rumination 2 | 6 14 Jun 2018 #1I am live the uk and i met and know this beautiful polish girl who i work with and we have work party coming up next month with spicy food (not my thing but i eat it anyway) and plenty of alcohol and music so their will be dancing and apparently polish love to dance. Anyway i had this on and off thing with this woman for awhile thought it went cold for a few months while she was seeing someone else but they ended things abruptly and she went on holiday and suddenly was into all over again. This time she made a point to show she was single and available but i had been reluctant to jump back on to the bandwagon but she seems more serious this time around so we been slowly rekindling the vibe and sexual tension from before but i am yet to ask her out. I pretty certain she likes me since she has made it fairly obvious and her friends have been making a point to play matchmaker lately as well.I would prefer to start dating her casually before the party since it will be less awkward that way than just trying to hook up at the party and dance. So with this in mind i need some advice on first date ideas in case she asks me what i am planning which i expect she probably will if she says yes and she doesn't move on before i do it has been 4 weeks this time around. As for asking her out itself its kind of awkward due to her usual department being awkwardly placed that i would have be very direct if i approach her their and that will be inevitable be awkward and put a lot of pressure on us both. I also i don't think i got in me to ask her out in front of all her friends and other coworkers who work their its too intense. I have considered and almost tried it a few times when she has been working in other departments including this week but something always puts me off or i go blank and forget to ask. So i am going to have to call her aside to bring it up and quickly before i lose my nerve and i assume at this point she has been expecting it for awhile and is getting tired of waiting. The logistics are also a little tricky since she lives in the city and i am currently living in the suburbs so i would have to commute to the city for a date and it would be easier for her as well since i wouldn't expect her to travel all the way over to my usual date choices since she has never been to my town. It would be expecting too much for a first date i would think.My current idea's for a date is a coffee date or go out to a bar and assuming the first part goes well head to a restaurant or a fast food joint for a bite to eat. I would expect she would be more knowledgeable of the better dating spots and locations since she lived their for a few years but i can't really ask for her input on the first date. I know she loves dancing and going out for drinks, partying etc and spends a lot time with her friends. She occasionally goes to the movies or theatre as well but i think we need a place we can just flirt and get to know eachother a lot more and not sit in silence.Does that sound like a good meet up or does she expect something more elaborate and romantic?