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carrie65   
16 Sep 2011
Love / Do Polish men make good husbands? [106]

Polish b/f just proposed, lovely man but it's a big comitment as we are both divorcees and we are different races. Do polish men make good husbands????

Be great to hear your views/experiences.
carrie65   
19 Sep 2011
Love / Do Polish men make good husbands? [106]

Thanx for all the views, interesting reading!!!!!!

they think women can't drive cars, can't do construction work, can't ride motorcycles and they have an opinion that women should do other stuff and leave cars and mechanical stuff to men,

Tend to agree here, the b/f does seem to think that men are genetically programmed to do these things in a superior way, which is annoying becos I enjoy electrical/electronic repairs!

like to be good providers and always take the garbage out,

very true in my B/F's case

Have in mind: Rewards are more efficient!!!!, but sometimes we simply cannot avoid some punishments.

So far the rewards do work better!!!! Polish men do seem stubborn!!!

As everywhere, it takes two or sometimes three to make one decent. :)

I'm probably being thick but I did not quite get that???? please elaborate it sounds intriguing

!

Poles making good husbands? The good ones are good; the bad ones are bad, like everywhere. If you can assert your position over the mother-in-law, you should be alright.

My potential mother in law seems very nice so far ?
though the rest of the quote is very true probably!

Don't want to rush into anything although he is wonderful!

moment

He was extremely jelous if I talked to another guy or if someone called me

Don't have any problems with this at moment, B/F never minds me going out with my friends.

What i do find a bit odd is that quite a few polish men in the local area seem to have a 'good girl/bad girl' attutude to women.

Where there are groups of men drinking together there are often one or two women who hang around but are never invited back
to the family homes, quite the opposite, the men certainly don't appear to be 'playing away from home' but there just seems some sort of

line drawn as to which women are acceptable to invite to meet the family.
B/F never really explains this one, just says 'some women are okay to have a drink and laugh with but you'd never want to be alone with them

or take them in your house/meet the family'
Not sure i like that attitude, even though it doesn't affect me personally!
carrie65   
21 Sep 2011
Love / Do Polish men make good husbands? [106]

don't have any problems with the family, but this could be because his ex was Polish and cheated on him! Argues a lot wiv his family too by all accounts. Maybe they think more liberally about foreigners! They do seem quite open minded people by nature.

And remember that to Polish women, anything you do that is in the tiniest bit different to them will be seen as outrageous behaviour. Not to be tolerated. And they will want to rescue their own from your evil (or inept) clutches.

My main arguments are over a particular group of friends, mainly male but with a couple of female hangers on, this lot are heavy drinkers and don't work much, I know they think I've got him under the thumb, but I don.t think he's so keen on them anymore now he's got a stable partnership, he tends to gravitate more towards family people now or non drinkers, but this is his choice, though if he has the odd wild night with them it does tend to make me cross as he usually forgets to ring if he's out late with them.

The two females are quite nasty about me even though I've helped them a couple of times. His non heay drinking friends are fine and have actively encouraged the relationship, I'm quite good friends independently with one of the wives! Your quote neatly sums up what his heavy drinking mates attitude.
carrie65   
1 Oct 2011
Love / Are polish women competative about men? [20]

Recently observed a rather heated row between two polish ladies at a social gathering, one lady accused the other of trying to sleep with her boyfriend (unlikely, he's not pretty!)

Row was sorted and lady plus boyfriend left (him looking very smug) other lady plus her own bloke left shortly after.

This left me as the only female, all the men then chattered on about how fierce polish women are about their men and how they'd all but murder any woman who looked at man they liked!!! They would never blame the man only the woman????? Is there any truth in what the men were saying or was it just a load of vodka fuelled fantasy ???
carrie65   
1 Oct 2011
Love / Are polish women competative about men? [20]

I doubt my wife (Polka) would only blame the woman were I to stray....

Pleased to hear some common sense!

I'm not gonna alter my body by adding dupa implants just to please him.

Dupa implants owww!! Good for you, no man is worth going under the knife for!
carrie65   
1 Oct 2011
Love / Are polish women competative about men? [20]

Anyway what I noticed when you have one of them it is highly likely that her gfs will offer themselves to you with or without her consent if you manage to create a decent reputation

You're kidding me??? That is seriously not nice from any nationality!
carrie65   
1 Oct 2011
Love / Are polish women competative about men? [20]

Can't imagine any other women doing this!!!!! Could explain why Polish women are very popular but these women must be a minority in any country!
carrie65   
1 Oct 2011
Law / Benefit entitlement in Poland for foreigners [37]

it's for food and heating for people who have nothing.

