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softhearted63   
7 Aug 2010
Love / Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this? [262]

I have been going out with a Polish girl for just over a year now. She is a number of years younger than me, attractive, intelligent and interesting. We do have our happy times, and we adore each other. However, I am convinced she is actually crazy: she seems almost to enjoy conflict; she wants to control every aspect of my life; she is extremely distrusting and jealous; she is very temperamental; and, most frustratingly of all, she is NEVER wrong, and EVERYTHING is always my fault. A couple of weeks ago during an argument she actually hit me.

To be honest, she treats her friends much better than she treats me.

Is this the price one pays for having a good-looking Polish girl? Are many of them as crazy as this? Is this common, or is she a one-off? Can anyone offer sensible advice (preferably based on experience)? I really like her, and I think the most beautiful Polish girls are amazing to look at, but the whole thing is driving me crazy. Help!
softhearted63   
7 Aug 2010
Love / Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this? [262]

I started the thread. I know it's a sweeping generalisation even to attempt to say that something is a Polish trait in particular - it's just that she often justifies her behaviour as being down to 'cultural differences' and so on (and of course, she's always right - what a wonderful excuse). And she has mentioned that her Polish female friend has similar problems with her Scottish partner, so I started to wonder about other Polish women. In terms of beauty being subjective, true, but I've yet to come across a man who doesn't think she is (visually) stunning. However, I'm beginning to wonder if having a model on my arm is worth all the hassle, the conflict and the stress. Is it perhaps true what Woody Allen said that great beauty drives a woman mad?
softhearted63   
8 Aug 2010
Love / Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this? [262]

That was a long, considered and thoughtful answer - cheers.

In fact, the relationship is pretty emotional/passionate, and I do stand up to her (I've had to learn). I just find the whole thing tiring (and, frankly, conflict is getting boring). I think I keep the relationship going simply because I've never given up believing that there is a really nice peron in there somewhere, perhaps buried by issues from her past.

Anyway, appreciate your input.
softhearted63   
9 Aug 2010
Love / Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this? [262]

OK, I posted this thread and it seems to be unravelling.

The main point I'm picking up is that her behaviour is certainly not atypical for a Polish girl/beautiful girl/beautiful Polish girl.

I'm finding that I'm reading things I actually know already: for example, perhaps I've put up with more sh** because I am blinded by beauty (I'm a guy - you know, shallow that way). It is clear that - perhaps since coming to Britain - she has discovered physical beauty is a source of power, and that it can be used to manipulate men (me!); hardly anything new, I suppose.

It is worrying. She has brought out the worst in me (I hate conflict - she thrives on it), and has gradually eroded my faith in my previous vain hope that a physically beatiful woman can also be sweet, a little modest, pleasant, even 'normal'. Which is sad, because I do want a nice personality, shared interests and beliefs etc., but unfortunately I am also a sucker for natural beauty (not the fake tan/big t*ts/square white fingernails kind). A dilemna.

However, my gut feeling is that she has to go. She does not make me happy, and I find it virtually impossible to picture any viable future with her. Sad.

Anyway, thanks for the more thoughtful contributions. And if you are a naturally beautiful Polish girl who also thinks she is normal and pleasant, do feel free to contact me. ;)

Cheers
softhearted63   
24 Aug 2010
Love / Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this? [262]

I originally posted this thread.

Well, it's over. I just couldn't stand it any more.

She was suffocating me with accusations, dreadful comments about any female acquintance. She was a time-bomb; if things weren't going her way, big trouble.

I have to admit - and this is difficult to say - she was bullying me, using her 'value' as a beautiful young women to emotionally blackmail me.

It's fresh. I hurt. I miss the nice things. But I simply could not live my life with this madness - pretty on the outside, rotten to the core.

Thank you all for good advice - advice which really only confirmed my gut feelings.

Any genuinely 'nice' Polish ladies out there? I'd love to hear from you. Prove me wrong.

Thank you.
softhearted63   
12 Feb 2011
Love / Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this? [262]

Your considered and mature comments are appreciated. And I'm not naive enough to think that one can stereotype a whole nation on the basis of one lunatic. That's the problem with men in general (including myself, I admit) - we're suckers for a pretty face. :/