Every Pole is a proud Patriarch, of course. No other way for a real man. We are kings and rules on the universe.
As long as our wives don't know about it, that is.
As long as our wives don't know about it, that is.
Is/was Polish society patriarchal or matriarchal?
Polish society in my view is very macho. Oh yes, letting women get into the elevator first... carrying bags...the usual stuff.
But when it comes to top positions in business and political life...
Why our society is supposed to be patriarchal? And why marriage is essential? In my native Flanders very soon the majority of couples will live together without being married. They have children, educate them, teach them values, grow old together as happy as any couple who is married.
But when it comes to top positions in business and political life...
Why our society is supposed to be patriarchal? And why marriage is essential? In my native Flanders very soon the majority of couples will live together without being married. They have children, educate them, teach them values, grow old together as happy as any couple who is married.
It is both.
What's wrong with marriage anyway? What are the perks of living together without being married? Does getting married causes any harm?
Women rule over vodka distribution and males over housework.
I think women in Polish society likes often dominating man. It's natural for me. A man who is a bit weak (who doesn't like to hide his emotions, who is not afraid to show that he also cries from time to time) and a bit strong, is an ideal person. A perfect mix is needed for a wonderful partner or husband. Somebody who can say : "I want it" with a tap but who will also listen to his woman opinion.
It was patriarchal and still is in some aspects but things are changing irrevocably and women are getting more rights.
Here is an account by a woman who lived in the patriarchal society exactly 50 years ago. Fortunately, a lot of sad things she talks about are gone today.
onet.pl/informacje/onetwiadomosci/pozycie-malzenskie-w-polsce-xx-wieku-budzil-we-mnie-wstret-noce-byly-meczarnia/tszhfhr,79cfc278
I lost my mother when I was five, and my father two years later. There were two older brothers and me left. My aunt, who already had four sons of her own, took care of me. When I finished six grades of primary school, my aunt said: "Enough of this education, the boys have to complete seven grades, she doesn't need it" - although they stayed in one grade for two years, I didn't protest. There was a lot of work at home, so I never had a free moment to think about it, I had no childhood, no games, and I was very capable of dancing, singing and declamation. At school I took part in almost every celebration, although at home I was teased and sometimes beaten because of rehearsals, I had to come home from school a little later. But it all ended when I stopped going to school. All that was left was reading books furtively and working from dawn to dusk.
When I turned seventeen, my aunt was already thinking about marrying me off. Apparently I grew up to be a very pretty girl, I liked singing and dancing very much, but going to a party was very rare. [...] When I showed up somewhere, apparently I was successful with the most handsome boys, but my aunt didn't like them. It would be unthinkable to oppose my aunt, she was so strict and such a religious fanatic; she saw something bad in all contacts between a boy and a girl, which I didn't understand at all, I didn't even know what virginity was. Yes, I kissed a boy sometimes; dance, sing - I loved it. I remember when, at the suggestion of my friends, I went to a party, which my aunt did not allow me to go to, and then they took me home - I was called the worst names and beaten until I bled because I was ashamed to show it to people. I thought I had committed a big crime. This was the rigor, there had to be obedience in every matter, important or unimportant.
tbc
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Here is an account by a woman who lived in the patriarchal society exactly 50 years ago. Fortunately, a lot of sad things she talks about are gone today.
onet.pl/informacje/onetwiadomosci/pozycie-malzenskie-w-polsce-xx-wieku-budzil-we-mnie-wstret-noce-byly-meczarnia/tszhfhr,79cfc278
I lost my mother when I was five, and my father two years later. There were two older brothers and me left. My aunt, who already had four sons of her own, took care of me. When I finished six grades of primary school, my aunt said: "Enough of this education, the boys have to complete seven grades, she doesn't need it" - although they stayed in one grade for two years, I didn't protest. There was a lot of work at home, so I never had a free moment to think about it, I had no childhood, no games, and I was very capable of dancing, singing and declamation. At school I took part in almost every celebration, although at home I was teased and sometimes beaten because of rehearsals, I had to come home from school a little later. But it all ended when I stopped going to school. All that was left was reading books furtively and working from dawn to dusk.
When I turned seventeen, my aunt was already thinking about marrying me off. Apparently I grew up to be a very pretty girl, I liked singing and dancing very much, but going to a party was very rare. [...] When I showed up somewhere, apparently I was successful with the most handsome boys, but my aunt didn't like them. It would be unthinkable to oppose my aunt, she was so strict and such a religious fanatic; she saw something bad in all contacts between a boy and a girl, which I didn't understand at all, I didn't even know what virginity was. Yes, I kissed a boy sometimes; dance, sing - I loved it. I remember when, at the suggestion of my friends, I went to a party, which my aunt did not allow me to go to, and then they took me home - I was called the worst names and beaten until I bled because I was ashamed to show it to people. I thought I had committed a big crime. This was the rigor, there had to be obedience in every matter, important or unimportant.
tbc
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