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Paulina   
22 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

@Novichok, in case you are too lazy or unwilling to search for it by yourself:

rbth.com/arts/2014/01/22/the_women_behind_great_russian_writers_32453

theguardian.com/books/2009/jun/02/sofia-tolstoy-diaries
Paulina   
22 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

Everything worth having today was invented and created by "conservative men".

Firstly, that's not true:

bluehost.com/blog/6-great-women-inventors-who-have-made-life-easier-for-you/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=genericsearch&gclsrc=aw.ds&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5tv-n_6S9gIVz4myCh2S3wPYEAAYASAAEgJm5_D_BwE

Secondly, of course all kinds of inventions, art, history even, etc. were made mainly by men in the past. As Atch already wrote, women in the past were denied even the most basic education, independence and all kinds of rights (that's the case even nowadays in some parts of the world), so how and what were they supposed to "invent"? lol I'm guessing that all they could "invent" was the traditional food that we enjoy to this day, since it was women who were mainly doing the cooking. And probably many herbal remedies.

So, Novichok, what's your point exactly? Because all you're showing is in what crappy situation women were in the past (and still are in some parts of the world). It just shows that in the past (and still nowadays in some parts of the world) to men women were basically subhumans.

OK, I was wrong. Women made their contribution...by nagging their men that it will not work

Yes, you were wrong. Btw, you seem to forget that usually behind every of those "great men" stood their wife, who was taking care of him, his kids and the household, so he could invent and create all he wanted in peace. Some wives were doing even more than that. I would suggest you to get acquainted with the plight of Tolstoy's wife, for example.

bow you head in shame at denigrating the courage and character of those women who volunteered to care for the wounded and dying

Novichok and others like him have no shame. That's the problem.

Real men don't hate and fear women :)

Exactly :)

Atch, great post, btw :) 👏
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

Not to judge their relationship.

Why not? I know their relationship better than anyone else. What kind of relationship the parents have also has an impact on their kids. So, sorry, but I have the right to have an opinion.

Often enough. What does it matter?

Well, that's the topic of the current discussion. What does "often enough" mean according to a man? I'm curious.

Your mother has a problem.

No sh1t, Sherlock lol

Is your mother such a good wife>?

Yes, she is. That's the thing - she's always been a better wife than a mother, so my father could do sth to repay her for all those years.

If it is too much for her to take care of her grandkid, she shouldn't agree to do that.

Well, that's what I told her. I guess it's not that it's too much for her, but it would be easier for her if she didn't have to do almost everything by herself. It's not only about taking care of the grandchild, but all the rest.

She is venting. Just let her.

It doesn't change the fact that she has good reasons to vent. She's doing much more work than my father. And that's why I wrote about it - as an example showing that what Poloniusz wrote is far from the truth.
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

Wrong, after work I was often doing housework and took care of the children..

How "often"?

Yes, that works better for her and her mother

And for you lol

It is not my place to judge my parents? Of course it is. What they were and are like had and will be having a big impact on me and my life, whether I want it or not. Just like it will be your kids place to judge you, whether you like it or not.

Not enough to do something for her

How do you know? I do help her, if I can, within reason though. I took care of the kid when my father had to suddenly go to the hospital and my mother started panicking and couldn't focus on the child. I also used to help my niece, when she was younger and my mother was going all psycho on her, taking out her anger and frustrations on the poor kid. I had to do it, because my father wouldn't react. I can't be there 24/7 though.

It is not his duty either

It is his duty to be a good husband though.

They are fine. Just leave them alone

Yeah? Then why don't you tell my mother to stop complaining to me about my father's behaviour. You think I like hearing about this and worrying about her? It's been like this all my life.

And I'm not "getting ahead of myself". Read my post #332, because I'm not going to repeat myself.

Seems to me you have issues not your family.

Then you're wrong. I'm not telling everything about my family. Only what I think is relevant to this topic.
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

@Novichok, one time she actually did answer my question... Her answer was: "What if he leaves me for another woman, if I don't make those sandwiches?"

*facepalm*
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

@johnny_reb, I'm not "sticking my nose" in their lives. It's my mother who's complaining to me about my father's behaviour. Also, sometimes when I'm around, I can see it with my own eyes. Besides, I know what my father is like, so there's no surprise.