Well said!
Either save more money or work in Poland Miss Austrailia! No one has the right to expect any government to subsidise your 'world tour'
There are plenty of us doing nasty distressing jobs for peanuts who can't even afford a holiday in Poland let alone spend a couple of years bumming around Poland!

Try doing something useful, there's plenty of voluntary work needs doing in Africa, south America and other places, you'll see the world and meet some decent people!
carrie65   
2 Oct 2011
Love / Are polish women competative about men? [20]

I have found 45+ the women are very pleasant and down to earth, the very young ones seem nice too,some of the 25-45 group are hard work at times they only seem interested in superficial stuff but maybe I don't make enough effort.

God damn these stupid threads. STOP GENERALIZING. For fucks sake. Some Polish women are competitive, some are not. Same like all women.

Must be fustrating to read these threads but some of us are just learning about the culture/people and its the one place we can ask daft questions without offending individuals we know personally.
carrie65   
3 Oct 2011
Love / How many Polish men are Violent how much is domestic abuse reported. [129]

Domestic violence is a problem amongst all nationalities, and it shouldn't be accepted from either gender!
I haven't heard of much violence towards women amongst the local poles, but i suppose what there is, is hidden.
I have however seen some appalling things done to the men by some of the heavy drinking women.
I think people of both sexes need to be taught that violence is unacceptable and that in some cases it can be fuelled by alcohol!

Infact most of the problems I have seen in the polish community have been down to alcohol!
carrie65   
9 Oct 2011
Life / Polish Werewolves [30]

The Poles have their were-wolves, which rage twice in the year--at Christmas and at midsummer.

I'm not too well up on the original legend but in urban areas of south wales there are Polish men who turn into werewolves about every couple of months, this usually has to do with a clear alcoholic spirit and a lot of daft men! They often have painful after effects from this experience and wonder around the house next day crying 'moja głowa boli'

'Ja jestem tak głupi' poor dears must be awful to have such an affliction through no fault of their own!!!!!
carrie65   
10 Oct 2011
Language / Kurwa? at end of every sentence [51]

Same as anyone who says f--- all the time in English, shows a lack of vocabulary and sometimes general ignorance. The classier Poles ( not particularly the rich ones ) don't do this!
carrie65   
10 Oct 2011
Love / Are Polish Girls scared of English Guys [124]

some of the older women are quite shy of all men, or maybe they are just more modest, can't say i know any young Polish girls who are shy of English/Welsh guys!
carrie65   
11 Oct 2011
Love / Are Polish Girls scared of English Guys [124]

once they reach 30 they transfrom into huge 20+ stone beasts.

Plenty of size 10, fit looking English/welsh/scots/irish women over 30 around if you look, plus we don't rely on quite so much make up! Better complexions in many cases!

Probably more scared of ending up like an English girl

Unlikely,plenty of Brit girls end up OK depends on what they do with their lives! Don't think it's an age thing either,Polish women age no better than any other race! Brit girls age no worse!
carrie65   
15 Oct 2011
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

Polish women are definitely not the most beautiful in the world, no particular race is! There are beauties from every race and there are total mingers too! I have seen some lovely polish women but I've seen lovely Indian, Irish, welsh, Thai and every other nationality of women too!

Some in clubs are very pretty but too dolled up. Natural beauty has a radiance all of its own and they cheat ;)

I tend to agree with this comment, though it is quite often true of young Britsh girls too. I don't admire the obession that some Polish women have with appearance!

I remember being introduced to a youngish polish woman a few weeks back, her first words were
' I saw you on the station last week, I thought you didn't look very pretty and I couldn't think why your fiance had asked you to marry him? Now I have seen you close up I can see you don't look too bad!'

Did it it never occur to her that there are other qualities in a woman???? This charming lady then proceeded to ask me if I had met a particular member of my fiance's family? After confirming that I had, the lady (by now joined by a couple of her mates) proceeded to rip this family member's looks to pieces just because the family member did not put make up on with a JCB digger! Actually the family member is genuinely beautiful because she has a brain, a character, honour and a lovely nature and to me a lovely face too partly because she does not like the 'barbie doll' look! No language mix up here my polish is good and the barbie doll B---- has very good English!

It's a bit sad that so many of the threads on here rave on about the appearance of women rather than more important aspects of their nature!
carrie65   
15 Oct 2011
Love / Help me understand the different mannerisms and mentality of men in Przemysl area! [28]

[Interesting comments on this thread but to get back to the original point.

