Love /
Dating a Polish/Italian Guy [18]
His mom is Polish and his dad is Italian and he was raised Catholic, but he seems removed from religion. We are the same age and we seem to have a strong spark that is there most of the time but sometimes I feel like I'm losing it. We've been dating for about a month. We pretty much spend the whole weekend together and have a great time together most of the time. He is very athletic and has a lot of energy and we do crazy, spur of the moment things. One Saturday we spent all day walking around the gardens, went back to his apartment and then took another walk, went to dinner downtown, went to a bar then had a crazy make-out session in his car. He seems very solid and loyal, he dated the same girl throughout high school and college, but then in his senior year they got more distant from each other and he says he is done with her for good. We are now officially, "going out" as of yesterday (not sure how that is any different than dating).
On the flip side, there are moments where I feel really distant and we kind of don't know what else to say to each other. I kind of feel like this may be because we've been together in too intense of a way for such a short period of time. He said, "Don't worry, I like you for things other than this, you're fun, funny etc." I felt like saying gee you better. The other thing is he kind of doesn't want to talk too much about himself like his friends and where he works. Although he does talk about his family, I got the feeling he really didn't want to meet my parents and he doesn't want anything to do with involving me in his family. I have a feeling his parents would make monster in-laws, one because his mother is a reactive Polish woman and two because they're hard core Catholic.
What do you think I can do right now to plant seeds for our relationship to progress and become a deeper friendship? I feel like the sex is a bad idea because I have a major problem with being able to stay open and I don't know what to do about it. He seems fine with this and totally respectful but it ruins the romance/spark. What can I do to show that I would fit in with his family? I feel like we were raised in a somewhat similar style, but the hard core Catholic stuff causes a huge divide because my immediate family is not religious at all.