Scorpio411
31 Dec 2023
Love / Smitten and Wondering [81]
No lectures on fidelity, religion, etc. please. I just want opinions from married guys (or single girls) who may have been through something similar or someone who will just "know" or "can tell". Sorry for the long post but I have to put it in writing to help me talk it out and get it off my chest.
So there's this cute Polish girl in her 20's (100% my "type") whom I used to see every now and then at a place in our neighborhood where she used to work and at my church about once a year. Whenever we saw each other, we always exchanged smiles. I don't know too much about her because we never spoke before. I'm an usher and last Easter mass I there was with my wife (so she knows I'm married) and I asked her and her sisters to bring up the gifts and while we were standing there, I asked her her name and I told her mine. And that was the first and only time we have ever spoken to each other.
Fast forward to last Saturday when I saw her at mass again. We were by ourselves and we did the usual smile and wave. I was so happy to see her again that when mass was over I waited for her outside. She saw me, her face lit with a smile, she came up to me and gave me a hug. A nice, close, kinda "I missed you" hug. Not a hug you'd give a co-worker or acquaintance. Most of you will say "relax dude, it was just a hug", and it very well could've been just that, but mind you over the years of seeing each other in-person here and there, there was never EVER any physical contact of any kind. Maybe because we were never alone together because every other time she was busy working or I was with my wife. I know people can be friendly, but this was so very odd. I told her, (her name), right? She said yes and then I said "I never forget a pretty face". She smiled and said thanks :-) We spoke briefly, wished each other a Merry Christmas and gave each other another what seemed to be another boyfriend/girlfriend-like hug. I wish so badly I would've asked her to give me her number so we could stay in touch.
After regretting that, I just had to try and get in contact with her because who knows when I'd see her again. I leave nothing on the table so I went to the place where she used to work and found someone who is still friends with her. I gave her a piece of paper with my name and number on it and told her that I saw her in church last week, forgot to get her number, would like to stay in touch with her, and if she wouldn't mind giving it to her. She said sure no problem!
This was last Sunday and I haven't heard from her but I don't even know if her friend gave it to her yet or not. I wouldn't even have posted this or have the feelings I do if it weren't for those unexpected hugs. Which were the best hugs I ever got and I'm not just saying that. I don't know what came over me, but ever since then I can't stop thinking about her. I mean like almost every waking moment. And women know. This past week my wife's been asking me "what's wrong?", "why are you depressed" and "are you happier yet?" No issues with her, it's totally me. In our many years of marriage I have never gone astray or even pursued anyone even though I could've initiated something countless times. Girls are constantly smiling at me and my wife knows it and is cool with it. But this time it's different. I can't explain it. If she never contacts me, so be it and hopefully time will heal.
But in the mean time I'm thinking of going to see her friend again this week and see if she gave it to her or not--especially with the holidays and all. Even without the holidays, I don't know how often they see each other. I don't know what to expect even if we did start talking, but that's all I want for now; is to just stay in touch with her. If I knew she got the message and didn't contact me for whatever reason, then I will exit Fantasyland and come back down to earth. Until then, the curiosity is absolutely killing me. I know I'll get my answer once I see her friend again, but in the mean time, what do you guys think?
No lectures on fidelity, religion, etc. please. I just want opinions from married guys (or single girls) who may have been through something similar or someone who will just "know" or "can tell". Sorry for the long post but I have to put it in writing to help me talk it out and get it off my chest.
So there's this cute Polish girl in her 20's (100% my "type") whom I used to see every now and then at a place in our neighborhood where she used to work and at my church about once a year. Whenever we saw each other, we always exchanged smiles. I don't know too much about her because we never spoke before. I'm an usher and last Easter mass I there was with my wife (so she knows I'm married) and I asked her and her sisters to bring up the gifts and while we were standing there, I asked her her name and I told her mine. And that was the first and only time we have ever spoken to each other.
Fast forward to last Saturday when I saw her at mass again. We were by ourselves and we did the usual smile and wave. I was so happy to see her again that when mass was over I waited for her outside. She saw me, her face lit with a smile, she came up to me and gave me a hug. A nice, close, kinda "I missed you" hug. Not a hug you'd give a co-worker or acquaintance. Most of you will say "relax dude, it was just a hug", and it very well could've been just that, but mind you over the years of seeing each other in-person here and there, there was never EVER any physical contact of any kind. Maybe because we were never alone together because every other time she was busy working or I was with my wife. I know people can be friendly, but this was so very odd. I told her, (her name), right? She said yes and then I said "I never forget a pretty face". She smiled and said thanks :-) We spoke briefly, wished each other a Merry Christmas and gave each other another what seemed to be another boyfriend/girlfriend-like hug. I wish so badly I would've asked her to give me her number so we could stay in touch.
After regretting that, I just had to try and get in contact with her because who knows when I'd see her again. I leave nothing on the table so I went to the place where she used to work and found someone who is still friends with her. I gave her a piece of paper with my name and number on it and told her that I saw her in church last week, forgot to get her number, would like to stay in touch with her, and if she wouldn't mind giving it to her. She said sure no problem!
This was last Sunday and I haven't heard from her but I don't even know if her friend gave it to her yet or not. I wouldn't even have posted this or have the feelings I do if it weren't for those unexpected hugs. Which were the best hugs I ever got and I'm not just saying that. I don't know what came over me, but ever since then I can't stop thinking about her. I mean like almost every waking moment. And women know. This past week my wife's been asking me "what's wrong?", "why are you depressed" and "are you happier yet?" No issues with her, it's totally me. In our many years of marriage I have never gone astray or even pursued anyone even though I could've initiated something countless times. Girls are constantly smiling at me and my wife knows it and is cool with it. But this time it's different. I can't explain it. If she never contacts me, so be it and hopefully time will heal.
But in the mean time I'm thinking of going to see her friend again this week and see if she gave it to her or not--especially with the holidays and all. Even without the holidays, I don't know how often they see each other. I don't know what to expect even if we did start talking, but that's all I want for now; is to just stay in touch with her. If I knew she got the message and didn't contact me for whatever reason, then I will exit Fantasyland and come back down to earth. Until then, the curiosity is absolutely killing me. I know I'll get my answer once I see her friend again, but in the mean time, what do you guys think?