And it doesn't look like this "old day tradition" is working for my mother, considering her mental state. She's clearly disappointed with my father's behaviour and she's saying stuff like "I have enough of everything already". Earlier she was even saying stuff like "Maybe it would be better if I died already".

My parents are adult people, it's their life, so I usually don't get involved. I just sometimes ask my mother, after she complains, why won't she tell him to make those sandwiches. Or, if I'm around, I'll suggest gently to my father that maybe it would be a good idea to make those sandwiches for her after she comes back from shopping. That's all I can do. I'm not their mother.
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

Go for it and then come back and start talking sense.

Right after you try the life of a working Polish woman :) - doing two jobs, one at work and one at home. I can see by the tone of your comments concerning taking care of children, cooking and housework that all of that was done by your ex-wife when you were still married, so you don't know what it's like. I'm also guessing that after divorce your daughter stayed with her mom, right?

That would make you a person I would respect.

LOL
You've got to be kidding me :D Would you resign from your job and taking care of your own family in order to live with your parents and help your mother in taking care of your niece? My brother and his wife aren't invalids. My mother takes care of my niece if they're both working. She offered herself to do that, because she's retired and so she has the time. In fact, she retired earlier so my sister-in-law could go back to work, although I advised my mother not to do this, since she'd get lower retirement because of that.

Is that your sister/brother child? Its your family how can you be so cold?

LOL
I love my niece, but I'm just one of her relatives - she has parents and grandparents who can take care of her. If my brother and sister-in-law died and my parents weren't able to take care of her then it would be my duty to take up the daily care of her. Since they are all alive and well - it's not my duty.

You can be selfish and bitter about your father

How am I being selfish about my father?? lol

, but your father has no right to live as he wants after his children become adults?

You mean - after his children became adults he can continue to be a lousy husband and a crappy grandfather? Well, sure he can lol But then I can call it the way it is - that he's a lousy husband and a crappy grandfather.

Btw, if my father doesn't want to help my mother in taking care of his own granddaughter, he could at least help his own wife by doing the shopping, by making supper for her when she's tired after a whole day of taking care of a small, lively kid. But he wasn't and isn't doing that. Do you understand?

If I can understand that my mother is tired (you don't have to be a telepath for that) and it would be simply basic human decency to at least make some sanwiches for her for supper after she comes back tired and hungry (because she didn't manage to eat dinner) from shopping, then why my father can't understand that? Is he a moron? Or a selfish, lazy, inconsiderate a$$hole?
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

Sounds more like he as in the "person" has issues.

Then there were and are quite a few such male "persons" in my family and outside of it...

wether it had to do with lost love

Oh, Oathy... ;D What a romantic you are lol

I wouldn't ask those questions when he is near his wife (just in case, so he can be as frank as overly possible).

Sorry, but me and my brother don't talk about personal or difficult stuff with our father. We don't have much of a bond with him. Also, we don't have such talks in our family in general. My father's drinking problem (and of other men in our family) was always a taboo, so me and my brother had noone to talk about it.

A weekend trip, asking how he is doing and if everything is all right.

lol
Oh, he's all right, don't you worry. Psychologically he's doing much better than my mother. Also, he never asked me or my brother how we were or are doing or what his drinking and lack of interest and affection towards us has done to us, so why should I ask him "if everything is all right"? It's enough that I take much greater interest in his health than he takes in mine, even though my health problems are more serious than his.

Grandpa can be as valuable an asset to the family as grandma.

Yup.

But as I wrote in my #297 post my father is already a grandpa. And to some extent he is a better grandpa than he was a father - at least he isn't drinking anymore, for example...
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

@maf, you have a point, but... I'll put it like this... Unlike my father, who could sit most of the day in an armchair and watch TV or browse the internet on his phone, my mother moves a lot. She's doing stuff, making sandwiches for breakfast and supper, she's cleaning, doing laundry both by hand and with the washing machine, she's playing with my niece, she's taking her to the playground and for walks. She doesn't have a driving license, so she's going everywhere on foot. My father is going almost everywhere by car. He smokes a lot, more than my mother, he abused alcohol for most of my life, he uses a lot of salt and there's no way of talking him into eating more healthy - I've tried. Green stuff is "food for goats" according to him. His cholesterol and sugar levels are above the norm (his father was a diabetic who died of a heart attack, btw). He goes outside basically only when my mother asks him to help her out with some bigger shopping and when he goes to the doctor. He will eat an apple only when my mother peels it for him - he's too lazy to do it by himself.

