Fell in love with Polish girl at work : /

Ok, so I've fallen for a Polish girl who has a boyfriend. She's very loyal and I'm not that type of person either but I still want to steal her from him. She makes me smile so hard my face hurts. If that's not worth fighting for then I might as well give up with love.

They've been together 14 years since they were at school, but no marriage or children! Something that doesn't seem possible with the English girls around here. How can I show her that life would be better with me? I feel like if she was single we would be together already as everything feels natural and the chemistry is definitely there.

I mean I'm learning Polish and she knows it's for her. Is that enough of a gesture or can I do more to show her that I'm serious about her and I don't want some ****** fling. Not that she's like that but you get what I mean... I want to marry this girl! : /

" I still want to steal her from him. "

she is not a possession to be 'stolen' y know.
If this woman has been together with someone for all those years, do the right thing and leave her alone.

Seems she's happy with her life. If you love her why do you want to change it?

I feel she's more content than happy. But you're right... Sucks to hear lol. And I know she's not a possession, it's just a figure of speech. Chill.

Bugga the saintly advice from the do gooders! Go for it! Not married, no kids, doesn't count. Sharpen the knives and harden up. Good luck.

Yeah, if she's not engaged or pregnant then she's fair game and you should feel free to try to win her over (within rational limits).

Also 14 years together and no marriage or kids is... not the Polish way so I'm immediately suspicious about that relationship...

Its a pseudo relationship by the sounds of it. You need a cunning plan.

If you can steal her from a 14 year relationship, someone can steal her from your newly established one.

Or if you look at it differently; if she is willing to monkey branch after 14 years, she will be willing to monkey branch from you.

Probably not if he puts a ring on it (or a baby in it)....

Imagine that I meet Polish girls all day long. In a bakery, shop, bank, bus, tram. What to do? People help me bear this burden please.

You are going to have to show your hand if you are serious about her. Learning Polish is nice but a quicker and simpler route is to ask her for a date - movie and a drink or something like that, but be clear you do not mean as friends. Polish women would prefer that to the 50 episodes of The Office approach.

If by the 4th time you ask her she still says no then give it up.

The guy in her life is leaving an opening and he knows it - Maybe he feels unsure about her.

What is it with honour and men these days? If you had just a slightly bit of respect for her, then you would leave her alone in happiness with her boyfriend.

Speaking of girls who make you laugh, go to a pub on Friday evening and you'll find plenty of girls that make you laugh. My point is: the fact that a girl makes you laugh, is not enough to give up love. As love is so much more than making somebody laugh. Love is also about honoring your lady and for her to stay loyal to you.

PS.: In my experience, my Polish friends are among the best gentlemen I've ever seen: opening doors, helping with dressing, buying flowers, holding the umbrella, giving a hand to pull her up/out, carrying all the luggage, ... etc. So even if you want to be dishonorable, you'll have to put up one hell of a fight to get her. And suppose you'll have her, then she won't forget her boyfriend soon enough: 14 years is a long time.

Real love involves a lot more blood, sweat and tears than smiles. And the rare smiles that actually count come from having surmounted incredible hardships against all odds. I'm afraid that you are too immature to enter into a serious relationship with someone who has fourteen years of real-life experience behind her belt, and that you will lose interest once the cheap and easy laughs run out.

If your not prepared to sacrifice yourself till it hurts, then you are not prepared for mature love. You just want a cheap and easy fling without the hassle of working for it. I doubt she'll be impressed.

If you learn her language, but seriously and well, you'll all by knock her stockin's off:-) You'll have her eating out of your hand in no time!

If it only was so simple LOL

Well, at least he'll begin to peak her interest:-) I mean, how many Polish girls aka women expect that some British bloke's gonna even bother to learn her language, much less properly?

I have read some funny stories online but this one's a doozy.

Sounds like a lie to me. How do you know she even has a boyfriend in that case? Women, when they don't like you, tend to tell bad lies that are code for F off. I live in Poland and most women here are married so a long term relationship without any marriage sounds to me a lot like a lie invented to keep a coworker at bay. And I have heard a lot of those lies in going on 2 years. 'I have a boyfriend', 'I love a man in another country', 'I am not looking for a boyfriend right now', 'I am seeing/kind of seeing someone' etc. etc. mean F. off please or F. off depending on the severity of the lie.

Sounds to me like you don't know her at all and she isn't interested. If you see pictures of her in nightclubs you usually go to yourself on FB it means she's lying.

Stop fantasizing about what you won't get and go out and enjoy your life. Really, if she liked you at all, she would have suggested hanging out sometime over all those months at work, so forget it.

Good luck I was with a polish girl for 2 years she married and kids but I a still went there and I blew it with her and I regretted every day since and believe me if I could get her back I would even after 4years I think of her every day so go for it.

This sentence alone makes you sound like a douchebag.

If you really like her and can't take it any more, let her know, telling her you know she has a boyfriend but you have to be honest about the way you feel. If this long relationship she has been in isn't that strong and she has any feelings for you, she will appreciate your honesty and might do something about it, but if she tells you to back off then back off.

By the way I don't think being together for 14 years without marriage or kids is that unusual with Polish people. You don't have to change your partners like toothbrushes. My girlfriend was with her previous partner for 9 years before they broke up - no marriage and no kids.

This isn't like back in the day when people just got hitched ASAP. I think a lot of people take finances in to account. Weddings are expensive and having kids is costly too. A lot of couples in Poland want to provide their children with stable futures and if they aren't sure they can do it yet, they prefer not to have children.

Take my advice , forget her.
My wife is polish, my son is half polish and my best friend is polish. And one thing I have realised, is that the poles are very warm, friendly people, and it's very possible that you have confused her friendliness for attraction. If she has been with her boyfriend for so long then they obviously love each other. Honestly, if she felt the same way you do, then you would know it and you would not need to post this, she is probably too polite to tell you she isn't Interested and to save you anymore pain I would advise you to let her go, and find someone who loves you back.

I wish you all the best my friend.
You will never be happy if you obsess over her (and it sounds like you do.) I hope you work it out.

I mean , my wife is polish and even I've not felt the need to learn the polish language. (my wife speaks perfect English). I personally think that you attempting to learn polish is a wasted gesture. In fact it seems a little creepy to be honest , if you were in a relationship I could understand but realistically you are attempting to learn a new language just to impress a girl who already has a long-term boyfriend.

Let it go brother , you will only cause yourself more pain in the long run .

Don't be pathetic. If she has a boyfriend then be a man and find another girl. You are acting like she is the only attractive Polish girl out there. You can ask if she has any single Polish girlfriends....now that is different. Don't be that pathetic guy. I knew a guy who seem to go for other people's girl. He ended up with that rep and wondered why people didn't trust him. Currently he has no friends and not even his brother trusts him. He actually tried to pull his brothers ex girlfriend.....in my eyes that's pathetic. Bet the is hundreds if not thousands of hot Polish women available.