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25 Jun 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [87]
Merged: My Polish girlfriend's parents don't want us to be together because I'm black, advice please
i don't get this really. when i got to Poland i had this gf who just "loved" me and was even ready to marry me but then later i found out that she just has a thing for blacks. i hate for someone to love me just cause of my skin colour the same way i abhor it when someone doesn't like me cause i'm black (but i care less about the latter). i just had to break up with this girl, who has returned to her ex in Belgium (ex is black. no surprise).
for a year i was really fighting VERY HARD to be with one particular girl from my university. this girl is awesome, like "bardzo porzadna!". i realised my colour didn't mean anything to her and i got to really like her. we developed feelings for each other and started a relationship 3 months ago. i'm so much into this girl. i'm not the kind who finds girls "just for the moment", i dislike this. i really planned a long relationship with this girl if not stay with her forever cause she is everything i want in a girl, she's super smart, kind, pretty, works out, all the good things. we were VERY VERY happy with each other. she has been living with her parents all her life till she came to Wroclaw (from Kluczbork) for studies. i love this girl...really! and i was very serious about her. i told her to tell her parents about us that we're together. cause i don't want to just "use" her, i had plans for her.
it appeared her parents are seriously "devout" catholics. so she told her parents about us and her parents said we can't be together.
REASON: cause i'm black!
they said they don't want to meet me and and told her daughter to end our relationship immediately. i don't know if i made a mistake about telling her to tell her parents about us. her parents asked her to choose me or them. can you believe this. if she decides to choose me, they'll stop supporting her and get her out of their house :(. at this moment i'm the saddest person on the planet! she's leaving for Kluczbork this thursday for the vacation. sadly we can't meet ever again. she wants to and she keeps telling me she is very happy with me. she the kind who's very weak and afraid (she's 21). i'm not really sure what to do. i spoke with her sisters (older) and they said, at the beginning of our relationship the most important thing is for her to be happy. and she was, i was VERY happy with her.
i spoke to them that i can go to Kluczbork and talk gently with their father, face to face like real me do, and literally beg him. i know it's lame, but i would do anything for this girl! i told her if her parents sack her from home i'd move away from my apartment, find a cheaper room and support her with the money left each month. i was really ready to die for her.
an hour ago i met with her, we tried to cheer each other up thinking buying some beer and going to a quite place under some bridge would work. it didn't. we ended up crying :(. i could look her in the eye and tell she really wants to be with me but is afraid her family will abandon her and i understand her.
i'm not really sure what to do now. i'm the most confused person on the planet. should i try to write a letter to her dad and maybe explain how much her daughter means to me? tell them how much i love her. would this help. i don't know how to react with some polish people but no offence, and with lots of respect, i think this country is very backward. how can a father take away something that gives their daughter happiness? this is very harsh.
maybe some polish people would be able to give me some nice ideas .
Merged: My Polish girlfriend's parents don't want us to be together because I'm black, advice please
i don't get this really. when i got to Poland i had this gf who just "loved" me and was even ready to marry me but then later i found out that she just has a thing for blacks. i hate for someone to love me just cause of my skin colour the same way i abhor it when someone doesn't like me cause i'm black (but i care less about the latter). i just had to break up with this girl, who has returned to her ex in Belgium (ex is black. no surprise).
for a year i was really fighting VERY HARD to be with one particular girl from my university. this girl is awesome, like "bardzo porzadna!". i realised my colour didn't mean anything to her and i got to really like her. we developed feelings for each other and started a relationship 3 months ago. i'm so much into this girl. i'm not the kind who finds girls "just for the moment", i dislike this. i really planned a long relationship with this girl if not stay with her forever cause she is everything i want in a girl, she's super smart, kind, pretty, works out, all the good things. we were VERY VERY happy with each other. she has been living with her parents all her life till she came to Wroclaw (from Kluczbork) for studies. i love this girl...really! and i was very serious about her. i told her to tell her parents about us that we're together. cause i don't want to just "use" her, i had plans for her.
it appeared her parents are seriously "devout" catholics. so she told her parents about us and her parents said we can't be together.
REASON: cause i'm black!
they said they don't want to meet me and and told her daughter to end our relationship immediately. i don't know if i made a mistake about telling her to tell her parents about us. her parents asked her to choose me or them. can you believe this. if she decides to choose me, they'll stop supporting her and get her out of their house :(. at this moment i'm the saddest person on the planet! she's leaving for Kluczbork this thursday for the vacation. sadly we can't meet ever again. she wants to and she keeps telling me she is very happy with me. she the kind who's very weak and afraid (she's 21). i'm not really sure what to do. i spoke with her sisters (older) and they said, at the beginning of our relationship the most important thing is for her to be happy. and she was, i was VERY happy with her.
i spoke to them that i can go to Kluczbork and talk gently with their father, face to face like real me do, and literally beg him. i know it's lame, but i would do anything for this girl! i told her if her parents sack her from home i'd move away from my apartment, find a cheaper room and support her with the money left each month. i was really ready to die for her.
an hour ago i met with her, we tried to cheer each other up thinking buying some beer and going to a quite place under some bridge would work. it didn't. we ended up crying :(. i could look her in the eye and tell she really wants to be with me but is afraid her family will abandon her and i understand her.
i'm not really sure what to do now. i'm the most confused person on the planet. should i try to write a letter to her dad and maybe explain how much her daughter means to me? tell them how much i love her. would this help. i don't know how to react with some polish people but no offence, and with lots of respect, i think this country is very backward. how can a father take away something that gives their daughter happiness? this is very harsh.
maybe some polish people would be able to give me some nice ideas .