Who do you think will live longer?
Paulina   
9 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

Don't you have a father?

Can't you read?

If you claim that only women worked hard you lie.

I didn't claim that. Actually, it was Poloniusz who claimed that only men work hard and women don't. He even went as far as claiming that after women retire they become even more "idle in society" than when they were working, which is simply a lie. My post was only a response to his outrageous and unfair claims and lies about women.

Also, I don't think anyone compared taking care of children and house to working in a coal mine, so why are you arguing with points that noone made?

Actually, working in a coal mine is in some ways better. You get paid for it. You get retirement money for it. And once you're done, you can go home and rest (if you're a man, that is).

Why? Is she forced to do it? Why don't you do it then to help her out?

Yes, she is, because noone else will do that for her. Are you saying that I'm supposed to live with my parents and resign from my own life in order to help my mother take care of someone else's kid, because my father, who lives with her, is too lazy and selfish to help her out? Are you serious?

If a man would pile on women as much as you do you would call him sexist.

LOL
My post was only a rebuttal of Poloniusz's misogynistic lies. And, unlike him, I only described reality. It's funny that you objected to what I wrote, but you didn't react in any way to Poloniusz's unfair comments about women. I'm afraid it shows what a hypocrite you are.
Paulina   
7 Feb 2022
Life / Has feminism and lesbianism progressed in Poland? [644]

then enjoy just over two decades of being paid to be even more idle in society than the little effort they put in while "working."

"Idle"?? You have some nerve, Poloniusz, or you don't really live in Poland. Unlike men, women in Poland have two jobs - one is a regular job that they're being paid for and a second one - at home that they're doing for free. Men where I live, especially from my parents generation, do basically NOTHING at home. It's the women who are taking care of kids and do everything around the house: cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, washing the dishes or even doing freaking everyday shopping, despite working professionally!

And it was always my mother that was working harder than my father even at her regular job!

And after all of that hard work, once she retired - do you think she gets to have some rest? No freaking way! She has to take care of her granddaughter, 5 days a week, and sometimes also on Saturday, if my brother and his wife want to go to a cinema or sth. Do you think my father is helping my mother? No, he isn't. He sometimes prepares water for the kid to drink and that's it. My mother is doing all the rest, including taking her to the playground, lifting her, carrying her, etc. despite her age and her back and hip problems. I remember I was present once at parents' place when after a long day of taking care of her granddaughter my mother went to do shopping at the supermarket - she went back with a shopping cart with sth like eight packages of toilet paper rolls + other shopping, tired, hungry, with her back aching... and she found my father sitting in an armchair with supper (sandwiches) that he made for himself and watching TV... but he didn't prepare anything for her... Even though that during their marriage she was always preparing sandwiches for him for breakfast, for supper and even for work... I've never seen him doing that for her. And that was one of very few moments when my mother "complained" and asked why didn't he make any sandwiches for her...

and we are yet to see any feminist or lesbian stand up and fight for progress and true equality between men and women.

Oh, I'll be the first to do that when I'll see that there's a reason to stand up for men in this area. Because for now I don't see any - certainly not where I live.

Also, you seem to be forgetting about something - due to the fact that women live longer they're getting lower retirement pensions. So after years of doing two jobs (and thus working harder than men and contributing more to the society than men), they're not only getting less money than men, but also, unlike men, they can't rest, because they have to take care of the grandkids and the house.

And men die earlier, because they smoke like chimneys, abuse alcohol, don't want to eat healthy and don't want to go to the doctors (=my father in a nutshell).

Oh, and btw... My niece is 5 years old now and she's attending a kindergarten, but still my mother has to pick her up at 2 pm, give her dinner and play with her until her mother comes for her. Once my niece was asked at the kindergarten to draw her family. She drew only her mom and grandma, despite the fact that she also had a dad and a grandad. Draw conclusions for yourself...

