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Joined: 1 Mar 2009 / Male ♂
Last Post: 14 Mar 2009
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mrgrumpy   
14 Mar 2009
Love / Different Attitudes of women born in Poland towards relationships? [20]

thank-you mafketis for taking the time to write; I think I found a broken one (polish girl that is!), some of what you write rings true whilst other things help my confusion, your last paragraph makes me sit back and think for a moment. I do very much appreciate an external opinion.

we have been seeing each other on-and-off for about 4 years, and it reached the status of off recently. One of out first dates was traveling to Paris for the weekend, and we repeat this habit with going to many different places with each other. This accumulated into an invitation to come see her and her family in Poland. I've never been sure what she's felt for me until recently, where things started to accumulate to the point where I needed to confront her again about her feelings. We have shared some very special moments together with each other and she was my partner in crime, no matter how much her life changed she'd always have the intention of keeping me in it.

She has always insisted we are friends, but whenever the subject would come up, or I'd try to have a discussion with her about feelings, she would reacted very badly; avoiding the whole issue by either running away or just refusing to have the discussion at all. This is how things currently are. The closest I ever got to the truth was a story about an ex who hospitalized himself and this was the reason behind her behavior, but I'm beginning to question whether this is true or not, although this information was not presented to me easily on her part. I've always felt if I had kept my mouth shout and not tried to press the subject that the relationship would have reached its natural point.

I think I shall stop posting here; this subject is getting far too personal for an internet forum and I'm not quite ready to deal with things nor may this be appropriate. I'm just looking for answer and I think I got something in relation to wondering if her behavior was cultural or not (it quite clearly is not cultural!) I need too find a healthy way of dealing with all the mess.

again thank-you so much for the replies, I've been lurking for a bit and you seem like a nice bunch of people.
mrgrumpy   
13 Mar 2009
Love / Different Attitudes of women born in Poland towards relationships? [20]

thanks for the replies. I'm trying not to generalise as best I can, but I think I need a little help in trying to work this girl out. We have had a complicated relationship going on, and I really wanted to confirm to myself if that was as a result of cultural differences and if I could of approached the situation any better.

finding out what she expects of me has been difficult, it has been very hot and cold, on and off and recently I tried to confront her and it did not go well; To the point where I may have to consider moving on. its a terribly complicated situtation to explain and frankly could wear out my keyboard!!

One day I would really like to get to the end of my learning polish cd's and practise a little polish in the country itself; until recently we had been teaching each others language to each other (incidentally, if anybody is interested teaching your language to another person is a nice way to get to know them better, always carry a notepad and pencil with you!)

The annoying thing is, I now have a finely tuned Polish woman detector as I work in London the damn thing keeps mis-firing. I find the accent most attractive, and if the attitude towards life is common and similar to the girl I met, I would very much like to met somebody else from Poland!
mrgrumpy   
9 Mar 2009
Love / Different Attitudes of women born in Poland towards relationships? [20]

In general, do Polish women have a different attitude towards dating and relationships than elsewhere (such as in the UK)..?

are boyfriend/girlfriend relationships more casual, is the process of courting any different?

How do friendship/relationships compare, is one more important than the other? I would guess that it depends on the circumstances..

sorry about all the questions, sometime ago I met somebody from Poland who is very important to me and sometimes I think its a requirement to be some sort of mind reader to figure out how I fit into her life.
mrgrumpy   
1 Mar 2009
Love / Nice Polish women photos [329]

[quote=JacekinLAnNY]I thought it would be a good idea to show some pretty Polish women to our foreign friends./quote]
yes, I know I've never seen an airplane like it before!!

;-)