Dougpo you back from the pub yet?, you can probably help this guy out too.
Yes.. but had a night in with guitar pal and craft beers......
The truth is, as we all know, it depends on the circle you are in. I would have nothing in common with the shot brigade. we have all had nights out with drinkers of different habit, and if you are out of your comfort zone then the OP is not exaggerating, and he needs to steer clear.
He is right to say that you can get in all sorts of situations..... For example, some say that they can get in trouble/ wasted with Bob Hope, but that has never happened to me, but all sorts of shenanighans have sprung up with vodka, the obvious and not so much.... nothing original there. but for me it was a case of regret.
Beer or whisky - still wasted, but aware I was boozed. Vodka, a big no-no for me.
If the OP has vodka drinking pals and he wants to make a go of things, there is only one solution. His "pals" love the shots...so.....
He has to change his drinking habits. They're not going to, and why should they? Meaning, he can't go drinking with those pals. They wont get into trouble boozing.