Be brave and take a leap of faith :)

quote]

Yes you have to take risks in any relationship, scary but true. Most of us have been hurt at some time but that's life!!!

A few words of advice which I hope will be useful!
Don't discuss the war, it was a long time ago, the Poles were occupied and it's difficult to know what any of us would do in a stuation like that.

Politicians make wars and many people lost their lives, probably did things they wouldn't normally do and some times every nation made bad decisions!

Listen if people tell you about their experiences but don't voice your opinions until you are totally settled in the family.

I sometimes think he lies to me but I can't tell

This could be a language thing or the fact that Polish men don't like to be seen doing anything silly or wrong, they come out with the most long winded explanations for everything which can give an impression of lies. Just make it clear you'd prefer the truth however bad!

I want to take him there as I don't think he has any money.

Don't pay for him to go, it's not a healthy precedent to set in any relationship even if one person has more money than the other. Your man should always contribute something to the relationship financially, I would say the same to man, the woman should contribute financially too. if the two of you ever have a family of your own, the financial dynamics may have to change but until then both contribute or resentment will creep in.

The only problem is I'm originally from Tehran, of middle eastern descent, and I don't know how his family would feel towards me.

If your man is okay with you, forget about what the family think. there is no shame in being any nationality be proud of your origins!!!! If your man has problems with your nationality get rid of him!!!!

Hope this is some help, good wishes for you bothX
carrie65   
15 Oct 2011
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

Greek women have the same obscession.

Ok, point taken, we can all be ******* at times!
I was brought up in a very multi cultural area but have rarely met women who rate physical appearance as importantly as young Polish women do.

My other half is always apologising that he doesn't earn enough for me to spend all my own wages on cosmetics and clothes. I wouldn't anyway even if he had Bill gates' fortune!!!!
carrie65   
15 Oct 2011
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

like slutty appearance

Tend to agree with you here, can't see the attraction of putting all your stock on show, plus the 10 tons of goo on the face!

Would have thought a bit of mystery would be nice!
Judging by the innumerable posts on Polish girls' charms I obviously can't think like a man!
carrie65   
15 Oct 2011
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

few good men in Slavic universe

They have their faults, but I don't think they are any worse than other nationalities!

If they are drunk, everything should be as visible and subject of augmentation as possible ;)

LOL Some might get a shock next morning!

I will defend though Mediterranean appearance, think about Italy, Greece too, where genders are recognizable, and simply pleasant for the eyes.

Got to agree 100% here!

other non loyal girls

Shame about this cos no man is worth fighting for! Female mates are precious as I have been lucky enough to find out!
carrie65   
16 Oct 2011
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

slavic women are masters in it they become like dolls.(

I think this is what I dislike about the way some slavic women look! I suspect that it is exactly what some men love though!

Common western approach.

Not sure it's only a western attitude, I have Asian female friends and they would not fight over a man it's undignified.
If some woman hits on my man, it's his job to politely inform her that he is unavailable, if he doesn't do this, he's not worth having!

Knowingly hitting on another woman's man is a sh----- thing to do! for me , my honour would prevent me doing this, I have never known my female friends

to do this either!

But perhaps, mine and your definition of what is overuse of make up differ

True, does come down to personal taste!
carrie65   
16 Oct 2011
Love / How many Polish men are Violent how much is domestic abuse reported. [129]

Exactly right!

Glad some one else agrees, violence is certainly not all down to males. The rise of 'all girl' gangs in the UK is quite frightening because sometimes they are horribly viscious!

'political correctness' of the feminist type

I find it demeaning and patronising when feminists refuse to accept any culpability on behalf of women's actions. As human beings we are all capable of good and evil!

Men and women are very different biologically and pschologically, this is for a reason but it does not imply superiority of one gender over the other, I wish feminists would remember this!
carrie65   
16 Oct 2011
Language / Kurwa? at end of every sentence [51]

I would not trust a person who isn't throwing a little "kurwa" once in a while.

Not really a matter of having too high an opinion of one's self, some people just do not like bad language!
carrie65   
19 Oct 2011
Love / Help me understand the different mannerisms and mentality of men in Przemysl area! [28]

Deep down, you don’t want to hear the truth

OH yes we do !!!!!!!!!!!! every lttle detail!!!!!!!!

What makes you think he would even entertain such proposal?

He probably wouldn't entertain any such suggestion, but it's advice I would give anyone if they appear to be offering to spend large amounts of money on some one because they think that person doesn't have money.

