Malia
4 Nov 2016
Love / Do Polish guys understand subtlety? [8]
@Atch thank you, and yes, your comments would apply in many cases. However, there is one major instance, for me, in which I cannot (and don't want to) shop for my own gift, as it's not a gift -- it's an engagement ring.
There is a long and complicated story associated with this, which I cannot go into here, but suffice it to say, the engagement ring we started out with was utterly ruined by his Polish parents (who absolutely hate me and tried to wreck our wedding and prevent us from getting married... and that's just the tip of the iceberg). The ring had great sentimental value, more than any monetary value (it was not at all an expensive ring) now it's just a symbol of pain.
So that's why I said it's not the "thing" itself, but far more importantly, the meaning behind it.
The same is true for birthday and Christmas gifts -- I care less for how much something cost than for the sentiment behind it. I'm not one for "designer names " and "bling" and overpaying just for show. Simplicity is elegance, and I believe in paying for quality but never "ritz factor."
I had so hoped to replace the engagement ring with one that truly symbolizes our deep and amazing love, which survived the constant attacks of his parents and their attempts at sabotage. I know my beloved husband feels the same, but subtlety does not seem his strong point. ☹ It's pointless to outright ask for a new ring. It has to come from him, not me. The same is true for Christmas and birthday gifts - half the joy is not knowing what you're getting and being surprised. But more than that, it's the fact that someone loves you enough to find out what you truly want, because they want you to be happy. Because they want to give you the world, as I know my husband does. ❤
@Atch thank you, and yes, your comments would apply in many cases. However, there is one major instance, for me, in which I cannot (and don't want to) shop for my own gift, as it's not a gift -- it's an engagement ring.
There is a long and complicated story associated with this, which I cannot go into here, but suffice it to say, the engagement ring we started out with was utterly ruined by his Polish parents (who absolutely hate me and tried to wreck our wedding and prevent us from getting married... and that's just the tip of the iceberg). The ring had great sentimental value, more than any monetary value (it was not at all an expensive ring) now it's just a symbol of pain.
So that's why I said it's not the "thing" itself, but far more importantly, the meaning behind it.
The same is true for birthday and Christmas gifts -- I care less for how much something cost than for the sentiment behind it. I'm not one for "designer names " and "bling" and overpaying just for show. Simplicity is elegance, and I believe in paying for quality but never "ritz factor."
I had so hoped to replace the engagement ring with one that truly symbolizes our deep and amazing love, which survived the constant attacks of his parents and their attempts at sabotage. I know my beloved husband feels the same, but subtlety does not seem his strong point. ☹ It's pointless to outright ask for a new ring. It has to come from him, not me. The same is true for Christmas and birthday gifts - half the joy is not knowing what you're getting and being surprised. But more than that, it's the fact that someone loves you enough to find out what you truly want, because they want you to be happy. Because they want to give you the world, as I know my husband does. ❤