Polish couple married for 20 years

How do you describe Polish couples who are married for 20 years or more? Is it true that most of these couples are just staying in marriage even they are unhappy and most of them are sexless in marriage. Someone told me that he knew one married man in his forties who are married but cheating like hell. This man is working on the cruise ship for many years and always away from home. Probably home for couple of months. He earns quite good money with big house, nice car, dog and cats and two kids at 18 and 16 years. They live in the Northwest Poland. The man never files for a divorce neither the wife has the intention of doing so. Does it happen in Polish culture/marriage? In the US we don't take bullshits. We divorce if we are not happy in the marriage.

Why has this post got a Déjà vu feeling about it?

It's probably changing nowadays but there is certainly a generation of Polish women who consider that the most important thing is that the man is a good provider for her and the family. If he works hard and provides a good lifestyle, then she accepts that he'll have a bit on the side now and then. Of course if she gets definite proof of it, she'll punish him for a few days or weeks and he'll usually have to do something to make up for it, like her buy her something expensive that she's wanted for ages or take her on holiday, or whatever. As for the men, they're also pretty realistic. They don't expect their wife to be their soul mate. They want a good cook and housekeeper, a good mother to the kids, a good family person. If she ticks those boxes, the man is happy. There's no way he'll give up a comfortable, stable home to chase a dream of 'romance'.

They make a wedding vow to God Almighty thru sickness and health until death do us part.


No, not true at all.
Sex is just the dessert of a marriage and is not the top priority to make a happy marriage.


Not true at all as mature adults know that marriage takes a lot of work, sacrificing, forgiving and understanding.
Marriage is not 50/50, it's 90/10.
The ones that don't choose (in your words, "to take bullshits") to do so are the immature, selfish, weak minded, that have no qualms about breaking their promise to God.

Those people were to immature and not ready for marriage.
Why would someone who doesn't want to work at their marriage and take the easy out with a divorce expect to find any kind of happiness period.

Have you ever heard, "you get out of it what you put into it "?

The garbage culture from the West that promotes the flesh has sped up the process of weakening up marriages in Poland. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, not "bullshit." If you are not ready to be committed to another person for your whole life, stay single. Don't destroy your partner's life and the lives of your children for your temporary and selfish joy.

Hear, hear. Well said, Ron.

He's an interesting guy.

@Bobko
Solid and sound. We need more men like Ron.

He certainly has his clothes neatly organized in his closet....by colors.