You so judgmental,

Didn't mean to be but the lady did write

but I don't wish to make my Polish guy embarrassed or anything

The only problem is I'm originally from Tehran

she sounded worried about this and nobody should worry about their nationality. Did think your analogy to the film was hilarious though!
I promise I will hide the pitchfork whenever my son brings a girl home!!!!!!!!
carrie65   
21 Oct 2011
Love / Is it wrong for Polish girls to kiss boys before marriage ? [31]

Kissing the opposite sex before marriage is perfectly normal for all but the most sexually strict and most secluded societies. In the catholic religion kissing is not taboo or frowned upon. You are very lucky that you have found a lady who had the moral values and strength of character to remain a virgin until she was married, can't be an easy option in a fairly sexually liberal society such as Poland. Stop worrying about a few kisses that happened a long time ago, lots of women, of all religions have sex before marriage, you have a wife who has saved herself for the man she loves, you need to prove that you are worthy of her love and the gift she has given you!!!!!
carrie65   
21 Oct 2011
Love / Goal: Meet a nice Polish girl! [62]

JustysiaS: It's not a flea market

Listen to what this lady says, she's talking a lot of common sense!!
You can't just randomly decide that a particular race of women will make good wives! Sure there are some lovely and very moral Polish girls, but the same goes for any race of women! When some one decides that they are sick of their own race of women, they have to look at themselves too!

Just what are you expecting from a woman!!!
Love just happens irrelevant of race!
I always fancied adrien Brody but I've ended up with a blonde 'Rasputin' look a like, but I wouldn't swap him!
Open your mind and you might get a nice surprise!
carrie65   
21 Oct 2011
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

so why there are milions of girls around the world who dream to get screwed by this polish guy.

No I'll give him a miss thanks! the other millions can have him! (though to be fair he's not ugly )
carrie65   
26 Oct 2011
UK, Ireland / Websites for Poles to benefit from Britain! [210]

Those benefits are payback for Britain's WWII negligence.

Get real, mistakes were made all through the war! We don't owe the Poles anything, nor do they owe us!
People on both sides died fighting Hitler!
The poles had it far easier under communism than most of the eastern bloc and I doubt Britain/America could have prevented the Soviets behaviour without resorting to nuclear warfare, not exactly a good solution either!

There are plenty of Poles that would quite like the reintroduction of communism!!!!
@Hudsonhicks if the Poles or any one else pay taxes they are entitled to Tax credits etc... Law of the land!
Indians are successful because they work and study far harder than either Brits or Poles, same goes for the chinese! Most pakistani's are hardworking too!

Fact of the matter is : Most Brits won't do the jobs that Poles and other immigrants do, that is why they are over here! Personally I'm glad that most are because otherwise we'd be up s--- creek!

There are Poles ( very few) who milk the system and other immigrants (again not that many) I think they're sh-- but so are the Brits who do this!

@ Rozoumiec (sorry if the spelling is wrong) the banks and politicians are quite often bent but not half as corrupt as other countries!!!! As for a few benefit bums not mattering, yes it does matter just as much as bent banks/politicians, education begins at home, bums breed bums in many cases!!!!

ANYONE WHO IS GENUINELY UNEMPLOYED OR UNABLE TO WORK THROUGH ILLNESS., MY APOLOGIES I DO NOT INCLUDE YOU IN THESE COMMENTS
carrie65   
26 Oct 2011
UK, Ireland / Websites for Poles to benefit from Britain! [210]

how do you work that one out? we were doing ok pre-2004

Easily, many employers were desperate for staff pre 2004 but could not geet them unless they were prepared to offer cash in hand.
there were loads of asian immigrants working and lots of refugees in the South of England.
I work for the NHS and there wouldn't be one without all the foreign workers!
If the Poles were only after benefits they wouldn't bother working at all, I'd be better off on benefits as i have 4 kids but i also have pride!

They came over because people employed them! Same goes for most immigrants.
carrie65   
26 Oct 2011
UK, Ireland / Websites for Poles to benefit from Britain! [210]

Train more Britons

That would be an excellent idea, however, you would have to sort out the education system!
The calibre of applicants to the NHS is appalling!
The approach to science in schools is useless, not really encouraged and very 'dumbed down' and not much better in FE/HE!!
Many of the younger generation do not have the vocation or work ethic to be good employees in this sector. Often this is not the fault of the younger people themselves, more an education/society that teaches rights without responsibilities!

when you can rob the third world and now eastern europe of its nurses?

True, this is not entirely ethical but I'm glad they are here!