Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I've moved on


I'm shy, not stupid, I can see she is not interested. It hurt bad for a few days but its okay now. Shes after money and thats not what I'm about. There is no point trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

I'm too good for her, yes she is beautiful but I'm looking for a different kind of beauty, less superficial.

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Agreed. He was able to express himself through his music which helped people empathsise.
I haven't that level of talent so people don't have a clue whats going on in my head.
To them they probably see a big strong confident man but under the surface its a different story.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I understand.
How can I expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Thanks so much guys, that means alot.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


Yeah...Its all a bit depressing really. She is showing a lot of interest towards another man in the same office. She is always round him. He is a big time charlie, a big flash car and loads of money. He is a complete loser really, but as they say, money talks.

I can't compete with that, I feel really sh*t.
I had been feeling really positive about life and the future but now...I don't know.


This made me laugh, good old George.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Here is the deal.
Next time I see her I am going to chat to her, the time for words is over, the time for action is now. I don't care if she rejects me, I need to move on with my life and at the moment I am stuck in no man's land. I don't want to persue other women until I know my chances with her are no more. I can do this. She knows something is up, she is not stupid. There was an opportunity today I did not take, fair enough. I opened the door at work for her being the gentleman that I am. She said hello but held back and started looking at something in the foyer of the office, I expected us to walk together through to the main part of the building. I thought, oh-oh, why is she holding back, this is not good. Is she trying to avoid me. Later, I went into her section of the office , she was busy on the phone to someone, (it could have been home, she was speaking Polish to them) but when I entered the room the two other girls who worked there had a glance over to her. This made me think that they are aware something is up.

Doesn't change anything, I'm still going ahead with the plan. I'm going to grow some balls and find out where I stand.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Is it common for Polish girls to be confusing? This girl is really confusing me. The other day I got the impression there was no chance with her, the reaction to me was cold and uninterested. Today I got a warm smile and a sparkle in the eye. Maybe I am over analysing things, perhaps she was having a bad day before, who knows.

I would like to give her a flower as a gift, is it a bit soon? We've only really been smiling and saying hi to each other so far. I'm sure she has a fair idea that I like her but making dialogue has been tricky.

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My mind keeps going back to this girl. The more I think of it the more I feel I have no chance with her. Its all a bit topsy turvy, one minute I'm feeling positive, the next I'm quite down.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Didn't even get to the pub, my mates decided they would just stay in and play poker.
I'll have to branch off from them. I can't let them dictate.

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I know what you mean. For someone inexperienced like myself, it only makes me feel worse about myself. All those opportunities I'm just not taking.

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Thanks Lobo,
Theres alot I must mull over.
Heading out now with a few friends. Its an opportunity to put a few things into action we discussed before, like starting conversations with girls I don't have interest in. Its tricky with my mates, I think I need new ones to be honest. All there are interested in is playing poker and getting very badly drunk. Its an all male preserve. Not too many opportunities there. I guess I need them as a kind of safety blanket, I couldn't walk into a bar on my own, not knowing anyone. I would quickly move to the corner and try to blend in with the wallpaper!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


Your right, I'm focusing too much on what she may not like about me. I should be concentrating on my many good qualities. Old habits die hard I'm afriad.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


Mmmm, maybe. I have noticed something which I can work on. I do come across to other people, not just girls, as quite serious. I have been told I don't smile enough (I'm a bit self concious of my teeth, there okay but not great!) The old man is a friend, I don't think he was playing for something, just creating a nice, jovial, light atmosphere.

I want to be like that.

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Thats something I'm beginning to understand. In the past I would maybe try too hard to make someone like me. It doesn't work like that. I'm looking more to the future now instead of worrying about what has gone before.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


Well thats something, but would it not be the exception rather than the rule?

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Oh nothing really, I've been replaying the couple of opportunities I've had to speak with her and they didn't come across as very natural. Its okay, I understand that it will be difficult at first but as I make conversation with more girls it will be better.

On the point for her rating that we discussed yesterday, I would probably bump it up to an 8 now.
There was an oldish man flirting with her today in work.She seemed to enjoy the attention. It pissed me off no end but its a valuable lesson I guess.

