Don't get a child but adopt one? What Polish men think about women who don't want to get children?

It is their choice. We can`t blame them. Many males have similar attitude.


Exactly like my eldest son. You know, this melancholic one. He claims this is one fekked up world and bringing kids to it would be too cruel and inhumane. He and his girlfriend got themselves a dog. I don`t argue with him, but my wife does. :):)

Here are 2 comments by Polish ladies who reject the idea of having kids.

I am 32 years old, half my life I have heard that if I give birth I will develop love, I will change etc . And I just don't want children, I don't like them and all the fuss and noise that comes with children. This is my conscious decision, and I certainly won't take the risk that I will love my child when I give birth (because what if I don't?). I selfishly take care of myself and invest in myself - from education, through appearance, to car and travel.

I work with people who have children and don't want to live like them - parents of younger children are always sleepy, sick, every time they leave the house it becomes an expedition, and sometimes they prefer to give up the journey altogether. Attention, time and money go to children almost 100%, unfortunately at your own expense.

Parents of the older ones - more rested and less tired, but on a daily basis participating in problems related to crazy teachers, driving to extracurricular activities, doing homework (not a week goes by without someone not doing a project for their child like "a map of ancient Greece with the most important polis", hand-drawn on Bristol board). Holidays are subordinated to summer and winter holidays, the money goes to camps and summer camps, free time is occupied either with the above-described activities or with shopping and cooking dinner at 11 pm for the next day.

Thanks but no.

I am 34 years old. I tolerate maybe 4 children, with more I am unable to put up, they tire me. I can't stand noise, mess, it gives me ****. I appreciate peace, a good book and a glass of wine. Luckily my partner doesn't like children either. We have dogs. They easily satisfy my need to care for someone. I don't want or need any more. My sister has two children that I honestly hate and thanks to her toddlers I often miss family celebrations because I can't stand their company. I feel bad afterwards, tired and irritable. And why would I force myself to do that? Fortunately, we still have a choice.

After posting the above comments, I started thinking of my own motives to have children. The main one is probably that I needed some serious challenge at a certain stage of my life. Being born with a silver spoon in my moth as a trust fund baby, I spent the first decades of my life in a relaxed stressless atmosphere. It began to bore me and I felt I needed to change it. Hence, I took the decision to get married and have children.

I think it means he's a good and sensitive kid. I can understand his view. Maybe he will change this view when he grows older... If not, then it's possible that he could probably use a therapy. I know from my own experience that such views don't appear out of nowhere...

Especially that...:


..."melancholy" doesn't appear out of nowhere either - there must be some reasons for it.

The primary reason why we have kids is to have grandkids. Past 65, childless life can be very lonely.
I can't stand dogs.