Life / Imagine a man killing 15 students in Poland. Would Polish flag be removed? [26]

Nathan we can't quote you, although we understand what you are getting at, the said flag, confederate, is NOT part of said know state, local federal government symbol. It's just some flag on a flag pole that should have been taken down long ago.The fact that its symbolism is tied to a time that America would rather forget than remember.The fact that he killed all those people is far more relevant that flag associated with a different time period. And your right with enough crazies running around it could happen but in Poland's case I bet it wouldn't be the Polish flag symbol but a "Swastika".

Love / My Polish girlfriend is pregnant by cheating on me and wants this baby without my permission. Please help. [51]


Why don't you just go back to your own country and never return, that way everything is taken care. To me that's great advice!

Off-Topic / Best Portable Pool and Swimming pool care in Poland at Auchan supermarket [4]

Yes you will need the filter, hopefully it is a efficient one. Be sure to keep it clean, it's probably the paper filter variety. The get clogged fairly quickly. Keep all the junk and vegetation that you can. All that stuff will eat up your chlorine. If a test kit is available get one to monitor the water quality. questions just ask.


hopefully the solar pump is a by-pass pump and how efficient it will warm the water depends on how much surface area you have on the panels.


I'd get on only if it protects from puncturing the pool, it's a good idea prevent rocks and stuff from weakening the bottom.

FYI I was Chief of the Recreational Waters Program in Los Angeles County, California for 15 years responsible for inspection of 18,000 commercial swimming pools.

Love / Just started dating Polish guy - what is typical of a man from Poland? Cultural differences. [78]


Wow I'd like to know how you are doing. I hope that you find someone who truly loves you......it appears that you are one of the special ones. The guy missed it, missed you a wonderful loving woman who could've been his. He will look back at the time your spent and wish for a second chance. Women like you are not easy to come by and men who aren't players appreciate them.

Law / Obligation of a foreign dad; Polish girl he was with is pregnant. What in papers if he can't be for the birth? [4]

Wow, what a hard place to be in at the time. I know that you are probably going to get a lot of not so useful comments and/or criticisms. So I was in somewhat of a situation as you were, no possibly way she could end up pregnant and well she did. And she was just going to go on with her life too. The thing I thought was that it was my responsibility, my child that "I" made. And well that child today is now 19 years old and I look into her eyes and know that she was/is not a mistake and I lover her with all my heart. Not to have been involved in her life would have been the worst. A child is a responsibility, a joy and a person. Only you will ultimately make the decision that will affect this child, you don't want to look back and wish that you made the right decision. The woman who will carry that child is important too and you CANNOT think of this as a disposable situation that will affect what/where and how your life should have turned out. I know it seems hard to change your whole life and dreams for what happened in a single night; but it has and you need to face that fact. Please don't leave that woman without a little support, love and understanding, you'll regret it the rest of your life. A real man takes responsibilities for his actions no matter how hard they may seem to bear. I know that some of this may seem harsh but I speak from experience, it will be a hard decision but it's the best decision you will make. Good luck and I only hope to make an impact and wish you all the best.

Love / My Love Story: my 'good' family vs her 'bad' family in Poland [25]

I bet her sister is REALLY hot, and he wishes his girl friend looked like her sister!

Love / My wife is Polish and it's difficult for her to open up and talk about her feelings [14]

Atch, I really appreciate the woman's point of view about all of this, you described thing right how things are handled in our house, I tend to want a partner who is going to help figure things out. My problem is that I was a Marine, came from 8 kids, and very independent and you know I don't need anyone necessarily to help out. But I want her to speak up and speak her mind about things so that we have communicative intimacy as well as physical intimacy. When we have conflict she tends to be the next oh well lets move on and let whatever the conflict was pass, but I'm still back at examining the problem and let's talk it out and come to a solution or agree to disagree but come to a conclusion somehow. I'm a big advocate of using "I" messages describing how Im feeling and coming from a Marine that's a big step. I've asked a thousand times to begin a conversation like that but we don't get anywhere.

No she hasn't become more uncommunicative but since being back in Poland I guess old ways have a tendency to rise to the surface while she is there. How much Polish do you speak Atch? I'm learning but it's difficult and don't have much time to study having to work full time...I need some time for fun too! I have spoken to her about eventually moving back to Poland from the US when I'm ready to retire. Her mom is 80 or so now and she is getting to the point that it's hard for her to get around. I'm willing to give up stuff here and move there, but when I ask her thoughts she doesn't express much about what she thinks should happen. She has a small job here which doesn't pay very much that she really doesn't like very much so there isn't much keeping her here.

I hesitate a little leaving because we currently live in California and the only thing I like is that the weather is nice most of the time but I HATE all the traffic and hustle and business of southern California. I'd give anything to have that kind of weather in beautiful Poland in a small village with a slow life. Problem is that we are a mixed couple with me being half-black/white and well you may know about how the Polish feel about marrying outside of their race, it's not received all that well. They think you marry just to immigrate to Poland but in actuality she's immigrated to the US. If she wasn't able to be a dual citizen I know she would have never become a US citizen.

You are right about your last statement, it is what we do as people together that is important, and that's why it's so important that I get her buy in and communication within our relationship because that's what's going to get us through the hard times.

Thanks for your response, sorry this is so long.

Love / My wife is Polish and it's difficult for her to open up and talk about her feelings [14]

Wow, bbcr4 that is really helpful insight, I only wish a closer communicative relationship with her. My wife is currently in Poland and when I call via Skype or on Whatsapp I talk and have news about what I'm doing and what's going on, but when I ask her I basically get everything's fine and static on the line. I don't get alot of the details....you know, just chit chat. I look forward to talking about the simple things and getting her ideas about stuff isn't if it's not important to her. Your wife sounds alot like my wife. If I may ask, what region of Poland as your wife raised? Not that it matters. My wife born and raised in a city called Sandomierz, Poland, its about 200 KM Northeast of Krakow. I really appreciate the insight and suggestions and will look forward to trying them out on her if/and when she returns. She's kind of threatened that she might stay in Poland, but we will see what happens.

Love / My wife is Polish and it's difficult for her to open up and talk about her feelings [14]

Gosc123456 you are right I am generalizing and shouldn't be. I was looking to perhaps gain some insight from another Polish woman's prospective that is not readily available to me as we are currently living in the US. I apologize if it came off categorically offensive, that was not my intentions. You are correct that it may be just her individual trait and not a cultural Pole nature. I can only say that I love the polish culture and the country and only wish to enhance my understanding. I am currently trying to learn Polish, which is a very difficult language to grasp. Everyone thank you for your comment and intentions to respond to my query.

Love / Are Polish men shy and take things slow? [116]

Wow, Shizuka I sure hope that it works out for you. I'm sure it doesn't matter Polish guy, English guy, American guy, being with a cute female happens to be fun for any guy unless he's gay or crazy. I'm sure he finds you attractive. It's neat to see innocent romance once in a while, not like the stuff on TV in any form.

Study / Physical therapy BA degree in Poland - how schooling here transfers over to the United States? [10]

On the flip side, wages for allied medical fields are higher in California than in the rest of the US. Double or more than what you would get in Texas, Florida or the South. So studying in California would pay off.

Anna81, I would agree with this whole-heartily but what you have to remember is that living in California, especially southern California, the cost of housing is one of the most expensive places to live in the U.S. DominicB. is correct if a persons chooses to be in a specialized field that requires a license it would be best to get it through school in California. California does not have reciprocity as other states do and rely on their own system, especially in the health care industry.