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Joined: 5 Apr 2011 / Male ♂
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Stosh   
20 Sep 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

I had to smile when I saw the comment from the Turkish fellow that Poles are "the best." I have a Turkish friend who says that about Americans all the time. He can't stop telling everyone how much he loves his new country.

I don't think anyone is saying the Polish people are bad, I hope not since my name is Majewski, just that the Polish culture is different than the Americans and that applies to Polish Americans. I say hello when I meet someone new while smiling. Someone from Poland on this forum wrote that Polish people think Americans are stupid for doing this to someone they don't know. He asked why would someone do that since they didn't know the person being greeted? I have met alot of nice people just with a smile and a hello.
Stosh   
20 Sep 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

You need to understand the section of town the Polish community is located in St. Louis. It's not the Polish shooting each other. St. Louis has the second highest murder rate in the country. Last year it was #1. We were there for two weeks just this month and they had a shooting a day. I pass when I have to dodge bullets from some idiot shooting from a car even if it is for some home made Polish food.
Stosh   
20 Sep 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

My family has been Americans since the early 1800's. A fact we are very proud of. My experience with Polish from the old country is they are rude from how I was raised, Now from how they were raised I am sure they think it is the Americans that are odd, nuts or out of our minds. lol That's fine, but not if you plan to stay here and become part of American society. I would not think of moving to Poland and not show respect to the Polish people by not working to fit in.

Recently I was in St. Louis where the local church had a festival. How sad is it that they actually needed to say in the newspaper ad that no firearms were allowed. We were visiting friends and had planned to go until that. The polish communities I have visited in Trenton, NJ, Philadelphia, PA and St. Louis, MO are in the worse sections of those towns. That is in part due to the fact the new Polish immigrants don't want to become Americans. Why come all this way to live locked away?

I am proud to say my grandparents were Polish. It would be nice to hear the Polish coming here were just as proud to become American.
Stosh   
6 Apr 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

Andzia,

If you would like to talk, tell me your e-mail. I would enjoy learning more about life in Poland.

YES, ALL POLISH PEOPLE ARE NOT RUDE! The ones that are though hurt the others. Now lets all hug and make nice. :-)

I will admit that the Poles I have met in Philadelphia have been very friendly. Great food, just too far to visit to shop. Maybe our local community are just grummpy? That's a joke. Of course living under communism would make me grummpy too.
Stosh   
6 Apr 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

Good morning Andzia,

I hope saying good morning is acceptable since we don't know each other. Just so you understand I do not hate the Polish people since my ancestors came from there. Actually I still have family in Warsaw and Kracow. What angers me is the way I am treated in the nearby Polish community when I go shopping there. Try to support them and they act like you have a disease. Not smart or good for businesss.

The Polish area of the nearby town is one of the poorest areas. Immigrants come there and don't want to become Americans. So why bother coming? I would not move to Poland if I didn't want to be a part of the community. The community cannot support the small businesses that start. When outsiders try to shop at their stores they won't even help them when they are asked questions. I have had shop owners not wait on me because I wasn't Polish. What point is that meant to prove except your stupid and rude?

The Poles here have the reputation of being rude, dishonest and worse. Sadly it is true. Bad enough they do this to non-Poles, but they do this to each other. They have nothing and take advantage of each other. It is well known to never hire a Polish contrator because they take great pride in taking advantage of you.

Anyway, my grandchildren will be taught their Polish acestory and we will keep the Polish customs I grew up with as a boy. Next Christmas I will take the grandchildren to the Irish Catholic church where they are more than happy to welcome anyone. At the moment I am making golabki & placki for dinner.

Hope you have a nice day,
Stosh
Stosh   
6 Apr 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

I am sure all Polish people are not rude, but it seems like a trait a majority find to be an attribrute. Why this is a mystery to me. In Poland this may be accepted as the norm, but in other countries you only reinforce the image of the "stupid pollock." I grew up with the stupid Pollock image and it wasn't fun. I do like a good Polish joke as long as it isn't meant to be an insult.

This past Christmas we thought we would take our little grandchildren to St. Hedwig's where I went to church with my grandparents. When we walked in people looked at us like we had just landed from another planet. No one came over to welcome us except for the priest. My grand daughter asked what language the priest was speaking and I heard a few rude remarks. How dare you act this way in the house of God. This goes beyond rude.

My wife worked with a Polish man. They were both directors for a large telecom company. He treated everyone with that rude attitude and acted like women were beneath him. He would proudly say that in Poland he was a "mover and shaker." After a year with the company they sent him out the door because of his attitude.

I have tried over the years to support the Polish community, but have gotten nowhere. They stay in there little ghetto and want no part of becoming part of the community. It is obvious that if you aren't from the old country they don't want to be bothered. This applies even to the struggling shop owners. Don't speak the language and they try to overcharge you. Funny part is they really think they are outsmarting you. Losing business is stupid.

Anyway, the question posed was are the Polish people seen as being rude to others. Sadly yes. If this is an image your proud of then do nothing to change it. This is one Polish American who would rather the Poles be known for something better than thinking rude is a good trait.
Stosh   
6 Apr 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

Des Essientes you seem to love the Russian system that oppressed the Polish people and robbed them of their freedom. The Germans crushed them and then the Russians smoothered them.

Asik I am an American first. My ancestors fought and died for this country they chose to call their home. My grandfather was a warm and loving person to EVERYONE and not just family and friends. We carry on the Polish traditions which always make the holidays so happy. His joy was meeting new people. He always smiled, said hello, pardon me and enjoyed a friendly handshake.

I am very proud of my Polish ancestory and it's contribution to the world. My family named had been changed by officials when they came to this country because the person couldn't spell it. It remained that way since the 1700's. I am the frist to have it changed back to the correct Polish spelling. If I weren't proud of it I wouldn't have taken the time. I am not proud of the recent immigrants who have gained a reputation of being rude and crude not just to each other. This reputation isn't just in the U.S. Do an internet search and you will find it all over the world.

I understand that being rude is thought to be funny in Poland especially to strangers. I hope that is not the case.

Uśmiech (uśmiechać się) i świat uśmiecha się z wami.
Stosh   
6 Apr 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

If you are third generation Pole and still want Socialism go back to Poland because it isn't going to happen in this country without a war. As far as recent Poles that have come to the United States it is their choice to become a part of our society or not. If I moved to Poland it means that I want to become a part of it's people. I understand your cluture is different than ours and that can account for how you react to life here. I still have family in Warsaw and Kracow, but after my experinece with immigrants think I'll stay here. My faimly has been in this country since the late 1700's and I am very proud to call it my home. If you truly love Poland so much you should stay there and help rebuild it. I have been told Poland is very beautiful.
Stosh   
5 Apr 2011
Life / Do you think that Polish people are rude? [951]

As an American of Polish ancestory I find new Polish immigrants rude and with a chip on their shoulder. The men think the Nazi storm trooper look is becoming. They live in the Polish ghetto of the city and don't want to become Americans. All of my ancestors were very proud to learn English and become part of this country. All became successful merchants and part of our society. They still want Socialism to take care of them here. At one time I wanted to connect with these people until I learned what they consider their "culture". Don't like Americans trying to be friendly to you? There is always a plane going back to the old country. Kiedy w moim kraju mówią mój język (językowy).