My family are still a problem, they seem to have it in there head she is only coming for the money, does not love me, sees a chance for a good life in England. I am 1000% sure this is not true, I am sure if I had nothing and turned up at her flat in Warsaw she would welcome me in with open arms. Any suggestions on how I deal with family? Most people tell me to just ignore this for the moment, in time people will come round.
Although nobody in my family actually said anything to me about it, I think some of them had these thoughts too. Well that was in 1993 when we got married and we're still together.
Her family have accepted me and mine have accepted her. To be honest though I think her family were more against it than mine because it was "obvious" that we would live in the UK. Not much traffic going the other way - even now. :)
If your family are very vocal then you'll just have to put some distance between yourselves and them for a while so you can give yourselves a chance. Once they see she's here to stay they will learn to accept her. If not, they can sod off. (as long as you're not counting on a juicy inheritance).
Don't let love completely cloud your judgement though. You have to try to be a bit objective and see if there isn't something in their arguments. There may be, there may not be. Without knowing you guys it's very hard to judge.
Another piece of "sage advice". Don't make any kind of commitment until you have met and spent time with her family. Unless you can see where and who she came from, you have no idea what you're dealing with and what she will turn into when problems hit.
(When you are young and in love everything seems overcomeable, but some things get harder with time).
For example. Is she an only child or has she brothers and sisters? If she is an only child. What will you guys do when her parents get ill and die? Yes, you marry the whole family. So best to see what you're getting into.