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Posts by Andy_McRae  

Joined: 9 Jan 2010 / Male ♂ 		Last Post: 20 Jan 2010
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Andy_McRae   
9 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Hi everyone, it's good to know there is a site dedicated LDR's ;-) I have just started chatting with this polish girl who's 29 and she seems genuine but I have been misled before with Russian and American girls starting a relationship with me, to find out within a few days or so they are Nigerian scammers....

And I don't want that to go through that and waste my time again as I feel she is the one for me, but I can't help being wary (just in case) I've done some quick background checks and nothing flags up.

Is there anything I can do to see if she is genuine without her thinking i'm checking up on her please?

Any help would be greatly appreciated
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / I love my Polish girl! Wanted to share my story. [55]

To me it sounds like a tough one to judge, you say you have known each other for 9 months? and things are moving fast, whats the longest time you have actually spent together in one go? you havent said how old you both are as this could have an influence on things.

I have just started relations with a polish girl and I hope it work out for us but I will wait 12 months before we decide on a permanent abode for us.

Why is your family so negative towards her please?
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

I totally agree, the 1st sign of a scammer i've found is usually have lost both parents in a tragic accident, or they are in need of an operation and need money...

How did you meet her out of intrest?

We met on a disability dating website

Then type and cam.....simples :D I skype with a friend but sometimes whilst skyping we type too, it works...

I don't think she has skype i've done a search but her mail is not in the phonebook
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / I love my Polish girl! Wanted to share my story. [55]

I did read the post but I can't understand why people would say that is it not a stereotypical answer?? or do people actually think that it's about money... you cant spend it when your dead so live it were only here once :-)
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Why her mum would go to Poland which was still under the communist regime and to add together with a young daughter plus a husband from Scotland?? That's weird.

I don't the full story but from what I can gather her parents seperated when she was 7 and her mum took her back home, her dad died when she was 20...

Ask her for a mobile number to text or even call her, it doesn't cost a fortune and at least you'll know in which country she's in. If she refuses to give a mobile, try a fix land line, if she refuses this then she's in Nigeria...

This I will do thank you
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Thankyou all for your tips and advice, it really is helpful to me i appreciate your time :D

I asked what her name was as she says she is called Kate but her email didn't match and this is what she told me

my polish name is krecha which means kate or karolina in english

Is this true please
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

It's Pygota, I don't know what her english surname was :(

A similar word, Krycha, is sometimes used as a shortened form of Krystyna, but that's Christine in English.

That could be right her English phonetics are not too strong or perhaps

Katarzyna = Kasia = Kate

Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Perhaps mention you maybe planning a trip to Warsaw and see what the reaction is.

Also ask about her time in the UK where she lived etc, what she remembers, school that sort of thing.

Is it usual to change a surname?

I have mentioned a trip to see her and she said yes it is possible with planning from us and understanding...

She lived in Manchester I wil ask her what she remembers though and it is usual to change the surname if her parents were married then divorced.
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Still, assuming that she's a real person, there is an ethical question. Andy, would you be willing to provide her with the same kind of information and be subject to the same kind of check-up?

I see where you are coming from in short yes (I trully want to believe) but past experiences have knocked my faith in people Nigerian scammers have a lot to answer for :(
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Ask her for a mobile number to text or even call her, it doesn't cost a fortune and at least you'll know in which country she's in. If she refuses to give a mobile, try a fix land line, if she refuses this then she's in Nigeria...

She gave me her mobile No 00485********

I think that honesty and straightforwardness could be the best option. Just tell her about your Nigerian experiences

Thank you you are right on this ;-)
Andy_McRae   
10 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

I am being very carefull and try not to get to attached to soon untill I know for sure ;-) thanks for wishing us luck I will come back with an update now and again, and thank you to everyone who has helped me out and guided me with my first steps ;-)
Andy_McRae   
15 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Knock it off with the Internet dating and find a girl in real life.

When your a single Dad and don't drink how do you find someone in real life please?

In that case good luck to you :) you don't need any other proof.
I'd only be concern why doesn't she want to use video-camera, is she a "he"or something else and plays a "big deal" here?

thank you this has put my mind a little to rest, as for concerns yes i agree she could be a he.

I'd just say, if you enjoy your discussions with her, feel free. If you can meet her, even better. Be somewhat cautious if asked for money or to pay things.

(Different matter - don't these forums have any notifications? I've not had 1!)

Thanks again, if it wasn't for people like yourselves it would be very easy for scammers to con people and for genuine people never to take a leap of faith...the minute I hear she needs money is the time to get suspicious.

I don't think this forum allows you to get notified of messages, however if you click on my theads at the top it will show if any1 has replied to you.
Andy_McRae   
16 Jan 2010
Love / Is she genuine? - I would like some advice please re a Polish girl. [130]

Thanks i do too, but has she slipped up or is it just me reading between the lines??

6 Days ago she told me she lived alone in 1 room flat.

Last night she told me she shared a flat with her friend in a 2 bedroom flat.

Should i question it or leave it for now and see what happens...