This is why men like you simply make me sick...
Paulina   
7 Feb 2022
Life / Paintings of artists from Poland? [127]

If anyone is going to be in Radom or in the area - an interesting art show titled "Woman" just opened in the Jacek Malczewski's Museum (you can visit it from the 4th of February till the 22nd of June 2022) - many artists contributed to it:

news.niezlasztuka.net/event/kobieta-wspolczesni-artysci-pamieci-anny-bilinskiej/

For example, a painting of Tomasz "Alen" Kopera has it's "premiere" there.

Marzena Machaj also painted this for the show:

instagram.com/p/CZmPD07IuhB/

This art show was organised to honour the memory of the first Polish female painter who got an academic art education and international recognition - Anna Bilińska-Bohdanowicz. Such art show dedicated to women was her unfulfilled dream:

notesfrompoland.com/2021/06/29/anna-bilinska-the-groundbreaking-19th-century-artist-who-defied-adversity-to-inspire-others/

autoportret

Anna Bilińska-Bohdanowicz - self-portrait.
Paulina   
28 Jan 2022
History / Why Poland is not Russia [192]

@Vlad1234, what does it matter how big the area is? It shows what Russia is capable of - that's the point.
Paulina   
16 Jan 2022
News / Security issues in Poland [11]

@Miloslaw, well, yes, the situation in general isn't funny at all...
Paulina   
15 Jan 2022
News / Security issues in Poland [11]

Is it just me or does the Polish text does not read as if it had been written by a native speaker...

I've read that text only now and you're right - it doesn't look like written by a Polish native speaker - that "Ukrainiec!" alone betrayed them lol And, yes, it doesn't really make sense to address only one Ukrainian in such a message.

And what is "wspólna sieć" ("common web")? Did they mean the internet?

Russians or Bielorussians.

Who knows, maybe those were Belarusians - I would think Russians have better translators lol
It's rather funny actually ;D
Paulina   
14 Jan 2022
News / Security issues in Poland [11]

@maf lol

And check this out - a mass attack on Ukrainian government sites last night allegedely by Polish hackers (Ukrainians suspect Russians):
wiadomosci.wp.pl/ukraina-masowy-cyberatak-na-strony-rzadowe-hakerzy-zostawili-komunikat-po-polsku-6726238487919456a
Paulina   
14 Jan 2022
News / Security issues in Poland [11]

Huge data leak from the Polish military - about what the Polish army owns - from underwear to tanks:
wiadomosci.onet.pl/kraj/gigantyczny-wyciek-danych-z-wojska-ponad-17-mln-pozycji-w-internecie/1mknjtf

Also, hackers are using people's phone numbers and e-mail addresses to make fake bomb threats and death threats:
wiadomosci.wp.pl/operacja-kompromitacja-kto-probuje-osmieszyc-polskie-sluzby-6726030993075168a

It looks like the people targeted are mainly opposition politicians and journalists and specialists dealing with cyber security.

In 2020 the biggest Polish Police internet forum was also hacked:
dobreprogramy.pl/kto-stoi-za-atakiem-na-forum-policyjne-tropy-prowadza-do-dark-webu,6628708149130881a
Paulina   
13 Dec 2021
Study / Game industry studies in Poland. What university would be the best choice? Is it possible to study for free? [19]

@ImmortalizedRyan, Atch already provided excellent info and advice (it looks like she has insider knowledge :)).

It's true that game industry has a tendency (I'm not saying that everybody is like that though) to exploit the people who make the actual content for their games. It's because they know that this is those people's passion and they're ready to work for peanuts just to be able to do what they love. Competition is also high, which makes those people fairly easily replacable. But I know that if this is what you want to do in life then there's no stopping you, so... good luck :)

Btw, a friend of mine from Warsaw studied Japanese Studies at the Polish Japanese Academy, but she has rich parents, so yeah, it's expensive, unfortunately...

