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15 Dec 2015
Genealogy / What are common Polish character traits? [425]
Paulina, goodness me, you're in a right old state aren't you?
But no more so than loads of other posters on this forum including some Poles. What about our friend Ktos for example?
We all bring our own 'issues' (awful word but useful) to discussions. InPolska has hers as a result of her life experience and you have yours, the above statement being an example. You feel strongly that Poles are disrespected in some way here on this forum and probably in general too. You're extremely touchy and quick to pick up on anything you perceive as anti-Polish.
No, but your comment was dismissive of another human being's pain. People say a lot of over the top things on this forum but it's all very superficial. So let's talk about something real.
I don't feel that comfortable discussing another member's personal life but did it occur to you that InPolska's attitudes to Poland and Polish people are coloured by the fact that she settled here because she married a Pole. Then he passed away prematurely. There comes a point where your life is so firmly established in another country that returning to your own is too big and uncertain a step to take and that was probably the case for her. She had to face the loss of her husband and either uproot herself from her life or make the best of things here. That's what she decided to do but I would say that she feels some bitterness towards the hand that life dealt her and is not completely happy with her choice ,so every little irritation that she could ignore or laugh off assumes greater significance for her.
Now InPolska doesn't show much empathy or understanding of others herself, but it has to start with one person. Why can't you be that person? If all human beings would try to see things a bit more from each other's point of view they can move away from pointless arguments that lead nowhere and actually achieve something. I hope you're not really as upset as you sound but being married to a Pole I know how you guys can carry on with the dramatics. I think it's the old blood of Genghis Khan coursing through those Slavic veins......just teasing you, ok, before you have a fit!
Paulina, goodness me, you're in a right old state aren't you?
Her comments often are outrageous, to the point of being moronic.
But no more so than loads of other posters on this forum including some Poles. What about our friend Ktos for example?
is it OK to write just anything about Poles, no matter how untrue and outrageous it is?
We all bring our own 'issues' (awful word but useful) to discussions. InPolska has hers as a result of her life experience and you have yours, the above statement being an example. You feel strongly that Poles are disrespected in some way here on this forum and probably in general too. You're extremely touchy and quick to pick up on anything you perceive as anti-Polish.
Is she supposed to not to be criticised for anything on this forum because her husband passed away at some point in her life?
No, but your comment was dismissive of another human being's pain. People say a lot of over the top things on this forum but it's all very superficial. So let's talk about something real.
I don't feel that comfortable discussing another member's personal life but did it occur to you that InPolska's attitudes to Poland and Polish people are coloured by the fact that she settled here because she married a Pole. Then he passed away prematurely. There comes a point where your life is so firmly established in another country that returning to your own is too big and uncertain a step to take and that was probably the case for her. She had to face the loss of her husband and either uproot herself from her life or make the best of things here. That's what she decided to do but I would say that she feels some bitterness towards the hand that life dealt her and is not completely happy with her choice ,so every little irritation that she could ignore or laugh off assumes greater significance for her.
Now InPolska doesn't show much empathy or understanding of others herself, but it has to start with one person. Why can't you be that person? If all human beings would try to see things a bit more from each other's point of view they can move away from pointless arguments that lead nowhere and actually achieve something. I hope you're not really as upset as you sound but being married to a Pole I know how you guys can carry on with the dramatics. I think it's the old blood of Genghis Khan coursing through those Slavic veins......just teasing you, ok, before you have a fit!