021 #42
I am a women and it was the most sensitive advice I can give you.
Novichok 1 | 2,740
11 Mar 2021 #43
sensitive advice?

Sensitive or sensible? Women are driven by feelings, men by logic and statistics. Even women will not argue with that statement.
It seems that what you want is to have your plan validated and blessed. If that's your reason to be here, listen to the women. They love falling in love and the drama when things go wrong.

So, here is my best shot at it. Imagine that you are the father of a Christian woman who wants to marry a Mulsim guy from Saudi Arabia. If you told her to go ahead, you would be the worst idiot walking on this earth for the reasons I already explained. If you want me to repeat them, I will.

Have you ever bought roses? Did you notice how in a week they all are slumped and ready to be thrown out? In most cases, marriage is the same way except it takes longer. With all these differences, in no time, you will be arguing day in day out.

Google "honor killing". That's what they do to their own kids. They will not hesitate to do it to yours.
Miloslaw 9 | 3,032
11 Mar 2021 #44
Women are driven by feelings, men by logic and statistics

Do you even realise what a grotesque generalisation that is?

It may be largely true, but not generally true.

Think again Rich....
Novichok 1 | 2,740
11 Mar 2021 #45
Do you even realise what a grotesque generalisation that is?

I normally do not respond to rhetorical questions, but I will make an exception this time.
All civilized life is based on statistics. All intelligent actions are based on the composite of collective and individual PRIOR experience. My risk of getting shot is lower in Warsaw than in Detroit. That is why I went to Warsaw, not Detroit. That is why avoid high crime neighborhoods. Just like you.

The OP came here for our opinions that cannot be anything better than generalizations. Honor killings are not done by Christians. It's a Muslim specialty. That's a generalization that is worth considering in addition to a dozen other things.

Think again Rich....

Next time, skip the patronizing crap if you want me to respond.
Joker 2 | 1,780
11 Mar 2021 #46
Women are driven by feelings, men by logic and statistics.

The first half is correct..... Most men let the little head do the thinking for the big head! Logic and statistics, thats for married guys! LOLOL
Novichok 1 | 2,740
11 Mar 2021 #47
Most men let the little head do the thinking for the big head!

That changes immediately when a man is a father. All of the sudden, a 25-year-old irresponsible moron becomes the most intolerant, unfunny, and unforgiving, death-penalty loving upstanding citizen ever, with a severely reduced sense of humor when she turns 16.

When my daughter told me that she was planning to go to some Muslim sh*ithole in Africa to teach, my speech was 30 seconds long and the plan was cancelled the same day.
Cargo pants 2 | 1,099
12 Mar 2021 #48
When my daughter told me

Same happened in my house,she wanted to go to India(Rape capital of the world) but I sent her to Singapore for a semester.
jon357 67 | 16,907
12 Mar 2021 #49
It may be largely true, but not generally true.

In this case it seems the OP's driven by very strong feelings. He should follow them, however equally not rush into anything.
Novichok 1 | 2,740
13 Mar 2021 #50
Just the fact that he came here for advice proves that is he is not ready for it. Men who are ready to marry a dream woman don't ask a bunch of losers for advice. They don't even ask their parents. They just do it.
Cargo pants 2 | 1,099
13 Mar 2021 #51
. They don't even ask their parents.

Why should they even ask??????there life......there decisions....
Lyzko 30 | 7,378
13 Mar 2021 #52
Parents normally give their blessing.
Novichok 1 | 2,740
13 Mar 2021 #53
I meant asking for advice. Men don't ask for advice on such matters.
If these two get married, let's hope she will never find out about his thread.
jon357 67 | 16,907
13 Mar 2021 #54
Parents normally give their blessing.

True, however we don't know much or really anything about the families of the two young people. Not even which continent they're in.
Lyzko 30 | 7,378
13 Mar 2021 #55
True, jon.
Sisi_Zakopane - | 2
14 Mar 2021 #56
I would like to give you an sensitive advice:

Get off this relationship. Or love. Or whatever it is at this stage. This hard facts will not change and you can feel immediately if its worth it fighting for or not. After some weeks of crying both of you will find a match..

Its not about religion its about attidute and willingness.
Novichok 1 | 2,740
14 Mar 2021 #57
Bottom line: feel lucky you didn't get her pregnant and move on.

Get off this relationship.

Finally, a voice of reason.
Crow 147 | 9,307
14 Mar 2021 #58
Actually, run out of it as fast as you can. Run!
OP ___limak____readreverse
19 Mar 2021 #59
Why should I run? I love her.

It's just all the things around us that are complicated. As I migrant, I felt home when I met her. It's just my friends who don't accept her and hate her. They hardly say hi to her and they are suspiscious due to her nationality.

But I love her so much that I forget everything.
Novichok 1 | 2,740
19 Mar 2021 #60
that I forget everything.

That's exactly the point!


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