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Need help/advice polish girl :( British and Polish girl relationship. [26]
Hi Everyone, I would like to share my experience with you all and would like your EXPERIENCED opinions please if you would be so kind :)
I got with a Polish girl Martha who is 25 years old, I am 28 myself and British, Our relationship developed very quickly and we are already living together after 3 months.
We get on together great and share the same interests,cooking,movies etc...many times we even think the same thing! like psychic lol.
However! please read on!
First of all the 3rd week we were together she went to town drinking with a guy (brother of her ex boyfriend) he is 11 years older than her, She got home drunk at drinking from 4pm to 11pm,I told her I dont want her going alone with any guy drinking especially any ex bf's brother, if she wants to stay with me...she never did this again!
I am worried about wasting my time and feelings here, as I have concerns thats might be a little uncomfortable to talk about with her directly.
She is the type of girl who likes to party and gets drunk easily,this worries me especially more as once before I know she shared a house in London with another Polish girl, a Latino guy and his english wife (they were all from the same workplace), one week this guy's wife was on holiday and he offered the 2 girls vodka and waited for them to pass out,took naked pictures of Martha when she was passed out on the sofa sleeping and also had sex with her.(RAPE)and the other Polish girl woke up with this guy trying to have sex with her also in her bedroom (thats how he got caught) Martha did not even know what happened to her! (This guy is currently waiting to go to court)
I had strong feelings for her since we met thats why I still go on with this relationship.
She works now in a factory so does not get much time to party (only 2 days a week now) so this is a bit better,
but in the town where we live in UK, she has 2 friends both Polish, and both drink heavily and smoke weed etc.... basically bad ones.
I can not stop her seeing them as she will say I manipulate her.
One of her friends Justyna has 2 Lithuania men regularly going to her place. One day we were in her place for a quiet drink. Just the 3 of us, and this guy knocked on the door. (I only seen them this one time as I was annoyed and I never went back to Justyna's place since that day). I was sat with martha on the sofa and he came in the house, he was cheeky, asked for some weed from Justyna and I couldnt believe it. He could see i was sat with my Martha and he started talking to her (ignored me) he started right away asking awkward questions etc asking if we are together and starting talking about sex.... I felt really uncomfortable, he started going on about how our cultures are different, saying we are young everybody likes sex etc ...I could see he was a pervert right away and wanted to punch him for being disrespectful in my face. He started Saying im a lucky man etc...(we both never met this guy before) even Justyna only met this guy once before also as she bought weed for him,she said to me,
now he hangs around there and she started having sex with him.....it is weird as there is always 2 Lituanian guys there (maybe a threesome) who knows.They say they are cousins.He lied that he was born in UK and says he is a gypsy. He is a liar as his english isnt great and he had a Lithuanian driving license,even lied about his age. I really dont want her to go anywhere near this guy I told her already this,as he annoyed me so much.
Justyna does not go on holiday with martha as they are from different places however, The 2nd friend Ilona is just a total drunk she has a boyfriend of 5 years who is really nice, I get on with him great I drank with him once in their place. During that day I could see the Ilona and Martha were getting drunk and dancing in the living room my girl Martha got so drunk off 5 beers only and was sleeping on the sofa. Ilona is also from martha's small province just north of Warsaw. They grew up together, everytime on days off she wants to go to this Ilona's place and drink and she is encouraged always to drink by this friend. Whilst on day off she is an animal drinking. She is so bad with crazy parties on holiday in Poland that even her boyfriend of 5 years stays away from this provinces parties! he is from Plonsk.
On facebook one day she was logged in whilst taking a shower so i thought hmm maybe I will have a look at her messages in there, I knew it was wrong but I had to know what I gfot myself into I guess I seen messages saying Im going on holiday at a certain date...and a message which translated to "dont go anywhere i want to pull you" anyway one day during conversation this guys name popped up from her she said I dont see my friend in a long time or something. I asked who this guy was and was an ex so I went on and told her about the message i seen we slept seperate for a few hours and I took her to sleep in the bed at 4am thinking I was being a bit harsh, after that we were ok.
They are now on holiday in their province near Warsaw , this is why im writing this. She has many male firends there near Plonsk. I am worried that she may see me as money or marriage and have some other guy for sex or something. I heard her say before life is short etc... but she always sends me message on facebook saying I miss you and Love you etc....If we talked on skype or in person she never says I love you.....she has blonde hair and is pretty hot so I know guys will be after her if they see she is drunk. I dont know if I should try to accept that she is partying on a day off and on holiday im really stuck and dont know what i should so but I do love her. I dont think it is ok to be friends with ex's at all....she does seem easy to get with and would not take much to get her in bed if drunk....i dont think....maybe i should just cut loose.....she wasted no time to sleep with me with no protection took 3 days only! maybe the fact is im not sure if i can trust her so we cant go on....I guess I need the help of a polish girl or some guy who knows about polish girls thats would be great to know if these girls can get drunk and be faithful or if they are just easy. replies will be appreciated im confused so please dont flame me
