Don't get a child but adopt one? What Polish men think about women who don't want to get children?

Hey guys,

I wonder what polish men think about women who don't want to get children. I'm one of them. I really love those little humans but I think that I can't give birth to a new life when we live in such an evil world.

Instead of that, I want to adopt one or children to take care of. Is this mentality acceptable for polish men? Would you as a polish man consider to have a relationship with someone like me?

Why not give birth to a human whom could then in time change the evil world for the better? The 3rd World is multiplying and based on you being from Sweden (allegedly), I imagine you support if not even help humanitarian efforts in the 3rd World, which then in turn end up on our doorsteps hungry and angry

As for your question: the child would have to be Polish. If you were trying to adopt a child from another race (as you extremist Swedes do), I would socially scorn you. As Poland still has free speech unlike Western-Europe. My personal fear with adoption is what if there are genetic complications down the line? I would also question my decision to not instead invest in my own genes.

In my experience polish men try their hardest not to use contraception

nothanks

Yeah, you have a point there but what if the adopted child change this evil world for the better? That's also possible.
And yes, if I ever adopt a child, it would be a polish one.

Dreamergirl

Oh, I didn't know that since I've never had a relationship with a polish man. But is it common?

Most people however would not be so nastily small-minded about a child, let alone spew that fact out onto an Internet forum.

And yes, there are people here who choose to adopt.

First you say....


and then you say...


so how would that work then?

you cannot just turn up at an orphanage and pick a child you know....

I been with 4 polish men now and none of them like contraception at all. Any kind. I'm meaning they like to try and impregnate girls.

Dreamergirl, that may be so, but this has nothing to do with the thread does it?

Geez Dreamer! Is there any thread you have posted to that you don't find a way to say that?

That said, my guy, a native; is open to adoption though he would like to try for one since he is last male of his family. TBH adoption is hard to sell to either gender these days when raising a child requires both parents to work more often than not. Usually to adopt it means you not only pass the govt standards but are financially stable.

You may have better luck with suggestion of fostering; but any culture (or subculture within a country that is more progressive) that has conservative and traditional family unit, the sort with a sturdy provider and mostly home mom; will want to invest in their own offspring first. We can't all be the Pitt-Jolies ((who 1) have money 2) have produced own children as well)).

I myself am open to adopt and foster but wanted at least one of my own, I have 3, so that makes me more magnanimous. And I genuinely enjoy children.

And think of this , the brightest and best, and often ones that worry of things like population, environment, are the ones who SHOULD pass their genes down to some extent. At risk of seeming mean, fact is that no matter how many smart people abstain to "save the world", the riff raff, welfare milkers, less intellectually endowed and deviants or unenlightened 3rd worlders will not have that same worry and fill the space left open.

that doesn't even make sense. Check 'abstain' in the dictionary and try to be a better person while you are at it.

It's very difficult to abstain around polish guys you know

rozumiemnic

Yeah you're right but the majority of the orphans in the polish orphanages is ethnically polish, right? If I adopt a kid someday, it will be polish one only if my partner is also polish. If my future partner is a swede, then I will adopt a swedish kid. I hope that this explanation is enough.

Worth mentioning that I'm planning to move to Poland in the near future. That's why I want to adopt a polish kid and marry a polish man.

" Yeah you're right but the majority of the orphans in the polish orphanages is ethnically polish, right? "

not my point. You cannot just walk into an orphanage and adopt a kid. It is not that simple.

Most people would not be so nastily small-minded about letting another poster post their opinion without belittling them by spewing insults at them.

And yes, there are people here who choose not to adopt.

rozumiemnic
What do you mean? Do you mean the adoption-process that takes a long time or the fact that I can't choose a kid that i want to adopt?

the adoption process takes a long time, yes, you would have every aspect of your life questioned, then you might or might not be approved.

and no you cannot just 'choose''.. they are not puppies you know....

And if you get serious with a polish man they expect you to get a baby from them

Who wants a fat freckled faced red haired cross eyed boy with an attitude ?
I would prefer a cute little girl that I could dress up in a blue shirt and boots that had a nice smile and giggled.

he he he sorry Johnny, the social worker has looked at your file and decided the best kid for you is the fat ginger one...

Okay, I didn't mean to sound like that. I know that the adoption process is difficult and hard but it's right that I do not know how the process is going to look in details. Since I don't have any plans to adopt a child right now. The question wasn't even about that. I wondered what

the polish men's and the polish society's attitude was towards this topic.

Given the shortage of kids available for adoption, you would get very little choice indeed. Btw, fostering is currently expanding in Poland. To get a brand new baby is less likely than to get an older kid.


Very few people on this earth would express such a nasty view, much less defend them.

For Roz " ABSTAIN -as in do not, defer from" or here as I was using it.
merriam-webster.com/dictionary/abstain So you can do the "checking"
so ... since you cant fill the dots and I cannot edit it....

ABSTAIN (FROM HAVING CHILDREN) ::there fixed..HAPPY? (probably not)

It isn't just a term for not having sex! But you wanted to feel superior obviously, since I do not feel like doing 3rd term essay level work for posting on forum.

My IQ (for all that crap is worth) was still tested by professionals at 165 after a severe head injury I recovered from. What's yours madame?

As for being better.. better than what? Better than non practical SJW progressives? Better than NeoNazi? Better than terrorist? Better than Mother Teresa?
Fine. You win. I am horrible human. You can be "better" person all you want. Though how better can you be to make irrelevant attacks? I admit I am all for ME first, and others second. My self sacrifice is reserved for family, platoon mates, children. I do not like abusers of system I am taxed for which lessens the portions for the truly needy. I don't have to like it... still a Free World.

How many children have you fostered or adopted? I have fostered ONE and on my dollar (and Ex's) for 5 years with moral support from my parish. Her illness recovered mother came and got Keisha a year before my second child was born . Put that saddle on your high horse and ride it.

Chiro! I remember why I lost interest here. The extremely personal attacks favored by the "longest regulars". Meh. I debate when I disagree, but I don't need to launch personal offense attack to feel heard.

anyone who is obsessed by their high IQ is usually an idiot. Just saying.
I know what 'abstain' means thank you, just the way you used it made your meaning unclear.
You might want to work on that instead of doing IQ tests.

I think you all hijacked this lady's thread

Well said as I see you make no effort in defending yours.


Many of the children being adopted in America are coming from Russia.
There seems to be a surplus from there where mothers just can't afford to raise them ?

you as well!

No I did not I contributed

Please stop with the off topic posts.

I don't think nationality matters too much with this type of question, it's whether someone shares the same views as you.

Some people might well choose to adopt, but being honest, most people usually consider adoption only when infertility becomes an issue.

No matter how loud the Left screams "institutionalized racism", Whites especially the farther East you go: are the most attractive and sought out. While USA government imports brownskins, the people choose whites