I've found an article about Polish universities where you can study making games, it's a bit old (2015), but maybe you'll find it useful:

gram.pl/news/2015/02/11/chcesz-robic-gry-sprawdz-gdzie-sie-tego-nauczysz.shtml

And, of course, Atch is right about making your own small games (or taking part in some group indie projects, because being able to work in a team is also important, I think). In the end your future employers will be interested in what you can do and not what diploma you have or don't have. But you probably already know that :)
Paulina   
10 Dec 2021
History / Polish Atlantis (pre-war Warsaw, Poland in pictures). [38]

@zabrapolish, here's an interesting site about this battle with photos (the author wrote a book about it):

m.facebook.com/Tropem-pancernych-boj%C3%B3w-Lis%C3%B3w-Morawica-Radomice-112624960297814/

And here:

m.facebook.com/Kielce-1945-75-lecie-bitwy-pancernej-Lis%C3%B3w-Morawica-Kielce-105835517618716/?__tn__=CH-R

The village of Lisow was destroyed in the fighting and was more than likely rebuilt to look more modern.

From what I've read the church was badly damaged, but wasn't destroyed entirely. My mother told me that we were driving through Lisów when going from Kielce to my grandma in the countryside, so the village is still there (I don't know how much of it was rebuilt though).

I haven't found any pre-war photos yet, but I'll post it if I find anything. Btw, a Polish forum about WWII would probably be a good place to ask about such stuff - there should be some people who know English there: dws.org.pl
Paulina   
8 Dec 2021
UK, Ireland / Why are Polish people, especially women, so disrespectful toward the English? [437]

lots of immigrant groups may seem arrogant, uppity, yes, even disrespectful towards the majority inhabitants of the "new" country

I can't say this about any of the Polish women I wrote about. One of them is my best friend who was always interested in British culture and her English was already very fluent before she went to the UK.

For me either (in Germany)

It may depend on the kind of work you do and maybe also how long you've been living there. Some time ago I read an article about Polish nurses working in Germany as caretakers in private homes and as far as I remember they were often (or maybe still are, I don't remember) getting exploited.

I am not a woman (...) English people on the street are usualy very polite and they help you when you ask

I think visiting a given country as a tourist may be a bit different than doing a menial job there as a young and attractive woman from a poorer country.

I get an impression that you and Lyzko may be thinking that Polish women mentioned here somehow deserved the treatment they got? How do you "deserve" sexual harassment though?
Paulina   
7 Dec 2021
UK, Ireland / Why are Polish people, especially women, so disrespectful toward the English? [437]

@anglos, I'm sorry to hear that she went through all of that. This sounds horrible, tbh. Unfortunately, to some extent it sounds familiar - all the attractive Polish women that I know who worked in the UK (and in Italy) experienced sexual harassment and some of them also name-calling, etc.

she takes no **** now

Good. It's also great that she has someone like you by her side :) Send best regards and hugs from me to your partner and I wish the two of you all the best :)) Stay strong and happy, enjoy your life and ignore toxic people (Poland has a fair share of them too, btw).

💪😎🇵🇱🇬🇧🙂
Paulina   
21 Nov 2021
Travel / Poland in photo riddles - part 2 [1680]

She smiles because she knows what coming (...) independance

In a way you've partly guessed it - she's smiling because of independence, but not one that will happen in the future, but one that is already there. This painting was painted in 1918 :)

@pawian, yes, exactly, you've solved the riddle :)) This is "Polonia I" by Jacek Malczewski. You can see it in the National Museum (The Palace of the Kraków Bishops) in Kielce :)

The crown that she's wearing is supposed to resemble a historic Polish crown. The coat on her arms is an army coat worn by Poles sent to Syberia and her black veil is probably a sign of mourning due to all the lives sacrificed to regain her freedom. The man with a broken chain on his leg in the backround (wearing the same coat) symbolises an area of enslavement going into the past. She's also washing her hands of blood, which I guess was meant to symbolise the end of Poles' sacrifice for the freedom of Poland (another interpretation is that she's taking off a violet glove):

polonia
Paulina   
21 Nov 2021
Travel / Poland in photo riddles - part 2 [1680]

@pawian
lol Nope ;) She is happy about getting her crown back though :) What does getting that crown back symbolise?

@Alien, nope, but close... She's a personification of something. Of what?