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Polish Girls negative or positive personality trait? [267]
Hi nextweek.
Great topic.
When expectations don't meet reality, unhappiness is the result.
I have around 10 experiences that are personal and they are almost all negative.
But on the other hand, I have around 50 professional experiences and they are almost all positive.
And whenever I get a chance, I will have a conversation with a Polish Girl because I am interested in how Polish Society is changing.
Positive Personality Traits
1) Hard-working and very professional in the work place.
2) Educated in the book-sense
3) Good conversation
Negative Personality Traits
1) Inferiority Complex
2) Conflicted
3) Promiscuous
4) Naive in the worldly-sense
5) Unstable and irrational
I would like to introduce you to Magdalena.
1) Magdalena is over 25 years old and from Poland.
2) She expected to be married and have a baby by age 24.
3) She had this expectation because this is what she saw in her own family.
4) She heard that people in the UK were rich and so she thought she could move to the UK and not only make lots of money but maybe even meet a rich UK Guy who would treat her even better than some poor Polish Guy.
5) Now imagine that Magdalena went through a very Catholic Educational System that taught her year after year that it is wrong to have sex before marriage.
6) And imagine that her culture has now decided that a woman should be very successful in a career as well as be married and have a baby by age 24 whereas in the past the career was not emphasized.
7) Imagine that when Magdalena lived in Poland where she had lots of contact with family members on a regular basis through Sunday gatherings, dinner parties, holidays, etc.
Magdalena's Current Reality:
1) Magdalena lives in the UK.
2) She lives with her UK Boyfriend and is having sex everyday with him.
3) Her boyfriend is poor like her.
4) It is possible that this is the 2nd or 3rd man she has lived with and the 7th or 8th she has had sex with.
5) She is not married.
6) She does not have a baby.
7) And she is making low money and so does not feel successful in a career.
8) Her boyfriend treats her about the same or maybe a little worse than a Polish Man would have treated her.
9) She has mostly phone contact with her family and when she talks to her mother her mother asks her if her boyfriend has proposed yet.
10) Her boyfriend might propose to her in five or six years or he may not ever propose because marriage is becoming a thing of the past in Western Europe. Also, her boyfriend has seen his friends pay huge sums of money in the divorce courts and lose access to their children so he is averse to any legal contract and children for good reason.
11) Magdalena may never even have one baby.
Questions:
1) Do Magdalena's expectations meet her reality?
2) Is it possible that there is a conflict with what Magdalena was taught in Catholic Education Vs how she has chosen to live her life?
3) Is it possible that Magdalena is going to leave this boyfriend if she "believes" there is a new man that can meet her expectations and meet them quickly, especially as she gets older?
What you are witnessing could be something like Old Eastern European Catholic Values and Social Norms colliding with the Modern European Way (not that the modern European way is good or better by any means and maybe worse).
