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How long should i wait to romance a Polish girl after she broke up with her boyfriend of three years? [11]
I like this polish girl at works at the same warehouse as me in the UK. She is 23 years old and works with her fraternal twin sister who work on a slightly later shift that coincides with mine but were originally on the same shift when i first started and in order to make it easier to understand i will refer to her by the name Gita. The company has an extensive polish workforce which is probably the majority ethnic group at the warehouse which also includes several other groups from Europe.
Anyway Gita was one of the first girl i remember noticing when i started working their but it was kind of a chaotic since i was still figuring my way around the job and the first i was attracted too. She was on holiday the first couple of weeks i started and came back in early july from a holiday friends and her long term boyfriend. I didn't know she was dating anyone until a couple of month later or that she had a sister which chalks up to me not being very observant at times. I noticed her initially and believed she was another new starter since i never saw her earlier but quickly noticed she was rather knew she wasn't after seeing talking with the guy i directly work with and number of other coworkers in way that suggested she had some kind of standing report with them. I initially hadn't tried pursuing her since i wasn't fully comfortable with the job and was trying to get into the routine but i saw her around since she was a picker and i was more interested in other girls at this point too which included one of her 'girlfriends', supervisors wife and her twin sister at different times throughout the months of july till mid december but most of them never came of it especially when i found out at least two were spoken for. She seemed rather quiet not sure if she was just shy or just a reserved girl who only spoken to those she was comfortable with. I would catch her looking at me from time to time i initially assumed it was like i was just a nosy and curious about someone i never seen or met up-to this point and in my case it helped i thought she was really cute. She continued this sporadically through out the summer and i started greeting her which seemed rather nervous and quiet almost inaudible at times while other times she would greet me herself. She usually looked away when i caught and we never really spoke thought she did occasionally ask for help on occasion while sometimes she would spontaneously cheerful and friendlier than usual. She often wouldn't make eye contact at all usually looking down or away when i looked at or she spoke and other times and random uncalled for smiles.
I have studied body language and did notice a few signals of interest from Gita such hair stroking or flicking and looking down at the side. While i was working a different job on the same shift as her she was having excited animated conversation with a older fella at the scanning stations and was talking about a bunch of random subjects thought i occasional got involved i was too busy on my end to do more than eavesdrop. It was during September I found out she had boyfriend and the way she talked about him sounded like a solid and joyous relationship. She had brought up a few times in a row i was kind of disappointed by the news even though i was crushing on her friend at the time however said girl was away on holiday but that's another story and eventually fizzled out recently after months build up and nothing much came of it. Once i found out i quickly distanced myself from my interest in her as i wasn't going to compete or attempt to steal her away. While i kept my distance she started becoming more comfortable around me and slowly started being more easy going and less shy though the signals of interest i originally picked up on and catching her looking at me diminished at the same time.
It was at the start of November that seemly out of the blue things were not all right between Gita and her boyfriend since came to work one day and was overcome with grief. I almost guessed right away that it most of been boyfriend trouble or maybe someone she cared about had passed away but the former was my go to guess. Her friends tried to comfort and she continue to work the shift despite her personal problems and you could tell she was a little rougher looking than normal since she wore less make up and looked red and puff from crying over significant period of time. While on break i looked up on her facebook and noticed she had seemly Un-tagged her boyfriend from all the pictures her relationship status wasn't visible but it had been hidden awhile ago prior to this for at least a month or maybe more. She also had posted a few memes on relationship problems some similar to her own. I am not good at consoling or comforting people i find it very uncomfortable and not sure what to say but later on when she had calmed down a bit i asked her how she was doing and she said she was fine despite obviously not being, It would be during the weekend when i hang out with mutual friend that i find out more about what happened. Her boyfriend had grown distant from her over past month or so hanging out increasing long hours with his friends and spending steadily less amount of time with her which she soon noticed. She apparently confronted him on his aloofness and he told her he was no longer in love with her or some variation. As the weeks passed after she started brightening up again and no sign of the seemly impending break up and i figured they made up somehow and she had once again publicly displayed their relationship status. Despite it i noticed she was acting differently including posting more selfies, going on girls nights and returned home to poland for a couple of days with out him. She seemed in rather cheerful happy mood seemly forgotten the earlier events.
It was last week or so that they broke up officially on facebook i noticed that her boyfriend was suddenly single on relationship status while was still in a relationship and one day later she changed hers to single as well. I assume they must of broken up officially awhile back but didn't change their status right away. She has also recently returned home for the christmas holidays so i can't make any moves now even if i was ready to.
So that the gist of what happened and i have found myself getting infatuated with her all again lately and would like to get to know better and possible ask her out in the next month or so. But the problem is one she will most certainly be on the rebound and since i do really like her i am not sure i want to end up in that purgatory and two one of her friend who i had been crushing hard on for months is also involved but nothing happened with her yet and i recently lost interest in her due to her less than mature behavior around me lately and she never took rejection or let me go so easily the last time couple of times i started to drift way. Gita also still has her boyfriend on facebook and its safe to conclude due to how the whole break up count down started it wasn't by her choice thought i don't know initiated the break up itself and judging by her behavior in the weeks prior she didn't particularly troubled by anything.
Sorry about the long post but i want some advice how long i should wait before i start showing interest in Gita after the break up also how the awkward history of sorts i have with one of her good friends and hitting on her sister at one point too which ended awkwardly might alter the dynamics. My actual serious relationship experience is very limited despite being twenty six. Thanks for reading.
