Posts by rlo2476

rlo2476

30 Oct 2010

Love / Getting to know a Polish Man who's first time he'e ever been in the USA [12]

but something excites u, right?

Yes, something does excite me and I am interested in him but I think it would be best to start a friendship first. I did feel a connection but since we went out once he has seemed scared.

u know too little about him

I don't know a lot about him, he is military. I know that he was dating someone a while ago and they broke up because she did not want to move to Poland...that's understandable.

I do know that he is very work oriented and has a difficult time relaxing. But when we do talk, it's always really nice and he smiles a lot.

if there is what he thinks is an age difference

I think he is about 6 or 7 years older than I am. I have tried not to get personal with him in the fear that I might scare him off. I'd like to keep that personal side on his terms so I don't freak him out.

One more thing, I have a child from a former marriage (I was married almost 10 years). He has never been married and has no children so I think that my having a child may have been a setback in a sense. Maybe that scares him too.

:) Thank you again

rlo2476

30 Oct 2010

Love / Getting to know a Polish Man who's first time he'e ever been in the USA [12]

"not all Polish men fit the stereotype"

funny thing, I'm not sure what the stereotype of Polish men are...well, the older crowd that is. :) I have Polish-American friends who are all "Americanised"

So, even if we already went out once and I asked, it's still ok to just call him up and say "hey, wanna grab some coffee?"

again, I don't want to seem pushy, I'm not looking for a relationship right now, just a friendship and he's very interesting.

Thanks again for your candid responses :)

rlo2476

30 Oct 2010

Love / How should I approach this young Polish man that I like? [48]

Spaniel,
I'm in the same boat. I met a really nice but older Pole who has been in the US only a few months. He is military so I know he will be leaving and that is ok because he will be here a few years and a lot can happen but...I only want to be friends and maybe have coffee, go hang out sometime or do something. I don't want him to think I'm pushy either. We did go out once already, he smiles at me all the time when we talk but I am still not sure what he thinks. Honestly, I do like him. He seems like such a great guy, very reserved and calm. I think he may be shy as well. Still, I think friendship is a good start. So, my question is...are older Polish men harder to get to know?

rlo2476

30 Oct 2010

Love / Getting to know a Polish Man who's first time he'e ever been in the USA [12]

Could be but, he speaks English very well. Better than most Americans. I am afraid my energy may have overwhelmed him a little. is it ok to ask him for coffee? Just as friends to get to know him? I'm told it takes a long time for Polish men to open up to women. Is this true?

Thank you so much!

rlo2476

30 Oct 2010

Love / Getting to know a Polish Man who's first time he'e ever been in the USA [12]

Hi all,

I don't speak any Polish but have found an interest in an individual who has recently moved to the USA. He is very wrapped around his work and showed some interest before. I asked him out and I am thinking this may have been the wrong thing to do. Is it not acceptable for a woman to approach a Pole and ask him out in Polish culture? We did have a very nice time but I am not sure if I should ask again. I think he may be a bit overwhelmed by the American culture. I just want to be friends right now...I don't expect anything. I'm relatively new to the area and haven't made many friends, he seems very interesting and I'd like to just get to know him a little more but again, I'm a bit nervous to just ask if he'd like to grab coffee. I see him regularly around work and he is very professional, I keep it that way as well but I sense a little interest and I'm not sure if he is just shy or if it just takes a really long time to get to know people from the Polish perspective. When no one is around we talk and he smiles the entire time...is this normal behavior to smile all the time when talking to someone or is it an indication that maybe he likes me but is just shy? Keep in mind, he is an older man, in his 40's, quite handsome and grew up during the fall of communism so he is not a typical man, not anything like the men you'd find in the States. He is very reserved and very work oriented, doesn't have much of a social life either. Would it be appropriate to just ask for coffee/tea or should I leave it alone?