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What about first impressions? If you feel the first meeting didn't go down well is there still hope?

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Thanks angel eyes, yes I see what you mean now. Alot of nonsense there, but a few pearls of wisdom have been thrown in along the way, I suppose its a matter of being selective and not taking everything as red.

Yes, I'm going to work on the confidence side of things first. One stage at a time.
Looks aren't everything to me either which I'm proud of. I'm not interested in having the most beautiful girlfriend, as long as we're happy with each other what more could you ask for. I see so many men with their 'trophy girlfriends' and I think to myself that is just silly.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


This is something that would make me feel very positive about the future. In the past I have dug myself into a hole by convincing myself that everyone else is best looking than me and its just tough luck mate, your destined for a life of being alone.

Charm and confidence are things that can be improved upon and it has given me hope that with a lot of hard work and perserverance something good can happen.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


Can you give us some examples please, it would be great to get a different perspective on the situation.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I'll give it a go. Thanks for boosting my confidence. I've got to sign off for now, will let you know how things go over the weekend.

Talk to you then.

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I understand, as you said earlier she will probably be snapped up by a more experienced fella. It's good to prepare for the worst, while still hoping for the best.


I wouldn't rely on my rating too much, I'm not good at making those sort of judgments, obviously to me she is 10. I'm sort of guessing others views. I do know that a blonde would get more attention so you never know.

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Ummm, its a tricky one, probably about a six or seven, I mean, nobody else in work has commented on her so I guess she isn't stunning in a conventional way. She has dark/reddish hair which I prefer and has a very slim, toned body. She carries herself with such elegance.

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Thats the thing, when I spoke to this girl today, she seemed totally unfazed by everything I said, totally confident and a bit cold. She didn't seem nervous at all and that is why I have the feeling that she is not keen on me.


By the same token then women must find it easier to talk with men they don't care for.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I hadn't considered that.

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Yeah, I have found that in the past. It's been frustrating and I've found myself wondering, 'why can't I act like that all the time'

I will make a conscious effort to talk to girls that I'm not that bothered about as a way of training myself to be more confident. I feel a wee bit uneasy about it though, as I fear I'll be giving them the wrong signals and may end up hurting their feelings.

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Why do you think closed questioned are better suited?

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Thanks for all the good advice, its been an intense week, trying out new methods and learning so much. I guess its like using a muscle that you have not used for a while, the urge is to try do too much too soon. I am feeling alot more confident now and positive for the future. I can see that the odds are heavily against me suceeding on this particular occasion but the key is to keeping trying, to keep getting up again after been knocked down. This is what I've been avoiding in the past, I've had a fear of rejection. It feels weird as I don't think today went particularly well in relation to the girl I am interested in, its not just me being negative which I end to get sometimes but I just felt things weren't right. Sorry its hard to describe but its just a sort of gut instinct. I'm not backing out at all, I'm still going to give it my best shot, but it was probably a realisation that this may not work out. And I felt fine about it. In the past I've worried that 'this might be the one' and I'd become anxious not to mess things up in case I'd never have another opportunity. I've come round to the view that if she doesn't like me its no big deal, I'll just keep on looking for someone who does like me.

Lobo, thanks once again, I was just going back over all the advice you have provided me with. Its great stuff, you have a great pool of wisdom. What's your story?

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Love or lust?

There seems to be a bit of confusion between the two. Do we believe we're in love when in reality we are only lusting after someone. What is love? (That was a song back in the 90's wasn't it!) The phrase 'love at first sight' can't be true love. When you meet someone for the first time and there is an instant connection it feels like love but it's more a realisation that here is an opportunity for something special to occur. Surely love is something that is built up as a relationship progresses, as the bond deepens so to speak. How can you love someone if they don't love you back? There can be a great respect for that person and an understanding that they could be one of those special people in your lives but unless the feeling is reciprecated it isn't the real thing.

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My sentiments entirely.

There is always one rotten apple in a barrell.

You give men a bad name.